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writes:I met a man on personals site at the end of June. We chatted on-lin about every other day for about 6 weeks, then 3 weeks ago we met for coffee. We sat in the restaurant and talked for over 2 hours. When we parted ways, he said he would like to get together again, and I said I would like that. The next day I e-mailed my phone number to him, 2 days later he sent me an e-mail to let me know he was going out of town for the weekend and would contact me when he returned. I didn't hear from him for a week until he sent me another e-mail to let me know he had not been feeling well so had not been in touch earlier. Earlier that day I had my wisdom teeth removed and I let him know that. I did not hear from him again for another week when he once again informed me he was going out of town for the weekend. I sent him an e-mail yesterday evening suggesting this would be a food week (for me) to get together if he was still interested and if he had time. I haven't heard back from him.Now the rest of the story. I have a little bit of "stalker" tendency -- no I'm not checking out his house or work or anyplace I could get caught -- I have just checked out his profile on the personals service we both use. He was active on one occasion about 2 days after we met, and he hasn't been on the site since until last night, which would have been after he got my e-mail. Did an e-mail from me sent him running for the personals site? This is the first time I have suggested a meeting -- the first time we met it was his suggestion. Did I over-step boundaries by making the suggestion we get together? And the bigger question, when he has my phone number and never calls, but still continues to e-mail weekly, is he really interested or has e-mailing me become a habit he can't break? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think there is more to this situation than meets the eye. Does this man have school aged chilren? With the start of the school year, a single dad can be very busy. Whe you get an e-mail from him, is he asking any questions which encourage you to write back? This is a tough one, but I think you should keep looking just in case!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think there is more to this situation than meets the eye. Does this man have school aged chilren? With the start of the school year, a single dad can be very busy. Whe you get an e-mail from him, is he asking any questions which encourage you to write back? This is a tough one, but I think you should keep looking just in case!
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (26 August 2008):
 Sweetie, sorry but it sounds like the guy was not really interested.... sounds like hes trying, in a nice a way as possible to tell you that there is nothing going to happen between the two of you.... so, Sweetie, keep searching and I am sure you will find someone out there!
Honeygirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): I agree with Smilies. He doesn't sound overly interested in you and you deserve someone who is bordering on obsessed.
Thats how good things start...
I suggest you keep looking and move on. He might get back to you but if he does, ask him why it takes so long for him to get back, and take what he says with a pinch of salt. He could be married?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Dear Poster
You might not like to hear what I have to say, but based on the information supplied by you; I think this guy is just not that "into" you.
If he wanted to he could have made time to meet for coffee or a quick visit; just sending the odd email does not sound very encouraging to me; no more daily chats like before;
NO, I think you should MOVE ON; don't hold out any high hope with this guy; stay friends, but I don't think there is any "fireworks" in the pipeline.
Get out there and meet more people; you deserve somebody who really cares and will make time to be with you and to chat to you and treat you SPECIAL; as you are special and you deserve the best.
Best wishes and keep SMILING.
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