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29 August 2008: I don't really know what I'm writing but I feel the urge to get something off my chest... I'm confused, I used to think I was depressed or had the blues (so to speak)from time to time but I have recently realised I just go through phases where I t...
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Should I should embrace my gay solitude?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a guy that is 17-years-old and I'm gay. I already came out to my friends and family and luckily, everyone accepts me and respects me. However, I have issues with approaching other gay guys. I suppose it's because I'm afraid of th...
A. 7 June 2012: Hey,
You sound like me at 17, I'd recently 'come-out' and was thrown into the gay-scene, which I didn't feel comfortable in. No one seemed to represent me!
I'm now 24, I work closely with the LGBT community, working predominantly wi... (read in full...)
Ideas on how to approach a stranger to start a friendhship?
Q. Hello Agony Aunts/Uncles/And everyone else, I am painfully shy, and I am already 21. I have only been in one relationship and that was with a girl, the problem with that is that I am gay. And so in that relationship back in the day there was no c...
A. 5 October 2010: Hi, I understand where you are coming. My confidence has improved hugely over the last few years, but talking to a stranger out in a public place is a no go.
On Sunday night I was in a pub with some friends, a few left as it was getting late, I ... (read in full...)
I'm a gay man, is this normal for me? does it make me weird?
Q. Well I'm an 18 year old total bottom, I'm gay and well recently I've discovered than when I'm having sex with guys (with different guys, one at a time) I don't get a boner, I don't even cum, if the guy (the top) cums I'm okay with that, it feels as ...
A. 2 November 2009: hey, i'm a top and my boyfriend is a bottom. because i'm a top (and i've never been a bottom) the thought of being a bottom is unnatural to me and i don't understand why my boyfriend enjoys it and why it turns him on. ALSO, like you he isn't hard ... (read in full...)
I was wondering if people could help me with ideas/concepts for a short film that would be feasable.
Q. Hello there, I suppose this question is a little different, but I'm still looking for advice/help. Also, I'd like to think this could be a little fun, and be a little more light than some of the topics discussed on the forum. Briefly, since...
A. 27 September 2009: Thanks for the ideas guys, keep them coming.
In responce to the anonymous post I am not expecting anyone to do the work for me, this is more like a brainstorming session which I decided to post on here rather than writing/filmmaking sites ho... (read in full...)
Bisexual with both girlfriend & boyfriend
Q. Ok... I'm a bisexual guy and though I have a girlfriend, I've also had a boyfriend for the past 4 months. They both knew about and were fine about each other, so that wasn't a problem and so for a while it all worked out well. I really liked ...
A. 21 September 2009: it seems like you want it all to be honest mate, and sometimes that isn't possible, we don't live in a perfect world. you had to make a choice and you chose your girl, you have to respect how your ex feels and if he doesn't want anymore to do with ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused about my sexuality!
Q. I'm a bit confused lately. I'm split between the two orientations so for the moment I'm calling myself Bisexual. The point is, I think I am gay, but I don't want to be. I'm not being a homophobe or anything, but I just never envisioned mysel...
A. 15 September 2009: heyy, you sound just like I did, it took me a long time to realise I was gay and like you I'd never envisioned or wanted to be gay and often wondered why me, when I was younger I wanted a wife and children more than anything, so how could I be gay? ... (read in full...)
My gay boyfriend and I broke up, he verbally abused and hurt me, I still love him, don't know what to do, please help?
Q. Hey guys, I have a story to tell, im a gay guy and my boyfriend dumped me like 3 weeks ago after a long and ugly fight, at the beginning of our relationship everything was perfect we both seemed to love each other, I visited him all the time mostly ...
A. 20 July 2009: You're better off without him, I understand it's hard but it will get easier and better, you need to try and take your mind off him surround yourself with friends and family and do thing you enjoy. Be strong do text or phone him it'll just make ... (read in full...)
I think I'm Gay...But I don't know what to do.
Q. As the topic states, I Think I Am Gay but I do not know what to do... The feelings are only sexual though. The idea of a life relationship with a man is an immediate turn off for me....but the idea of sex with a woman seems awkward to me. ...
A. 19 July 2009: It definately sounds like your gay, and the community your in must make it harder to accept it.
When I first accepted to myself I was gay/bi I never thought I would kiss a man or have a relationship with one, i just wanted sex etc, but now im in a... (read in full...)
I can't figure out if he's gay or not
Q. Hello, I'm a 19 year old gay male. I'm still closeted to all but one person and guess what? I've got the perennial gay problem -- I like someone and I don't know if they're gay or not. I know that this is asked a lot, but I'm looking to see what ...
A. 19 July 2009: He definately sounds gay to me, I wouldn't ask him if he was gay, If I was you I would tell him that you we're gay. I know that maybe hard but he sounds like a really decent lad, and if he is gay it will make it easier for him to tell you and I bet ... (read in full...)
Gay man with a dating question: is he leading me on?
Q. This is my first time doing this. I am a gay male, 28. I have been seeing a guy for over three months now. Initially, I met this guy and we hit it off. After about 2-3 weeks of seeing each other, he asked me if we could become more serious, but did ...
A. 19 July 2009: I don't think you need to be gay to find his behaviour strange, however I am gay - I've been with my boyfriend for two years I still have profiles on 'dating' sites, my boyfriend didn't appreciate it but he now understands i'm not cheating I just ... (read in full...)
Is this wrong or gay?
Q. im 14 and male and somtimes wen i have sleepovers with my friend we have wank but we dont do it to each other we both do it other porn but we make sure we are away from each other and we make sure we cant see each others penises is this wrong or ...
A. 19 July 2009: I never did it when I was younger but a few of my friends have done in the past, they are normal and straight. Your just young, curious, experimental and horny and as long as you and your friend don't mind it then I wouldn't say it was a problem. It ... (read in full...)
Sometimes, reaching your potential isn't so easy
Q. I don't really know what I'm writing but I feel the urge to get something off my chest... I'm confused, I used to think I was depressed or had the blues (so to speak)from time to time but I have recently realised I just go through phases where I t...
A. 4 September 2008: Caveman - I don't really understand the point your making, wake up to reality in what sense. And, the point i'm making is I don't just want to work for money so i can eat, drink, and survive i want something more out of life.
Jason X - cheers f... (read in full...)
Warning! Alcohol and it's FX!!
Q. Sometimes, when I reflect back on all the wine I drink I feel shame. Then I look into the glass and think about the workers in the vineyards, and all of their hopes and dreams. Now, if I didn't drink this wine, they might be out of work and thei...
A. 29 August 2008: haha, this made me laugh especially "WARNING: the consumption of alcohol may make you think you are whispering when you are not!" i'm really bad at thinking that when i'm drunk, ah well :P ... (read in full...)
"It's not about the pleasure, it's about the concept..." What does this mean exactly?
Q. My girlfriend uses a wheelchair, but I've never cared cause she's awesome. Usually we just make out, but recently she told me she wants to have sex. Now here's the funny part: her disability leaves her vagina with no sensation. I asked her why she'd ...
A. 27 August 2008: I kind of agree with the other post, she is probably thinking of you and the thought of you getting pleasure out of it may make her happy. Also, sex is more than just a physical thing and pleasure thing, its about two people being intimate, and ... (read in full...)
Lack of self esteem is causing problems for me.
Q. I just told my boyfriend about my lack of self esteem and why I tend to push people away including him... and why I'm constantly crying... he said we'll talk more about it... What should I be expecting from him... as far as treating me righ...
A. 27 August 2008: You think he won't look at you the same because you have no self esteem. Wait until you next speak before you start expecting certain things from him. You did the right thing in telling him, it must of been hard and now he knows, so you can work on ... (read in full...)
Someone explain what the hell my mind is doing to me.
Q. For my birthday my gf didn't do as much as I did for her on her bday and I am starting to feel petty. Because for her birthday I did a lot and went that extra mile just to make it special for her. I spent a lot of money I am not rich at all. For my ...
A. 27 August 2008: What your feeling is natural, you want to feel appreciated, you made an effort for your girlfriend and don't feel she did as much. However, it really shouldn't be about money, it should be about sentiment for my boyfriends birthday I couldn't afford ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my gf I like men more?
Q. Hi i an 13 and i an bi i like men more than women and i also have a girlfriend. how do i tell this to her without her breaking up with me or her feelings getting hurt?...
A. 15 August 2008: hey, be honest with her let her know that just because you like men aswell doesn't change the way you feel about her and for you to have an honest and open relationship you thought she needed to know. i'm gay, but i used to think i was bi and found ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if she likes me, and will my parents let me have a girlfriend?
Q. im a 13 year old boy. I hav a crush on someone and i am really desperate for a girlfriend. I dont know if she likes me because sometimes shes sending me lots of texts and laughs at my jokes but sometimes she completely ignores me. How do i find out ...
A. 15 August 2008: Firstly, I wouldn't get too hung up about getting a girlfriend just enjoy yourself and you'll find yourself one don't force the issue. Secondly, from what you have said it does sound like she is flirting with you, maybe ask how she would feel about ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me by his ex's name. Would you tolerate it?
Q. Would you tolerate the person in your life,your loved one,to by mistake call you by a ex's name?My fiance was married to a Liezel for thirteen years and my name is Lizel.Is it just because both start wit and L and am I just making too much of ...
A. 15 August 2008: To be honest I would be a bit annoyed if this happened to me, but it's just a mistake, think how many times you have said the wrong name by mistake - it just happens that this was his ex's name so you have taken it more seriously, don't dwell on it. ... (read in full...)
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