An honest and anonymous study on infidelity
Q. There have been so many posts about cheating and fidelity and who did or didn't do what. I thought it would be interesting to see what happened if everybody was honest and nobody was judgmental about infidelity. Here is what I propose: 1- P...
A. 2 November 2009: No matter how good a woman looks, there's some guy who's tired of f***ing her.
Men are beasts. Put a little booze (or drugs) in us, and, if a woman makes a move, we're going to respond. Hey, it's nothing personal. Really, I love my girlfrie... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a guy likes you?!
Q. Heyy=] I finished school and I am 16years Old,I be going College and I just wanted some Advice about guys!! I want to know? 1.Do they get Butterflies when they Kiss a girl 2.when they like someone what do they do any hints or signs 3.Wh...
A. 30 August 2009: At 16, guys want sex. Period. They may flirt, they may talk to you, they may nod their heads and listen to you go on and on, they may bring you gifts and say nice things about your mother, but they do this only because they know that you'll ... (read in full...)
There's this guy that has asked me out, but there are a few things in the way, and I like someone else! What should I do?
Q. Men are definately like buses!! I met this 21 year old throught my sister about a year ago and we've been talking on msn and such ever since, we've also met up a few times recently. He has now asked me out. However i have a number of proble...
A. 30 August 2009: The "right guy", "the love of your life", "soulmates"--it's all pure fantasy. There are plenty of great people in the world: You happen to meet the ones closest to you. When did dating become something like a pre-marriage for so many young peopl... (read in full...)
My partner decided to end our relationship but she cant afford to move out, what is the best thing to do?
Q. After 12 years with her she out of the blue said she didnt love me and wanted to split up.She said she can't afford to move out of our house and i can't afford any money to buy her out or move out myself ( i pay all the utility , mortgage etc). I ...
A. 26 August 2009: Make her cook and clean and tell everyone you have a live-in maid. Even better, live every man's fantasy: Arrange a monthly manage-a-trois in lieu of rent.... (read in full...)
Obsessing about a dream, and I don't leave the house
Q. first off im 18 and male . i feel hopeless. i was perfectly fine 2 months ago. i cant stop feeling like this. it started in 9th grade, when my HOCD started. i thought i could be gay. it was so scary n depressing. now everything is better about that. ...
A. 26 August 2009: Are you kidding? Brothers and sisters play with each other more than anyone admits. Sex is fun, but hard to get. You two know each other, it's convenient, you're young and stupid, who cares? So what if you're gay, or bi-, or whatever? Human ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I yearn for the single life and the thrill of a first kiss
Q. I am in a committed relationship, but at times I still want to see other girls, I still want to be in single life, and have that thrill of the first kiss. Sometimes I feel like my current girlfriend doesn't even appreciate me. What do I do?...
A. 26 August 2009: The grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side, so they say. You're too young to be in a committed relationship. Get out of it and start seeing other people. Whatever you do, don't beat yourself up. If you stay in this relationship, in 10 years ... (read in full...)
My husband is no longer interested in me; I'm responsible for my own happiness, right?
Q. My husband is very focused on obtaining work, increasing income and needs to relax watching TV every night. I have not been good at getting his attention and would like to without forcing him. His interest has diminished completely. He is 61, I'm ...
A. 26 August 2009: Yes, take up a hobby like gardening, sewing, or seeing other men. I think most marriages end up like this, boring and routine, and loveless ("love" is overrated). I won't bother explaining to you why guys become like this because the rationale won't ... (read in full...)
Is this inconsiderate of him or do you think I'm overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend has no problem telling me that other women he comes accross or sees on TV are better looking then me. I would prefer believing that in his eyes I am the most beautiful woman in the world. I know there are women more attractive then me, ...
A. 25 August 2009: I'm betting you've been dating this creep for a long time. If so, he's getting tired of the relationship and he's no longer attracted to you. Maybe you've put on weight or you don't dress up like you used to. Doesn't matter. Dump him and move on. ... (read in full...)
Is she showing me she's still free? Or just trying to make me jealous?
Q. I met this girl. Amazing. I met her on tour with my group and flew her out to stay with me a month after returning home. She was sweet to me in a way that I can say she is unequivocally the best girlfriend I've ever had. And this qualification I ...
A. 25 August 2009: Mid-30s, and you're really still clueless? She's telling you this because she wants you to know she's really not interested in you. Now, there could be a very, very, very small chance she's trying to invite you to a threesome, but no swinger I know ... (read in full...)
She doesn't believe a word I say
Q. ok... I have a question im so in love with this one girl and me and her have dated before and our relationship went downhill simply cuz she lost trust in me and now she claims she doesnt like me anymore but there have been signs to show that she ...
A. 25 August 2009: The signs are probably in your head. Everyone gets lonely (and horny), and it's easier to fulfill those feelings with someone you already know, no matter how incompatible you really are. Take her for her word, she doesn't trust you and doesn't want ... (read in full...)
I want him to know I'm inviting him over sex. How should I say it?
Q. If you ask a man you have started dating over to your house for dinner , will he think that's a euphamism for come on over and we'll have sex? I'm kind of hoping it will because I've been on two dates with a guy but they were just coffee/ movie an...
A. 25 August 2009: You don't have to play games with most guys. Call him, tell him you're ready for a physical relationship, ask him if he wants to come over. Short and simple. If he isn't there in 10 minutes, he's got issues.... (read in full...)
I want him to be more romantic!
Q. I have been in this relationship for 8months and a bit and i feel like i do so much stuff for him. latly i have felt so unappreciated and like i dont exist around his friends. its not like him to do this. so i asked him if he could treat me better ...
A. 25 August 2009: Get used to it, honey. The flowers and romance don't last forever. You're too young to be so serious about guys anyway. Stop putting out and go have fun with someone else.... (read in full...)
Am I post natal? Not in love? Or living in the past??
Q. I'm all out of love? please help....I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and half years.we have 2 sons aged 2 and 9 months.so as you can see I fell pregnant soon after we met.my problem is I don't know if were just not right for each other or I'm ...
A. 24 August 2009: You're a cold fish. But there's nothing wrong with that. You have lived up to your potential and replaced yourself and your boyfriend with two children, and now Nature has no further use for you. Dedicate your life to bringing up two fine and... (read in full...)
My BF and I have trouble communicating about our relationship
Q. Hi everyone I wanted to ask for some relationship advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Although he is a fantastic person he is not such a good boyfriend. He NEVER wants to talk about our relationship as I can tell he thinks those ...
A. 24 August 2009: Guys don't like feeling like idiots. While we're good at things like math, and fixing cars, and talking about football, we have absolutely no clue what the hell women are talking about when it comes to touchy-feely crap like "relationships". And ... (read in full...)
What can I say to my parents so they will let me go on this date??
Q. I met a really cute guy 12 days ago, but I never thought he liked me. He is very polite and pretty shy. But today we spent a lot of time together, talked a lot and started to get to know each other. I gave him my phone number,my messenger ID and he ...
A. 24 August 2009: A swimming pool where you're both partially nude? Hell no. Your parents are right. He can come over to dinner and meet your parents. If they like him, you can go to a movie together. How old is this creep?... (read in full...)
Can't stop thinking about fat and calories, can't stop making myself sick!
Q. Hello, haven’t been here in a while but I’m just sick of everything at the moment and I’d rather vent on here than to anyone in person. I really struggle to open up to people and I feel that by telling someone I don’t have the problem, because it’s ...
A. 24 August 2009: Most people don't like the way they look, and, if you'd stop obsessing about yourself for a minute, you might see that there are a lot of fat and just plain ugly-looking folks out there. But they get along fine and have relationships. Some even ... (read in full...)
I'm stuck between 2 rocks!!! HELP!
Q. Hello, I know these 2 wonderful women. I know one girl from one place, the other from another. It hit me the other night that I love both, I was like "WTF!?" I can't choose one for God's sake! I'm confused and don't want to hurt either of them......
A. 24 August 2009: So go out with both until one or both dumps you. You know it's only in the last twenty years that people got it in their heads that they had to be monogamous *while they were dating*. Sheesh, when my parents were single, they'd date four or five ... (read in full...)
I don't totally trust the pill and don't want my boyfriend to wear a condom!
Q. Hi everyone, I wrote a while back with a question about the pill. Now I really do not know what to do. Basically I'm worrying a lot that the pill won't work and I will get pregnant whilst using it. I just cannot trust it no matter how hard I try. ...
A. 24 August 2009: You are insane. Take the pill if you don't want to get pregnant. If you're nutty paranoid that the pill won't work for you, lie to your stud and tell him your doctor took you off the pill and Stud will be happy to wear a condom.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I wont find love again. I need some advice.
Q. So my ex broke up with me over 5 months ago. I loved here dearly and was devistated when she broke up with me. I did all the wrong things for 4 months after the break up. I kept in contact with her a lot and I acted extremely needy and desperate. ...
A. 24 August 2009: Break-ups suck, but so do long-term relationships and most marriages, so don't fret it. Love is hard to find these days because people have more discriminating taste thanks to all the beautiful people they see on television and in Internet porn. I... (read in full...)
I don't have feelings for my bf but I have kissed this other guy! What do I do now?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years.We've always had a very strong friendship but we no longer seem like a couple and haven't slept together in 5 months. A few months ago while on a work night out his friend(who is also a friend of mine ...
A. 10 August 2009: Tell your boyfriend that you think the relationship is going nowhere and you want out. Do NOT tell your boyfriend's friend beforehand as this will only complicate the situation. About two months later, after it's clear to everyone that you and your ... (read in full...)
Not sure if I should date her, as she has a baby! Any advice?
Q. she's really fit and i would like to date her, i know she likes me too, the problem is she has a baby and im not sure if im ready for that commit ment what should i do *-)...
A. 10 August 2009: She's fit because she has a baby and she knows she needs to look really, really good if she wants to catch a man. You're 16 years old and the first thing you mention is how good she looks. I'm with you, brother, but do yourself and her child a ... (read in full...)
Should I get involved in a FWB relationship with my ex?
Q. I just broke up with my child's father. The best thing in our relationship was sex. It was awesome. There was never a time when it wasn't good. We've been broken up for a month and have had sex twice. It would have been more than that, but a few ...
A. 10 August 2009: Sorry, I don't buy it. People don't break up when the sex is "awesome" for both of them. You might think the sex is great, but does he? Who dumped who here? I'm guessing he got rid of you. Something doesn't smell right. Tell us more.... (read in full...)
I want to spend more time with my boyfriend. How do I get him to come over?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend has been dating for 6 mouths and he never wants to come over he says he loves me and i say it back and i want him to pay a little more attention to meh how do i do this ...
A. 10 August 2009: Do you live with your parents or a roommate? Are you a slob? Is your place filthy? Do you live far away or in a bad part of town? Hey, we need more information here. Call him from your place and tell him you are insane horny. If he doesn't show ... (read in full...)
He said he wanted a girlfriend but when he came bacl home, he changed his mind. why??
Q. i started talking to a boy 7 weeks ago on the internet. he is in the army based abroad but doesnt live that far from me back home. we were chatting every night and started to like each other alot. he has just come back home for 3 weeks and i met him ...
A. 10 August 2009: Unfortunately, either (A) the realty--you in person--didn't match the little fantasy in his head, or (B) he was telling you all those things because he was trying to score. Enjoy the time you shared, now it's time to move on and drop him.... (read in full...)
He's going out with a "friend"... Yeah right!
Q. I've been tryin to give my ex a lil space*been broken up almost a mo*.. but then I felt it was silly and decided to call him 2 days later *last wk i didnt call for 2 days and he was bothered/thought I was having sucha a blast that I couldnt ...
A. 10 August 2009: He wants to be admired and adored without having to work for it. He wants someone around to have sex with when he's in the mood. He wants someone to fill his emotional and physical needs without having to reciprocate. In other words, he is a typical ... (read in full...)
No sex with boyfriend for 2 months and its getting me down
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years now. Don't get me wrong, we have had our ups and downs but overall we are happy. There is just one problem which is big. We haven't had sex in 2 months. WE've only had about sex five times this ...
A. 24 June 2009: Five foot six, long brown hair, brown eyes, olive skin, large boobs, and graduating law school? Browneyes84, will you marry me? Don't move in with this guy. It's too early and it sounds like this relationship is heading for disaster. Doe... (read in full...)
No sex with boyfriend for 2 months and its getting me down
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years now. Don't get me wrong, we have had our ups and downs but overall we are happy. There is just one problem which is big. We haven't had sex in 2 months. WE've only had about sex five times this ...
A. 20 June 2009: If your boyfriend is in his late 30s or older, then sex is just not the big deal it once was. Sorry.
If your boyfriend is in his teens or 20s like you, then yes, it is very strange for him to be avoiding sex with you. Most 20-something males th... (read in full...)
How to give the perfect hand job?
Q. Hi, I'd like some advice from you girls and guys. Basically, I'm not very experienced when it comes to sex and want to know how to give the perfect hand job. I like giving head, and my bf enjoys it, but sometimes I get tired and would like to use ...
A. 20 June 2009: Wrong, wrong, wrong. You're trying to become a handjob expert by asking us?!? Ask your BOYFRIEND. Get him to show you how he jerks off and then you mimic what he does. Don't take it to seriously at first--make a joke of your bungling, apologize to ... (read in full...)
She knows I can't get it up, but wants "the real thing" anyway
Q. Im 51 years old and my wife is 38. Just to make this short and to the point . I cannot get an erection to have sex . I have told my wife out of frustration and respect for her that she had my blessing to have sex with other men . She has done that ...
A. 20 June 2009: At 38 your wife's libido is in overdrive. She is an out-of-control sex machine.
On the other hand, you are a sexual has-been. I assume you've already tried all the pills. You might want to consider surgery--say, one of those nasty pumps.
... (read in full...)
What do I do about him as I don't trust him but we have a child together.
Q. HELP! OK so me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 and a half years and we have a baby I'm 16 years old 17 soon he is almost 20. we had some problems he tryed to ask another girl out. he kissed her and was at her school trying to find her...
A. 15 June 2009: You realize how stupid you are to have a baby at 16, right?
First, don't worry about the porn. Guys love porn. A naked woman is the closest to God we will ever be. There is absolutely nothing else that excites, pleases, or motivates us like nak... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to deal with this jealousy?
Q. Hi people, I need some advice on how to deal with my feelings please! I’ve known this girl through work for 4 years. For the first couple of years we were very close, always hanging around together and flirting. Everyone said we would make a gre...
A. 15 June 2009: You sound like a stalker. Quit obsessing.
Go to her and ask her out. Tell her you're in a horrible, boring relationship (in other words, lie) and say you remember how much fun the two of you once had. Ask her is she would go out with you.
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I would love to find a meaningful relationship but it's just not happening...
Q. I guess this is a long one so where to start. I'm 21, I'm Gay, I came out when I was 17 years old and had a fantastic response from everyone I know. As a person I'm not effeminate in anyway, most new people that meet me are shocked to find out that ...
A. 15 June 2009: Sounds like you're just as lonely as every single heterosexual male. (Except the part about not getting it up. There are pills for that now, so you have no excuse.)
My advice is to get plenty of girlfriends (friends who are girls). I don't kn... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that I'm going to like him too much and I'm worried.
Q. I met a guy in Italy on New Year Eve, we kissed and nothing else happened. We met again in February and we kissed again and I spent a few days with him, getting to know each other, hanging out etc. We decided that we'd like to see each other again. ...
A. 15 June 2009: Why knock physical relationships?
Please understand, if women did not have vaginas, men would not talk to them. You can believe anything else you want, but if you acknowledge this truth, maybe you won't be so anxious.
The trick here is to simpl... (read in full...)
I wish someone would come into my life and give me some hope...
Q. I'm so lonely that i cry about it most days. I'm recovering from a relationship where ive been messed around and had my heart absolutely crushed to pieces. I spilt up with my boyfriend 9 months ago after 3 years on and off. I've waited for him, ...
A. 15 June 2009: Why do you think you deserve to be happy when everyone else is miserable? None of us has any more hope, or confidence, or happiness, or love than the next person. It's all that crap you see in the movies and watch on television and read in women's ... (read in full...)
16 and pregnant! He says he's not the father!
Q. hi,ive been with my boyfriend since we were twelve years old. we are childhood friends. our parents always use to joke about us getting married when we were older. who know he would actually be the guy to make me fall inlove? he's generally ...
A. 15 June 2009: It's normal for a guy to totally freak out when his girlfriend tells him she's pregnant. Guys typically think very highly of themselves and have big plans for their futures. Those plans NEVER involve children. Girl, you just threw a wrench into his ... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend but can't help it!
Q. I'm in love with my best friend and i cant help it. I want to tell him but I dont want to ruin our friendship. He is the perfect guy for me, he's funny, smart, cute, romantic and well perfect for me. He's constantly flirting with me, hugging me ...
A. 14 June 2009: Dear Clueless,
Obviously, you are both attracted to each other, and unless he is gay, he will sleep with you if you give him the chance. Since neither of you is very aggressive, I suggest you go home together and have a few drinks until your inh... (read in full...)
I need help to try and forget about a guy.
Q. I need help to try and forget about a guy. Hes come into my life on and off for the last 5.5 years, and its always the same, hes really nice, we have a couple of dates then we sleep together and then he cools off and then i don't hear from him for ...
A. 14 June 2009: Newsflash: Guys like having sex with women, especially ones they find attractive. They can't stand the other crap: dating, talking, parenting. The stuff women like.
Obviously, the sex is good for both of you. Don't pretend you're not getting ... (read in full...)
Best friends fallen out of love with her husband.
Q. My best friend and her husband are going through a rocky time. Married for over twenty years and she is not in love with her husband anymore. But they have been in an open relationship for the last few years. Both of them seeing other people ...
A. 14 June 2009: By "open relationship", husbands mean they will sleep around and the wife will stay home (alone) and clean the house and cook me dinner, damn it!
My advice is for you to get out the relationship and quit sticking your nose in other people's... (read in full...)
I'm not cheating but he's accusing me of it!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 2 yrs and we are both very very insecure, i dont accuse him of cheating on me but he thinks that i am because i am always working and working for long long hours and sometimes even 6 days a week, we dont live together ...
A. 14 June 2009: You are probably more attractive than he is. A male's ugliness can be offset by wealth or a very large johnson. I suspect your boyfriend has neither. If he's less attractive than you, isn't rich, and has a small member, it's perfectly normal that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has an addiction to amateur porn, is this normal?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I are both 25. We have been dating for 4 months but he has an addiction to amatuer porn. On top of this I found he had a profile on a dating website which is just for sex. He says he only uses it to see amatuer porn and he delet...
A. 19 May 2008: All guys love porn. A naked woman is the closest to God we will ever be. There is absolutely nothing else that excites, pleases, or motivates us the same way. You may disparage our primitive lust, but keep in mind, those preceding evolutionary ... (read in full...)
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