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28 May 2009: This is not a question this is my personal opinion for some things said to others onthus site... I have read and commented on a lot of different forums on here and there is always someone who gets on and criticizes the ones asking for advice. For ...
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My 6 year old daughter doesn't like me dating
Q. Am i wrong in making my daughter the centre of my universe?I have a 6yr old daughter,she is my only child.I spilt up with her dad just over a year ago.When i was with him he wasn't around much as a partner or a dad,so basically it was just me and ...
A. 8 June 2009: Been there done that... But my daughters are now 3 and 4! Their dad has nothing to do with them so its alittle easier. the new bf did things with them! When we were at my house he took them in the back yard and they would play mostly in the mud. He ... (read in full...)
Would texting a woman be classified as cheating?
Q. My fiance has treated me like crap for 4 months RUDE!!! I caught him texting a girl from work now that he's caught, he's being really nice and things are back to normal, I don't know what to think. In my book Texting another female and hiding it is ...
A. 4 June 2009: I agree it is forms of cheating and it is very wrong! Yes you do have choices but it all depends on where your heart lies. If you love him and think it will work ok but you have to give him a few choices to make. Or leave him and forget him its a ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad mom?
Q. I'm wondering if I'm a bad mother? My kids are 4 and 20 months. Both boys. My oldest is very hyper and we actually had him screened for ADHD and he isn't. But I swear he is! he bounces off walls. It doesn't matter what we do he's all over the place, ...
A. 4 June 2009: Ur blood pressure is very good! And feel lucky u have time for u! I don't work and my children r not in school yet. Lol it gets better you are far from being alone on this one. You ever need to chat about anything let us know I know I will be more ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to start dating before a divorce has been finalized?
Q. If one spouse is unfaithful to the other in marriage, when is it right for the honest one to date? Is okay when they have decided in thier heart they do not want to continue with the marriage, but are still married or when they finalize the divorce?...
A. 1 June 2009: I think it is fine. My ex husband dated before our divorce was even filed and I met a man 2 months after we separated and we dated for a while! So no there is no certain time to start. I was married 6 years and like 2 years into it I hated it he had ... (read in full...)
Could we all try to have a little empathy, for those who ask questions on this site?
Q. This is not a question this is my personal opinion for some things said to others onthus site... I have read and commented on a lot of different forums on here and there is always someone who gets on and criticizes the ones asking for advice. For ...
A. 29 May 2009: I'm really not trying to get people to get All pissed off at me I just don't understand how some people are so inconsiderate of others feelings. I love talking to people and trying my best to do right by others. I care a lot for people. And I do get ... (read in full...)
Could we all try to have a little empathy, for those who ask questions on this site?
Q. This is not a question this is my personal opinion for some things said to others onthus site... I have read and commented on a lot of different forums on here and there is always someone who gets on and criticizes the ones asking for advice. For ...
A. 29 May 2009: I try to be helpful but at the same time not hurtful! Yeah believe me there have been things I've said people blew out of proportion but some people can be rude! For example this women was talking about loosing a loved on to cancer s girl told her ... (read in full...)
Will being "loose" down there affect married life?
Q. i am 30 years unmarried female, i have never been into any relationship before, but i am doing masturbation from last 6 years due to which i think my vagina is loose, now i am getting married soon will my husband notice it, and will it effect on ...
A. 29 May 2009: Ok well first of all they say a womens vagina is like a rubber band it will go back to its natural shape. Second don't stress out I think that you're nervous about the wedding it will be fine! This is a day all about you and it will be amazing. 6 ... (read in full...)
Together since we were teenagers, our relationship has deteriorated with time!
Q. Ok so I will be as breif as possible. I am 24 and my Special other is 28. We have been together since I was 16 and lived together since I was 17. We were a great couple up until about 3 years ago. Something just changed. Neither of us are interested ...
A. 29 May 2009: Try telling him that something has to change and soon or its the end of you! When he starts yelling at you calmly say "I'm not yelling at you please don't yell at me" repeat this as many times needed he will eventually stop yelling! They hate ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex wont allow me around their daughter
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 2yrs this August, I am 29yrs old and he is 33yrs old. My boyf has an 11yr old daughter and I have a 10yr old daughter. My boyfriend ex wont allow me around their daughter. She allowed it on NY and NYDay but said ...
A. 29 May 2009: Wow the ex sounds very immature! What's her deal with you anyway? If the child wants to come over that's all that should matter! Not her being in total control of everyone she thinks she can. If the CSA is an issue then I think your boyfriend should ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with lesbian porn!
Q. hey im 19 yr old girl, im engaged and pregnant but i have an obsession with lesbian porn, i watch it daily. i dont fancy women but id love to hav a woman go down on me, it gets me so horny when i watch it on videos. i love oral sex of my bf and ...
A. 29 May 2009: Yes its normal! 100%. I mean some females take it farther than others but yeah normal! Yet googling bi courious porn! That will pull up all the sites you're looking for. I'd talk to the boyfriend and tell him what you're thinking because if he finds ... (read in full...)
Could we all try to have a little empathy, for those who ask questions on this site?
Q. This is not a question this is my personal opinion for some things said to others onthus site... I have read and commented on a lot of different forums on here and there is always someone who gets on and criticizes the ones asking for advice. For ...
A. 29 May 2009: I not once said not to tell the truth I for one told the guy that beat his wife and he wants her back what I thought! He was flaunting the fact he did this! No the truth is fine that's not what I mean at all! Gay people are on here everyday, teens ... (read in full...)
Am I in love too?
Q. we are on the same dormitory but diiferent rooms. we started hanging out until one day she wants to sleep beside me every night. i was used to it that she always sleeps besides me but then as months past by she told me that she don't want to ...
A. 28 May 2009: I think you posted the same question like two days ago but worded it different! Cuz I posted a comment on it.. But anyhow you need to decuss it with her tell her what's going on and how you feel get ith out in the open! It will help you to ... (read in full...)
How can I help him? I hate seeing my friend so down...
Q. right this isnt exactly my problem but i need advice on how to help him through it. My friend is 20. hes got all sorts rong with his health, at the moment he is unable to eat and is on liquid meals. he recently met a girl and they went out , he wa...
A. 28 May 2009: About this girl is it his kid? The only thing I can say to do is get him out just the two of you just to get this off his mind! You stated you have said all that can be said,.. Then why not take action and get him out and about! Being his best ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating?
Q. Ok I been with this guy for almost 3years n I thnk he's cheating on me he did in the past and cuz he did it I did it bad cuz it hurt. But I think he is doing it again The reason why I say is cuz the past 2days he called me late n he said and yest...
A. 28 May 2009: You need to sit him down and tell him how you're feeling. You have a baby on the way its time for him to man. Up and get a job! Maybe you need to look farther into this he may not be cheating. Let go of the past we all make mistakes. Maybe he is ... (read in full...)
I'm crazy paranoid...about everything!
Q. Hey... So I've been with my fiance for 2 years now and we have a one year old daughter... And we're happy, most of the time. The problem is that I'm crazy paranoid... about everything. HE dated a girl for 3 years before me and she's caused...
A. 28 May 2009: My best advice is that you sit him down and just tell him hey you hurt me by what you say and I'd like for it to stop I'm the one here now not her! But yes I'd be upset too its what we are programed to do is have emotions! My fiance did that and his ... (read in full...)
My past infidelities are coming back to haunt me
Q. I have been married to my husband for 19 years but we have been together for 24. 9 years ago I had an affair which my husband found out about and we put it behind us. However, I found out last week that he has been having an affair for the last 8 ...
A. 28 May 2009: Everyone makes mistakes! And you did confess so you were honest! My ex husband had 2 affairs in an 8 year period and both females got pregnant! So then I decided to get a job because the bum would not work and I met a wonderful man! He was older ... (read in full...)
Is it innapropriate?
Q. Dear Cupid, is it inappropriate/creepy for me, 20, telling a 14 year old girl (albeit mature), that i think she's beautiful and if i were younger, i would ask her out? opinions to be appreciated...
A. 28 May 2009: I will honestly say it is inappropriate if you have any Intentions with this child! Creepy yes I have 2 girls and that is my biggest fear puberty! I know what boys\men think. Just any other thoughts you may have keep to yourself! Do NOT act on ... (read in full...)
I seriously have the hots for my sister in law!!
Q. I have an issue that has been driving me crazy for a couple years now. I am married, and her brother is married. I am seriously having the hots for his wife. She used to be VERY 'freaky' if you will, and still has a slight taste of that in her. ...
A. 28 May 2009: I am so sorry but the truth of the matter is you're an asswhole! Just got ahead divorce your wife stop talking to your brother and go ahead a cut off all with your family! Because that's what will haPpen! Men like you make me sick... Willing to ... (read in full...)
I seriously have the hots for my sister in law!!
Q. I have an issue that has been driving me crazy for a couple years now. I am married, and her brother is married. I am seriously having the hots for his wife. She used to be VERY 'freaky' if you will, and still has a slight taste of that in her. ...
A. 27 May 2009: You're married and she is your brothers wife. So my opinion is just let it lye and dream about it! Unless you're willing to loose your wife and brother. Why don't you just have your wife get a bit freaky! Tell her you want to try things and see if ... (read in full...)
Attraction to my daughter's teacher
Q. I really fancy my daughters teacher I can't stop thinking about her. I am a women so that makes things so difficult, there is chemistry between us most definitely what do I do? ...
A. 27 May 2009: First thing I think that you should talk to your daughter! How old is your little girl? This is something she MUST be comfortable with no matter how tempting it is! Second is do you have any idea of how the teacher is? I mean is she gay or what? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had one previous relationship with a man, and I can't accept it...
Q. hi, so i have a bf which really loves me and i feel great with him, but my boyfriend in the past had one relationship with a man and i really cant accept this thing. if it was you would you stay with him? however he confessed that it was his only...
A. 27 May 2009: People are always bad mouthing gays but you know they have feelings they are people! Anyhow to get back to your question... He was honest with you that's a plus! How long have you been with him? If it was his past then it shouldn't be a problem ... (read in full...)
I'm sure we are both straight but everyone tells us we act like a couple!
Q. We've been best friends since high school and now we are in our last year at 6th form, getting ready to leave for uni. All our friends say we flirt with each other way too much and act like we are a couple. Even though we or so i think are both ...
A. 27 May 2009: Well honey this is a tough one! It could have been just the drugs and drinks! Or she may just be scared of her feelings! There are a lot of things she could be thinking and feeling! Maybe you and her should get together and go get a bite to eat and ... (read in full...)
I want to make this a night to remember!
Q. Heyy. well i havent seen my boyfriend in a while (examss. great things that they are!) and hes coming over to spend the evening with me tonight, just the two of us and no-one else will be home. So i thought i would ask for some idea's on how...
A. 27 May 2009: Well have you gotten the ideas off him yet! Maybe a nightie candles and fresh fruit! I don't know if he is the romantic type or what you can do a little strip tease or do the light brushing of feathers! I'm not much help lol but it really depends on ... (read in full...)
Can I be pregnant.... I gave him a hand job and he fingered me...
Q. ok so ... i gave a guy a hand job and he cummed on my hands .. so i wiped then off .. and he put his penis back in his pants . he could have got a lil on his hands.. but they were dry and so he fingered me he didnt stick his finger in me .. he just ...
A. 26 May 2009: I wouldn't say you're pregnant! If you had intercourse that's different I'd say get tested but you didn't do that! I would not worry about that! Just when and if you decide to have intercourse use protection! Condoms don't cost much and it would be ... (read in full...)
Hurt, my husband has left. Was it the porn or his family?
Q. I feel so hurt because my husband stopped loving me. And what hurts the most is that we have children together. I told him it was his porn or us meaning his family. And I want to know was I wrong to make him decide porn or us?he is using me and I ...
A. 26 May 2009: Honey you didn't give us much to go on in order to advise you! You need to give us more on if it affected your marriage or what brought the ultimatum on! But he made his decision let him figure things out on his own!... (read in full...)
Possible miscarriage? Brown slimey stuff!
Q. please help! i finished my period last week. A couple days later i started to discharge dark brown slimy stuff. I dont know what it is. I just keeps coming out and i dont know if it is a possible miscarriage or what?? someone please help MOD NO...
A. 26 May 2009: Hot tub sex you are more likely to get stds or infection! It can cause a lot of problems internally! As far as the brown smelly blood! It could be blood left behind... Old blood! But it could mean different things. I agree with army medic go to the ... (read in full...)
He's sweet and lovely and caring... and cheating on his girlfriend with me.
Q. I'm in a bit of a mess... I met a man through one of my male friends. He has a girlfriend of 2months. He has text me day and night for the past week and a half and even when she is there with him he does it, he seems so caring and nice espcially i...
A. 26 May 2009: Honey you should sit back and think this out... Good boyfriend material? He has a girlfriend and he's fondling another! He says he don't want her after 2 months? Ok like the others said that's still the honeymoon phase! He just wants to be a playa ... (read in full...)
She's harming herself after the breakup of her relationship! Help!!
Q. A friend of mine's boyfriend just broke up with her. She's been very depressed since. I've been trying to help her(talking to her, trying to make her laugh), but nothing seems to be working. She's started to cut herself and I feel it's my fault ...
A. 26 May 2009: You need to let her know that she is worrying you and that being good friends like you are... Let her know how bad she is hurting you! Just stay by her comfort her and let her know what she means to you as a great friend! I can only say that you may ... (read in full...)
1st cousin sex forbidden?
Q. i'm catholic and want to know if having sex with 1st cousin is forbidden to have sex with 1st cousin....
A. 22 May 2009: Yes it is forbidden it is so illegal its unreal! This will be something as you get older it will be held over your head don't do it! You're too young for sex!... (read in full...)
He's slept with nearly 100 women... opinions please!
Q. Hi would just like to ask what people make of a 30 year old man who has slept with nearly 100 women?...
A. 22 May 2009: Personally I think its kind of sick! but that's just my opinion! Who knows what some of them females could possibly have(std wise) if any! GD may be a great guy but his self respect is non existent! If he has no self respect then he has no respect ... (read in full...)
Is he a controlling boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year, we've been together before but split up for about half a year before getting back together. Lately, I've noticed a lot of things in him that i see in my parents relationship. My mum is very ...
A. 21 May 2009: You are very young and this is very much an issue of control! He is your boyfriend not your father! I say that it is not safe. Hell go get your tattoo or piercing where you want without him being there and then explain to him that you can make ... (read in full...)
Lesbian and proud FINALLY!
Q. Hey, some-one help, Last night we had abit of a party anyway we drank a lot and i fell asleep, i woke up during the night still a bit hazey and to be honest really very turned on, i quickly realised that i was being stroked and touched by anoth...
A. 20 May 2009: My first piece of advice is to try talking to the boyfriend! You know he saw you in the act you can't avoid that conversation just listen to him and don't get mad if he is a bit upset! That is a hard situation... As far as the female you should give ... (read in full...)
I want to try lesbian sex!
Q. I wana try lesbian sex, but i don't know who i would try it with, i don't have many friends and the ones i do have are too close to be asking that kinda stuff. girls really turn me on, i love boys though just the thought of women together gets me ...
A. 20 May 2009: Ok personally I think that this should be an experience to do with someone you trust! And you know wouldn't have any STDs... If you think your current friends r too close to ask then yes meeting people at local clubs or gay\bi bars! They are open ... (read in full...)
8 years going... and I'm not happy inside.
Q. Help Needed 8 years later I'm a Gay man who is with my first guy for 8 years, after the second year i decided to go to France to meet someone else, it was hard but i told my partner that i was not happy and why i was not happy, 6 years later we i...
A. 15 May 2009: Only you can make that decision you have to be happy too! You owe him yes but only happiness. It takes a lot to get where you and your mate were! And I know it will be hard but you have to do what is best would you rather go back and live a lie? ... (read in full...)
8 years going... and I'm not happy inside.
Q. Help Needed 8 years later I'm a Gay man who is with my first guy for 8 years, after the second year i decided to go to France to meet someone else, it was hard but i told my partner that i was not happy and why i was not happy, 6 years later we i...
A. 15 May 2009: After 8 years and you're not happy! Hum.... Maybe alittle time apart is the best. You have to be happy to make others happy so this means neither one of you are happy! I agree it is hard to just walk away from a life you have built but being unhappy ... (read in full...)
If he wants anal then go gay!
Q. What is up with guys wanting to try Anal!! I am tired of every single guy i have dated wanting to try it. I am a girl I have a vag... If he wants anal go gay!!... Please explain how a guy sticking his dick in a butt hole with poop coming out of be ...
A. 14 May 2009: Its normal for guys to want to try it! Tighter and something different. It don't mean they are gay or bi or should be gay! Its just different! If you don't want to then don't do it but most guys will want to try it that stuff is everywhere. Porn TV ... (read in full...)
He had permission to get oral from somone else because I don't like doing it but now I'm having second thoughts!
Q. Plz help. Ok this is my first time doing this,I really need some advice.So my bf of a lil over a year wants oral sex..I really don't like doing it,so I just tell him no bt we do have sex. Ok so a while back he had asked me to do it prior to u...
A. 14 May 2009: Honestly its not good for any relationship to allow another woman to please your man in any way! If I were in your position I would at least try to do it yourself! You can just try other things! I really don't like doing it either buy for the sake ... (read in full...)
Should be upset that after 2 years, my relationship was taken away just so that he could get his child back?
Q. I need some advice. My boyfriend broke up with me only because his child's mother came back around and now the only way he can have custody of his son is to be with this woman. Let me remind you that she took him away from him by getting him ...
A. 14 May 2009: Sounds to me like his babies mamma needs some type of 411 on stupidity! He is dumb for going back she's going to put him back in jail when she finds someone else to support her! Yes he can fight for joint custody and he will win expecally if she ... (read in full...)
He loves me, but wants to be single....need advice to tame my alpha male
Q. We have 4 kids and my husband wants to leave me :'( I am not looking for people to tell me he is not worth it so please just don't. I have heard it enough times and maybe it is true but I think he is. He sais he still loves me , but he wants...
A. 14 May 2009: My ex husband did the same thing! Came home just to get a few changes of clothes and was gone for a few days. We had two beautiful little girls! So him coming home on occasion was like his time to say hi to our girls. I guess! About two months after ... (read in full...)
How do I tell b/f I'm through making mistakes?
Q. how do i let my boyfriend know that im done with making my mistakes and want to take the relationship furthur?...
A. 14 May 2009: Honey that depends on what mistakes you have made! You didn't specify what you had done. They say actions speak louder than words and that is very true! Take that into consideration. You should sit down and have a face to face heart to heart! He ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad mom?
Q. I'm wondering if I'm a bad mother? My kids are 4 and 20 months. Both boys. My oldest is very hyper and we actually had him screened for ADHD and he isn't. But I swear he is! he bounces off walls. It doesn't matter what we do he's all over the place, ...
A. 21 April 2009: You are not a bad mom. I am a stay at home mom of a 4 year old 3 year old and a 1 year old. I don't believe that your son has adhd my 2 oldest do the same thing and trust me honey I get to the same point you do! Like you can't handle it or you're ... (read in full...)
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