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writes:my boyfriend and i are both 17 nd have only started having sex the last year or so. he's in the army and i want to finish my year 12 HSC first before i move away with him. he is totally cool with that. but he keeps asking me everytime we go to have sex if he could not wear a condom. i keep saying no. i am on the pill but sometimes i just feel saver if he is wearing one. other times i would like him not to wear one but just to feel saver i make him wear one. would it be ok if i let him just once not wear one would i be totally save???
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reader, Mzbabybat  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 ok two things play in this role. you probly know by now his sexual past or atleast have the gist of it. if you feel that that may threaten you get him tested. so have him keep the condom on for now. and so he doesnt feel as if you cornered him discuss you both going to get tested, maybe even do it together. tell him its your way of assuring yourself your saftey. because after all thats what it is.
and second. hun you ARE on the pill, both condoms and the pill are 99% effective BY THEMSELVES so dont be afraid of getting pregnant any more than with double protection. theres still a chance. nomatterwhat.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 Hi,
Keep things safe, no condom, no sex. He might be curious about having sex without a condom if he has never done it without. But it's best to insist with one! Hannah.
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (13 August 2008):
 You should both get tested for STD's first and if everything is ok then i don't see why you shouldn't use a condom
You're on the pill because you're having sex right?
Well why use two methods of contraception when only one will be safe?
Speak to him about it
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reader, kenny +, writes (13 August 2008):
 I think that you will be taking a risk by not using a condom, apart from the risk of getting pregnant there are also STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) to bear in mind too. Just be on the safe side make him wear a condom.
All the best x
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 Sweetie, rather be safe than sorry... make sure he wears a condom every time you are intimate. In my country they have a saying "no love, no glove" it is a campaign to try and stop the transmission of STD's and HIV... So well done to you for wanting to stay safe!
Honeygirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): The pill won't prevent sexually transmitted diseases. If he's in the army you'd be wise to insist he wears a condom, especially if he has periods away on duty, and even more so if those periods of duty are abroad.
The 'Belt and Braces' approach won't do you any harm and you'll have done all you can to look after your health and prevent an unwanted pregnancy.
Wise Girl!!
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