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writes:I have been going out with my boyfriend for approx. 6 months and we used to spend a lot of time together, but I've been getting a lot of hints from him recently telling me to give him space - well at least I think it's "space" and not a "break". Whenever I get around him, he always says a few words like, well, gotta get to class - bye. and whenever I say i want to hang out with him, he keeps saying "hang with your friends" (smiling). When i look at him, he tries to avoid eye contac (i think) and when we do look at each other, he just gives me a weak smile (he used to give me a HUGE smile). Do you think that these are signs for wanting space? or a sign for wanting a breakup? : ( He still talks to me and stuff, hugs me and kisses me(only when i ask for them) and rarely says i love you too when i say it to him. We still hang and talk about other stuff, but I'm just not sure whether he wants space or a breakup. I kind of feel that he needs space and i truly want to give it to him. But at the same time, I'm so scared that if i just give it to him, he'll just go and forget to come back to me : ( I love him soooooo much I really can't do without him.. What should I do? Does he want to break? (sorry i asked this question a lot)
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (15 August 2008):
 Mmmm... think its time to sit down and talk to your boyfriend and find out whats troubling him. Maybe he is trying to tell you that he wants out of the relationship or maybe he just wants some time to do things with his friends... The only way to find out is to talk to him!
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reader, HiswifeNlover  +, writes (15 August 2008):
 hey why dont you just sit down and talk to him about it.. tell him your concerened ... ask him if he wants space and see wat he says.. me and my husband went threw this .. guys no effence get real nervious when they get to close so the pull away and try to act tough.. but if you walk away he will want you back ... talking is the best thing i can say .. it help me and my husband.. and now look we are married ..
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (15 August 2008):
 I think they are signs he is feeling a little suffocated so yes I think that you should try and give him space hard though I know this is because in that space all the insecurities can grow like weeds in pavement cracks. I suggest that you find something to occupy your mind while the space is in play.
I dont think he wants a break-up from what you are saying although I could be wrong because the process of withdrawal is similar. I think you should try giving him space and see how it goes and go on from there; good luck :).
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