When I ask about a baby she says she wants to get married first...
Q. me and my girlfriend are to gether for 6 years i want baby from my girlfriend, my girlfriend told me she wants to have some fun first,in august of 2008 my girlfriend sent her son to ny with his aunt, and her daughter is with aunt,when i ask about ...
A. 26 August 2008: Well Sweetie, the answer is right there.... MARRY HER!
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She is already cheating on the guy I caught her with, what can I do to heal?
Q. I know I shouldn't care, but it is unbeleivable. I Thought I knew the her. I have lost faith. She has no heart and is only an unfaithful woman. She is already cheating on the guy I caught her with. What can I do to heal? I know i am better off w...
A. 26 August 2008: Oh Sweetie, thank your lucky stars that you weren't married to and rest assured that she will never stay faithful to any man. Perhaps a bit of counselling to help you cope with what has happened.
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Is he interested? Did I over-step boundaries by making the suggestion that we meet? Why does he never call, only emails?
Q. I met a man on personals site at the end of June. We chatted on-lin about every other day for about 6 weeks, then 3 weeks ago we met for coffee. We sat in the restaurant and talked for over 2 hours. When we parted ways, he said he would like to ...
A. 26 August 2008: Sweetie, sorry but it sounds like the guy was not really interested.... sounds like hes trying, in a nice a way as possible to tell you that there is nothing going to happen between the two of you.... so, Sweetie, keep searching and I am sure you ... (read in full...)
How do I know for sure that it meant more than just sex?
Q. When you have sex with a man that's married, how do you know if it meant more then sex? I asked him, and he said it meant more than just sex, but how do i know for sure?...
A. 26 August 2008: Sorry sweetie, no matter what stories the married man told you... it was just sex. If you want to know if it meant something, ask him to leave his wife for you......
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He wants to still date this other chick but he also wants me to just wait around. Do I wait or move on?
Q. Me ex split up with me about three months ago. I was his very first relationship ever and he didn't think he could go through with it knowing that there was a "what if". Our relationship was heading straight down the aisle and he didn't think he ...
A. 26 August 2008: Hello... is he serious??? Wait around while he dates another girl??? I think not!! Dont waste your time with him, go out and enjoy your life! Honeygirl... (read in full...)
I think my relationship is falling apart because I support sex after marriage...
Q. I am 18 yrs old and im a virgin... I've been in a relationship for about 7 mnths... im still havin problems givin it up... I told my boyf dat I blieve in sex after marriage... he still gave me a try but now I think my relationship is fallin appart...
A. 25 August 2008: Sweetie, I admire you wanting to stay a virgin until you get married! Okay, so I see it that your bf is only with you cos he wants sex.... if he really loved you he would wait until marriage to have sex. If he wants to move on, let him and wait ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my parents' reaction when I tell them of my gay relationship!
Q. im a 16 year old gay guy and my boyfriend is 17 and we really hit it off straight away wev been together for 9 months i really love him and he told me he loves me weve talked about coming out of the closet but im nervous about it not sure if my ...
A. 25 August 2008: Sweetie, this is a difficult one... firstly, dont worry what people will say... everyone has the choice in life who they want to love... Okay... cannot tell you how your parents will react... sometimes parents find it hard to come to terms with ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that something is going behind my back?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 year now, since high school. we were eachothers first everything. I know that he loves me, and I know that he always will. He still tells me that he wants to marry me and wants to have kids with me. I believe him. ...
A. 25 August 2008: Sweetie, sounds like he has got so used to you that he is taking you for granted. These issues need to be sorted out before considering marriage. You need to discuss this with him and ask him to attend relationship counselling with you.. I dont ... (read in full...)
My husband has become more and more withdrawn with the passing years. Now the kids are grown ups, is it worth me staying? How can I make him change?
Q. I've been married for 26 years and for about 6 or 7 years my husband has got more and more withdrawn - we exchange information but don't really talk, we haven't had sex in that time and he goes to the pub every night (he says its only for the last ...
A. 25 August 2008: Sweetie, I understand your concerns, I have also been married for 26 years and must admit that you have to keep working at a relationship to make it work. A suggestion would be to go for marriage counselling so that you can try and understand what ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might lose my boyfriend because his father objects to our gay relationship.
Q. Hi Im 18 year old guy im gay and ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year i really love him and we decided to come out my parents were ok they were happy but his father hasnt really accepted it he went right off and after that my boyfrien...
A. 25 August 2008: Sweetie, I think that you are going to have to be patient on this one... your bf's father is probably having a really hard time dealing with his son being gay.... His father might be putting a bit of pressure on him, perhaps hoping that your bf ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend who leaves me stranded at work and is meeting other women on dating sites?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 years. He goes out when i am at work and leaves me there stranded ( we only have one vehicle). He is on many dating sites and always changes his password, when he figures i know to much to who (the other w...
A. 25 August 2008: Sweetie, this guy is a User and a Looser - dump him and move on with your life. You dont need to put up with his nonsense and lack of respect for you.
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My boyfriend wrote a poem for me, can you explain what it means please?
Q. my boyfriend who is soon leaving for boot camp wrote this poem. i'm not very well at understanding poetry. So, i cannot tell whether it does with me or not. could someone explain to me what this poem may mean; 'love is an unexpected flower that c...
A. 25 August 2008: This is so sweet, sounds like your boyfriend is going to miss you!! Honeygirl... (read in full...)
My husband called out our 16 month old daughter's name during sex!
Q. What does it mean when my husband called out our 16 month old daughter's name during sex? My husband and I have a 16 month old daughter. During sex, he called out her name by accident instead of my name, saying, "Oh-----------, I love you!" ...
A. 25 August 2008: Sweetie, personally I think it was just a reflex thing... he was so wrapped up in his lovemaking that he didnt realise what he was saying.... I have even heard of men calling out their dog's name... Honeygirl... (read in full...)
I need to know if it meant something by me having sex with another man.
Q. I had sex with another man, how do i know if it meant something? He's married with 2 children, i've got a boy friend and 2 kids. But the feelings i have seem more then just sex and he was really loving. Please help....
A. 25 August 2008: Sweetie, yes it did mean something, it meant that you cheated on you bf and the other man cheated on his wife! Honeygirl... (read in full...)
My friend hinted at us being together in different circumstances, so now I felt betrayed to know he had sex with another...
Q. hey ive been talking to this guy online for nearly a year now me and him are really close we know basically everything about each other he is 23 and im 16 were really good friends, but he always tells me how much he wants to be with me and if m...
A. 18 August 2008: Sweetie, you dont have a relationship with this guy.... he is just someone on the internet that will tell you anything you want to know! Rather try and have a relationship with a real-life person!!! Sorry about being so blunt...
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Should I give my boyfriend more space?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for approx. 6 months and we used to spend a lot of time together, but I've been getting a lot of hints from him recently telling me to give him space - well at least I think it's "space" and not a "break". ...
A. 15 August 2008: Mmmm... think its time to sit down and talk to your boyfriend and find out whats troubling him. Maybe he is trying to tell you that he wants out of the relationship or maybe he just wants some time to do things with his friends... The only way to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me by his ex's name. Would you tolerate it?
Q. Would you tolerate the person in your life,your loved one,to by mistake call you by a ex's name?My fiance was married to a Liezel for thirteen years and my name is Lizel.Is it just because both start wit and L and am I just making too much of ...
A. 15 August 2008: Sweetie, your name and her name are so similar, could have just been a slip of the tongue. Forgive him this time but if it happens again, gently remind him who you are or better still let him rather call you by your pet name, just so that there is ... (read in full...)
I like my aunt very much, and would like to do something with her. What should I do??
Q. The thing is, I'm starting to want to have sex with her, I can't resist it, shes gorgeous and sexy. I have spent time alone with her when I got to visit, and we have stayed talking for a time.I have helped some times in her house, too. I also have ...
A. 15 August 2008: Okay.... so you call her Aunt... what is her relationship to the family - mother's sister or father's sister??? If so maybe not such a good idea..... but if shes just a family friend who is called Aunt.. well then let her make the move on you.... ... (read in full...)
Sex god or good guy?
Q. SO: i am a 15 (almost 16) girl. there are two guys that are really into me-both are about my age. the first one is rly into sex-he's no virgin, and is rly bold. the second is a little more laid back, and idk weither he's had sex before, although i ...
A. 15 August 2008: Oh boy.... okay the nice guy is the one you go for if you want a relationship.... the other guy is the one you go for if all you want is sex.... To be honest, the one guy sounds like a player, the other sounds like the kind of guy that is stab... (read in full...)
Cant get it out of my head, its hurting me! Why do I feel like this?
Q. its my birthday today. This girl i really like, well for her birthday i spent over £20 and she appreciated it. We are really friends but haven't spoken unless i ring her. She saw me out with friends and found out from them its my bday. I was so d...
A. 15 August 2008: Sweetie, your friends are right, you need to forget about her, seems that she is not interested in you and that you have to do all the running after her! After spending money on her for her birthday, I would think it would be common courtesty to ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with Beyoncé...
Q. i can't stop loving beyonce, what the hell should i do?...
A. 14 August 2008: So she's gorgeous and vibrant... who wouldnt think that they are in love with her??? Unfortunately you will have to love her from afar, as like most of us.. we lust after a famous person [or two] but theres nothing to be done about it......
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My BF who is Buddhist will be living in a hermitage in the middle of nowhere - should I join him??
Q. I just wondered if anybody had any words of 'wisdom' for me. My boyfriend of a year has just gone into retreat - he is a Buddhist. He will be living at a hermitage in the middle of nowhere for an indefinite period - a year minimum. We are still '...
A. 14 August 2008: Sweetie, if his calling is to be a Buddist then let him go and do what he has to do. If you decide to join him then you must not do it just to be with him, but because you want to become a Buddist.
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At my first attempt of sex I did not penetrate her properly, should I worry?
Q. My penis size is 35mm width, 9cm length and I don’t know whether it is enough to satisfy a teenage girl. I only had sex once in my life with a virgin girl and the problem is that I did not penetrate properly is like my penis just entered 3cm.Please ...
A. 14 August 2008: Sweetie, you must relax and not put so much pressure on yourself. The next time you have sex make sure your partner is ready for you, dry sex is very uncomfortable and not pleasant for either party. Alternatively use some lubricant to help with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I smell more fishy when I eat a lot of fish. Does that really make sense?
Q. My boyfriend has told me that my vagina smells more fishy when I eat a lot of fish. I do eat a lot of fish, but I am struggling to understand what he says is correct. Is it true that a vagina will smell more fishy depending on the amount of fish ...
A. 14 August 2008: Sweetie, sounds like you have got an infection as your vagina should not smell 'fishy'. We each have our own smell but it should not be unpleasant and the discharge should not be smelly either. A visit to your doctor will sort this one out very ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is in a mess after he took someone's car.
Q. what must i do my boyfriend is in a big mess,he took someone's car just to please a fling woman to take her home,i found out about this after it happened and he told me the whole truth and i did forgave him but after punishing him. my problem is ...
A. 14 August 2008: Let me get this right, he took a car to impress some woman and you forgave him???? I really dont think you are selfish to not help him, he is in this situation because of his actions.
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I want another baby, but my husband says we can't afford it. Help!
Q. I'm 21 and my husband is 25 we have a 3yr old daughter and have been together for 6 yrs. Just recently I told him I wanna have another baby and he says no because we aren't financially set but then again when will be? I'm hurt and this is affecting ...
A. 14 August 2008: Sweetie, I would suggest that perhaps you discuss the financial situation with hubby to find out just how 'financially set' he wants to be before you can have another baby. You dont say if you are working, if not, try find a part time job to help ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex even though I'm just 13?
Q. ok im 13 and i want to have sex. i have a boyfriend, and we have been dating for about 4 months and i think i am ready he is 14 and is a freshman in high school i am still in middle school (8th grade). but my main question is, should i even though i...
A. 14 August 2008: NO! You are far too young and for that matter, so is your boyfriend.
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The guy I'm seeing tells me that hes not happy with his wife and the marriage is only on paper to him and she is just a roommate?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months now. He is married and i knew that the day i met him. Ive known him longer than ive been seeing him. I am in love with him and i know for sure he is my future. He was the one to say I love you first and ...
A. 14 August 2008: Sweetie, you have fallen for the oldest sob story in the book... "hes not happy with his wife and the marriage is only on paper to him and she is just a roommate". Has he filed for divorce - No, and thats because he is a cheating husband! The ... (read in full...)
What do women think about a guy thats 23 and still a virgin?
Q. What do women think about a guy thats 23 and still a virgin. thats my situation. im not ugly or fat....
A. 14 August 2008: Wow!!! A guy who is 23 and a virgin... so refreshing after reading about 12 and 13 year olds who seem to know more about sex than 35 or 40 year olds!! I am sure that when you meet the right woman she will really appreciate the fact that you are a ... (read in full...)
I want sex and my boyfriend doesn't. He doesn't seem to understand how I feel.
Q. I am in a bind and feel as though I am starting not to cope with things. I feel stupid writing this but the problem is I just want sex and my boyfriend doesn't. I can deal with that for a few days but beyond that it just makes me feel so down and ...
A. 13 August 2008: Okay, so you want sex and he doesnt.... you dont elaborate on what excuses he is using to avoid sex but I am sure that they are very valid to him. Rather focus on your relationship than on your sexual wants and needs.... maybe he feels pressurised ... (read in full...)
Would it be safe for us to have sex without a condom?
Q. my boyfriend and i are both 17 nd have only started having sex the last year or so. he's in the army and i want to finish my year 12 HSC first before i move away with him. he is totally cool with that. but he keeps asking me everytime we go to have ...
A. 13 August 2008: Sweetie, rather be safe than sorry... make sure he wears a condom every time you are intimate. In my country they have a saying "no love, no glove" it is a campaign to try and stop the transmission of STD's and HIV... So well done to you for ... (read in full...)
I started my periods and I don't know how to tell my mum.
Q. hello erm i dont really know how to put this but i started my periods. and i really dont know how to tell me mum! like she has a draw full of black pants and pads and things and i put on some of the black pants and put a pad on and yes im basically...
A. 13 August 2008: Mmmmm...... doesnt sound like you have a very open relationship with your mom, so what about casually asking her to "please get you some sanitary towels when she next goes to the pharmacy?". You dont really need to say more than that.... It is a ... (read in full...)
Is it over before it really began??
Q. Hello, Please help me. I have just been seeing a wicked guy for about a few weeks now. We have met up a few times and have discovered that we really get on. He used to text me all the time and we spoke on the phone for hours. He kept telling ...
A. 13 August 2008: Sweetie, yes it sounds like he is irresponsible.... if he was so interested in you he wouldnt be missing dates! Sorry, but it does seem that it is over before it even started!
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My soulmate married someone else. Do you think he will divorce like he told me? Can it work between us?
Q. Please. Please can someone give me some advice, as I feel like I am going insane and cannot cope anymore I met this man (my soulmate) 8 years ago and, and It was love (or a connection) at first sight, I remember sitting in the pub and being in...
A. 13 August 2008: Sweetie, you are were having an affair with a married man, who was happy with the situation as it was... he is not going to leave his wife for you. Better that you understand that he has probably moved on and is having another affair with someother ... (read in full...)
Is this considered sexual assault?
Q. I went on a date with this guy and he took me to dinner the first date. The second date we went dinner again. He keep asking me to go to his place after that. I didn't want to go but he said he's not going to do something that i don't like and ...
A. 13 August 2008: Sweetie, sounds like sexual assault - after asking him to stop and he didnt listen....mmmmmm.... glad you got out there before things got too out of hand. Dont ever see this man again or if you do see him, make sure that you are in a public place. ... (read in full...)
Was it an affair or a case of sexual harassment?
Q. Was it an affair or a case of sexual harassment? My privious post: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-was-working-as-a-nanny-but-was.html Here’s my story: I was interviewed and hired by the wife. I never met the husband before I started wo...
A. 13 August 2008: Sweetie, its only sexual harassment if the attention is unwanted... in your case sounds like you enjoyed the attention... in short..... an affair! Sorry to be so blunt!
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Says he's too busy to meet... so sad
Q. Hi.. I have a text/phone call/IM relationship going on with a guy who says he has feelings for me. Trouble, he says he works 7 days a week and long hours and don't have the time to meet. I asked him once if he could just meet me for 10 mins.. and at ...
A. 13 August 2008: Sweetie, sounds like this is a married man.... if he was keen on you he would make some time available to meet with you. Suggest you move on and forget about him.....
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I am irritated with my girlfriend because of her flaws, what should I do?
Q. I have a big problem. My girlfriend is lovely and everything but there are some things I don't like about her. I know this myght sound like bitching but most of the time she doesn't keep up her promise: she tries hard and everything but s...
A. 12 August 2008: We all have flaws, and unless we can accept each other just the way we are, with flaws and warts and moustache... we will never be happy. You say you love your gf, if this is the case you will try to accept the funny things she does, just as she ... (read in full...)
I accused my boyfriend of cheating, but I was wrong. How do I get him back?
Q. i recently accused my boyfriend of cheating on me when i later found out he wasnt now he isnt talkin to me i cant live without him how do i get him back? please help...
A. 12 August 2008: Oh dear! You will have to admit to him that you made a terrible mistake, and you are very very sorry and it will never happen again.... If he loves you there might be a chance that he will want to try again...
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I am so tired of the fighting... and the violence, that I am beginning to notice others. Should I feel guilty?
Q. I have been married for over a year and just had a daughter 5 months ago. I have been with my husband since high school I would like to start you at the very beginning so you understand how I feel. I was 16 and the phone rang it was one of my ex...
A. 11 August 2008: Sounds like it is time to get out of that relationship. He has started physically abusing you, so get out, there is just no negotiation on this one!
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I had sex with two men on the same day, became pregnant, lost the baby, my boyfriend, one of the two men, does not knpw I cheated, should I confess?
Q. Ok so a week ago I had a miscarriage, and well depression is on my side, actually I've been depressed ever since I found out I was prego. Im 18 years old and I just graduated high school, and I now go to uc davis, going into the dentist field. So ...
A. 11 August 2008: Oops... got yourself into a bit of an awkward spot there! Okay.. I suggest first of all, get some contraceptives so that you dont fall pregnant again and secondly, if you really and truely want to spend the future with your boyfriend, forget what ... (read in full...)
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