Is it ok to make out on a first date?
Q. Is making out on a first date a no no? How would I bring a chick home after the first date? Ask her do you want to see my room? Once you talk to her for a bit.....just go for the move? Or ask her do you want to cuddle? Then kiss her?...
A. 1 April 2010: Ok... I can only assume that when you say the word "chick" that we're not referring to you talking about girls you want to date in the long term.
If you're just looking to hook up and not make some kind of soul connection, then by all means ma... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to fake virginity when she marries?
Q. I just want to know if it is possible for a girl to hide her premarital sexual relations form her husband (she's been having regular sexual relations with other males for 5 years before marriage). She is going to marry after 6 months ...
A. 1 April 2010: Men won't know if you're not a virgin. Just act like it hurts a little the first time you have sex and make sure you don't say anything like "I've never been with someone so big before!" :) Relax - he'll never know. ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is there something going on?
Q. Ok, so my wife works at a bar and she has this guy that stays after hours while she cleans up. On one note I feel more comfortable knowing that someone is there with her, on another note I don't fully trust this guy. She has known him for 9 ...
A. 1 April 2010: Yes, you are being paranoid. I realize you had a bad experience with your first marriage - but you said that man had "seduced" your ex-wife and gotten her pregnant... that shows me that you still have this idea that women can be "seduced" into doing ... (read in full...)
Why do people always seem to want sex straight away?
Q. I don't get it. Why do people always seem to want sex straight away it just wrecks a relationship and your body especially after when you realise you weren't ready. Here's a tip, save yourself until you know it's the right person or just until your ...
A. 1 April 2010: People want sex because it's amazing. It's this absolute body-tingling fantastic experience that you get to do with somebody you really, really like and you both love it at the same time.
I'm sure at 13,14,15 - whatever your age is - this see... (read in full...)
How can I change his mind to try for a baby?
Q. Me and my boyfriend met one of our friend's sons today, and he was beautiful. My boyfriend knows I want a baby, but he just doesnt want to have one yet. It upsets me, because I just want to be a mum. I know that there can be a lot of complications...
A. 1 April 2010: No! Stop that right this second. Your boyfriend is correct here - now is not the time. You are WAY too young. Speaking from experience here! Kids are amazing, gorgeous, and wonderful. You want to know what a baby is really like? Go babysit for two ... (read in full...)
Will having sex with him make my hurt worse? I don't think I could handle he has had others.
Q. This is a bit of a long story, but I'd really like some advice. I am interested in someone who is older than me and I know for a fact that he is interested in me as well. I asked him recently how many sexual partners he has had, and his answer w...
A. 1 April 2010: I remember being your age and having this total emotional trauma when I realized that my boyfriend had (gasp) not only kissed other girls, but liked other girls, had sex with other girls, and even talked to other girls. Jealousy is natural to an ... (read in full...)
Should I stop butting into his business, even if we're so close?
Q. I've known this guy since I was four years old--all my life practically. He's smart and one of my best friends. He has always been. We stay in touch and confide in each other--no matter where life takes us. We're complete opposites, but for some ...
A. 1 April 2010: Yes, for the love of God, stop harassing this guy about what he does or doesn't do. You've already let him know how you feel and it's not going to change anything. Seriously, weed is not really some kind of heinous drug, but that still doesn't stop ... (read in full...)
Special friend vs. lover
Q. Someone told me if a woman calls you her special friend, she's not attracted to you at all. My friend called me her "very special friend" while her guard was down due to some very hard problems. She's usually really snide and we have a sort of ...
A. 1 April 2010: I want you to first consider if you want a long-distance girlfriend. You have to be sure of that before you go any farther.
If you think that would work, then from MY standpoint (and ALL women are different) this is how she's telling you that she... (read in full...)
Is he my boyfriend? Are we going out?
Q. Ok, we have been going for movies, lunches, teas and walks since the end of Jan. He hasn't made a move on me physically yet, however we connect like crazy and have the most amazing conversation. We can sit in cafes drink tea and talk for hours ...
A. 1 April 2010: At first I was going to tell you that you have a really lovely GAY friend .... but then you said he's painfully shy, so that must be why he hasn't made a move on you for the past 60-80 days it sounds like you two have been hanging out. Right? I sure ... (read in full...)
What's his game? Is he hiding something?
Q. Is he hiding something? He was out of town for the weekend for a work trip in Las Vegas. He usually at least makes contact with me once a day, but while he was gone I didn't hear from him at all. Even when I contacted him, he didn't respond. ...
A. 1 April 2010: I don't want to be down on men here, truly, because I absolutely adore men and they're like candy to me, but I honestly believe the following:
1) Men will NOT break up with you if they're cheating unless they FIRMLY have a new relation... (read in full...)
I think my friends ex is starting to fancy me and I don't know if I feel the same!
Q. I think my friends ex is starting to fancy me and I don't know if i feel the same. Me and his ex used to be close but i found out she,s been lying to me for ages about how they broke up. He wants to stay friends with her and he texts her and she ...
A. 1 April 2010: I love to text - trust me - I send like four thousand a month, but in situations like this, you need to pick up a phone or meet in person and have a talk. You need to decide what's more important to you - repairing your old friendship or being ... (read in full...)
M head over heels in love with my best friend.
Q. I can not ask my question until you can have a full understanding of the situation at hand. About 7 years ago now, my best friend(At the time) "Fats" and I had been passengers in a friends car. The friend got a phone call from a very dear lesbia...
A. 1 April 2010: First of all - I firmly believe in honesty. You need to sit down with this person and just lay your feelings out there and make it clear what's happening. The same goes for your custody issue. You need to be the one with integrity here and go for ... (read in full...)
What signs do boys give to girls if they like them?
Q. What signs do men/boys give if they like somone, if they don't come right out and tell you? The guy i like at school- i'm getting the feeling he likes me back but i can't tell really. There's a lot of eye contact going on, and we talk so...
A. 1 April 2010: You know, this is tough because you can read all the articles in the world on signs that guys give and still not know - because each person is individual. The only way you can find out is to just ask. If you're uncomfortable going straight for phone ... (read in full...)
Is this LD separation really the end?
Q. My ex-girlfriend and I broke up 6 monnths ago. She moves to australia while I moved to LA. We broke up on good terms, but over the past 6 months, she's really hurt me. I expected her to feel the same way I did when i told a few months ago that I ...
A. 8 March 2010: There's something called "distance distortion" going on here and I want you to remember distinctly how you felt when she left you and moved to Australia. Then I want you to remember how she said she can't see herself with someone who travels a lot ... (read in full...)
Suspicious boyfriend may be gay.
Q. Is my boyfriend gay? He doesn't like to really do anything with me he rather hang out with the guys. We have sex maybe once a week because most of the time when he comes he tired and goes to sleep. I asked him once and he got very defensive saying ...
A. 6 March 2010: From what you're saying, it doesn't sound like he's gay. Is he maybe not the greatest boyfriend? Yeah, but I don't think (from what you've said) that he's gay. You certainly don't sound happy so maybe you should consider that and go from there. ... (read in full...)
Should I give my boyfriend a hand job, if so then how?
Q. Hey so I'm 14, and my boyfriend and I have been going out for like around a month. We've gone to third, but I havent given him a hannjob or a bj. Andd my friend keeps telling me that i should give him a handjob, but I've never given one before...
A. 5 March 2010: I want you to think of girls and boys here real quick with me. Men are like hammers and nails and girls are like doors. When you hammer a nail into a door, you can pull out the nail and walk away and the hammer AND the nail are not affected. The ... (read in full...)
We're drifting apart...
Q. god were do i start iv been with my partner for the past 7 years, i have two girls from a previous partner which he totaly accepts as his own, my only problem is we started to drift apart. i love him to bits but emotianaly hes not there weve talked ...
A. 5 March 2010: Hi, I'm so sorry you're in this situation. It can be hard for one partner in a relationship to cope with the other person growing and changing. Sometimes we're more scared of success in our life than we are of failure. Failure can feel familia... (read in full...)
Why do I keep thinking about my coach?
Q. It’s almost been a year now that I first met my coach I would soon grow to admire and still do to this day. Here’s my (long) recap: Before tryouts, I had no clue what to expect from him, but I’d heard that he’s pretty fun to be around, etc. (He’s a ...
A. 5 March 2010: Hello. :) This is a tough situation because I'm only seeing it from your viewpoint. So, let me address just a couple of things.
I'm really glad you found positive from this situation and that you can recognize that this is admiration and you're n... (read in full...)
LDR and minimal contact from my boyfriend.
Q. my boyfriend never calls me or texts me. We are in a L.D.R and we have been friends for many years and he has always been this way not with me but with other friends as well but i thought that if we became a couple he would make more of an effort to ...
A. 5 March 2010: I'm really sorry, sweetie. I hate to say it, but it sounds like he doesn't love you. If he does love you, then he has an awful way of showing it or his capacity for love at the moment is quite minimal.
It can be so easy to get seriously caught u... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me or is she just being friendly?
Q. Here's the thing. There's this girl who was in my freshman writing class two years ago, and I didn't speak to her. The class would divide itself into discussion groups, and it just so happened that she was replying to almost everything whatever I ...
A. 5 March 2010: It's very confusing to be a woman these days. On one hand we're told that men like it when we're forthright and come after what we want. But then we're barraged with books like "He's Not That Into You" and we start questioning if we're ever supposed ... (read in full...)
Penis panic!!!
Q. Hi, i am an 18 year old lad and i am a bit worried about what i have seen on my penis. When i pull my forskin back there are little red dots on my bell end and ive never had this before so am just wondering if there is anything wrong? I dont sleep ...
A. 5 March 2010: First of all, it's always good to see a doctor.
However, I googled it and the following site has a doctor answering and saying it sounds like folliculitis and you should just leave it alone. Make sure you're cleaning yourself well before and afte... (read in full...)
My bf is addicted to shemale porn!
Q. What do I do or think about my bf of a year watching and jerking off to shemale porn. I've found saved porn websites with videos of tranies and stuff. I confronted him and he said it was a bad habbit but he's not gay and I my wants to be with me. ...
A. 5 March 2010: Here's something to think about with porn and let me say this from the outset - I don't think porn is bad. I think porn is like any other pleasurable activity which can range from healthy to unhealthy and it's important to find a medium.
Men l... (read in full...)
Would starting a relationship with someone help me get over my crush?
Q. I'm in a rut. I'm completely infatuated with a close friend who is currently in a relationship. I have difficulty getting her out of my mind. We email and talk all the time and I would like to find out if there is more there, but I don't want to ...
A. 5 March 2010: Yes! Date someone else!!
I don't want to demean your crush, because trust me, I have harbored some SERIOUS crushes in my life, but it's really easy to fall for somebody you "can't have" for that very reason - you can't have them. They become l... (read in full...)
Married almost three years, love him very much, but lost my sexual appetite, how do I get it back??
Q. I am 20 yrs old. i've been married for almost 3 yrs. My husband is 23. We have no kids because we are still young and we want to enjoy our marriage and life. plus we also want to be well prepared before bringing a baby into the picture. I love him ...
A. 4 March 2010: I don't think sex drive just drops off for no reason, especially if you guys have had sex and "fun stuff" in the past. You need to sit down and be brutally honest with yourself and evaluate what's going on. ... (read in full...)
Mind games...
Q. Ok, he's gone. :-( My best guy friend just left for the US Armed Forces. He'll be gone for about 2 months, then back for a week and then off to who knows where for 6 months - a year! I know it's going to go fast but I can't help to feel "lonely." ...
A. 4 March 2010: I'm not trying to be rude, but let me just recap some of what you said.
1) He is gay
2) He plays mindgames with you
3) He's going to be surrounded by other physically fit and like-minded men in the military for the next year
What part of th... (read in full...)
I'm very lonely, how do I make more friends, any suggestions??
Q. I think i have social anxiety or something all i know is that everywhere i go i can't make friends. The ones I have aren't that good but I really can't branch out to make new ones. I'm invoved in tons of groups and great classes but no one ever ...
A. 4 March 2010: Hey sweetie... first of all, you're a teen and I think every teen has social anxiety. Don't feel alone there! I was horribly anxious at your age and I learned something very valuable - you can fake confidence until you FEEL confidence! :)
I wou... (read in full...)
Very bad pimples, could you suggest something that might help me please?
Q. I have a Question about pimples. I don't have really bad acne or anything but I have random pimples on my face. I wash my face twice a day with soap and water and I use proactive to. I have been using it since October and It doesn't work. I do ...
A. 4 March 2010: Unfortunately, because you're a teen, this isn't going to go away. It's just part of the package. Your parents are right though - don't go on a drug for this! Zits are part of hormones and growing and taking meds for the sake of beauty isn't worth ... (read in full...)
Is it right to rub up against women in clubs when you are in a relationship?
Q. Hi, I wonder if you can help. I'm not sure I know how to interact with women in clubs. I'm in a relationship and have been for the past few months, and when I go out with my friends, we all get really drunk and then I watch as they rub up agai...
A. 4 March 2010: Look, it's easy to quickly say this is right or wrong and start laying out black and white rules of relationships. But here's the thing, you have to figure this out for yourself. If it feels wrong, then don't do it. Don't jump your friends for ... (read in full...)
We had sex and promised not to tell anybody but he told his friend ........
Q. So I have a problem, I'm 14 and and my bf is 16. We had sex and k kind of regret doing it. We agreed and promised eachother that we wouldn't tell anyone that we had sex cause I didn't want to get called and slut and stuff. I found out today that he ...
A. 4 March 2010: This is a good reason why sex is best saved till you're a touch older and in a more solid, mature relationship. But, you've gone and done it. Does that make you bad? No. Does it make your boyfriend bad? No. Is it really that big of a deal? No (as ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont indulge me in my fetishes
Q. My Girlfriend of three months just recently expressed her absolute displeasure and unwillingness to engauge with my fettish for wearing overalls, before and sometimes during sex. Initially she expressed willingness to explore my preference, yet the ...
A. 4 March 2010: Here's what I believe about relationships - whoever this is a bigger deal to - that person wins. Is the fetish an absolute necessity? Is it vitally important to you or is it something you could give up? Is she 100% unwilling to participate in this ... (read in full...)
Does he want me back or does he just want sex?
Q. 2 days ago me and my ex (who lives 200 miles away) spent 4 hours on the phone chatting and I brought up the fact I want him back but he told me he had a gf. He told me he loved me but don't want to break this girls heart because he be no better than ...
A. 4 March 2010: You need to cease contact with this guy. How can he tell you he has a new girlfriend that he doesn't want to cheat on but he's already taking steps to cheat on her? Look at his actions - not his words. Don't waste your time on a letter. Block his ... (read in full...)
My friend's step mother is being abused and she and I have been kissing
Q. Okay this is a hard and kind of confussing situation for me and will take some time to explain... About 5 to 6 months ago i started to hang out with a good friend of mine alit more over at his house(just to let you know im 19). Right off the bat i ...
A. 4 March 2010: You're dealing with a violent person with emotional problems and a woman who is currently in a very scary victim situation. You're 19. You're living with them. I understand the drive to be her Superman here, but this is far too much to be in your ... (read in full...)
Crunch time for my husband, either see a doctor or I'll see a lawyer
Q. So I would like to ask what should I do about my terrible sex life, 2 years ago I caught my husband watching porn and wanking behind my back, apparently this had gone on for years of our married life in secret and led to him not wanting to have sex ...
A. 4 March 2010: I would definitely give him an ultimatum. I'm assuming you're early in your early fifties and that's far too young to just shrug off the rest of your life. You're not just not having sex, it sounds like you don't have any intimacy either. ... (read in full...)
We are FWB but the more time I give him the more he wants
Q. A very close male friend of mine and I were FWB for about a year and a half. In the past month, we've suddenly gone from keeping it strictly physical to him asking me to spend whole days with him, me spending several hours with him at a time for 2-3 ...
A. 4 March 2010: I'm not necessarily asking him anything. I've been confused because as our relationship has changed from simply hooking up to all of this intimacy, I'm way more sensitive with him and things he does. Like for instance, one night he had said he was ... (read in full...)
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