We have great sexual chemistry but there are red flags all over. Should I continue or leave him?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 3 weeks. We are both young I'm 20 he is 21. I'm in university and he has a part time job. We have amazing sexual chemistry and he is a very considerate and affectionate guy, a "good guy. But he has broken some ...
A. 4 April 2016: I guess it's a matter of what you want at the moment. If all you want is a fling and you think you're capable of that without getting involved then go in with both eyes open and don't let his problems become your problems. If you aren't careful ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to this text from his ex the night before her wedding?
Q. I am getting married in a month to the love of my life. He broke up with this girl 7 years ago and one of the reasons they broke up after a 5-year-realtionship was that she wanted to get married while he didn't. Today my fiancé got home and told me ...
A. 21 September 2012: If it was a one time text from her and not an ongoing relationship, I would let it go. It sounds like she was trying to make him jealous or prove something to him. Perhaps their break up was a bitter one on her part. Even if she were in love with ... (read in full...)
With so many men who claim to need porn should I even bother with a relationship?
Q. I don't even really know how to begin this but, here we go, I am confused about relationships. Mainly about if I am good enough. Everyone always says guys like to look, many of them watch porn, have nude magazines, some like strip clubs. I know ...
A. 21 September 2012: It's a minefield out there. You may find many men who feel entitled to porn and strippers and I would not expect these sorts of men to change. Know what you're getting into.
But just so that you don't feel hopeless, for some men, such as myse... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend lying about watching porn?
Q. I recently found out my girlfriend is downloading porn. This wouldn't concern me except for the fact that she has said she has no interest in porn and scoffed at the idea when we talked about it recently. She has expressed numerous times that I am ...
A. 11 September 2012: There is a disconnect between how she claims to feel about porn (uninterested) and her behaviour (decidedly interested). It can be hard for people to face these raw sides of themselves. Everyone has curiosities, fantasies, urges, etc that they may ... (read in full...)
I am having a serious clash with my boyfriend and I'm looking for some advice please.
Q. I am having a serious clash with my boyfriend and I'm looking for some advice please. I was raped about 7 years ago. It was very brutal (the guy was on a lot of drugs and had a knife) and it took me a long time to get myself back on track and ...
A. 11 September 2012: He sounds like an insensitive manchild to me. He has no excuse to be doing this to you, he knows your history and he knows it is triggering for you. I have had relationships with abused/raped women before so I know firsthand what a rape flashback ... (read in full...)
I found my boyfriend has been masturbating on webcam to four other girls
Q. Hi everyone. So, I've been dating this guy for 6 months - but I found out he had been masturbating on webcam to four other girls, including two girls who I know personally, one of whom used to be one of my best friends a few years back. He also ha...
A. 11 September 2012: Males can take a while to mature and become faithful partners. Unfortunately for you, you got burned by one. He cheated on you with four other girls that you and he knew personally. He may not have had physical sex with them, but... he may as well ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and my 25 year old friend hints that he wants to date me. Is there anything wrong with this?
Q. Hy. I dont know if this is a bad idea or not. Lately ive been friends with an awesome, kind ,funny an intelligent guy for 8 months. I like him so much. He s been telling me the past whole week that one day 'when the time is right' he would ...
A. 11 September 2012: If you're horrified by his age, it's probably not a good move for you to date him. Keep it friendly and platonic. ... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend. I want a bit more but not a relationship, I don't know how to tell him without scaring him off. What do I do?
Q. I just got out an 8 year relationship about 6 months ago and I cant separate my feelings from sex. Ive always considered myself to have a high sex drive, but majority of the time I was in relationships, so I didnt have to have casual sex but I have ...
A. 11 September 2012: I think that if the guy you're sleeping with has a girlfriend, he's not the one for you or what you want. I suggest you end it with him and move on elsewhere. There are plenty of men who would be willing to have a casual sex partner i.e. friend with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was touching himself during foreplay. Does this mean he wasn't turned on by me?
Q. Hi, Hope you can help. I am in a new relationship with a guy. I am not very sexually experienced, so was nervous when we slept together for the first time. During our second time together in bed, we had lots of foreplay as I told him I did not...
A. 11 September 2012: It can be excruciating to have an erection that lasts so long without any relief. It can be hard to sustain even if you are mentally aroused. Maybe in the future you could finish him off with your hand or mouth? ... (read in full...)
My fiance isn't telling people that we're getting married. Is something up?
Q. Back in August, my boyfriend and I decided that we will get married this October. We're both have been divorced in the past (no kids), so we're keeping it small and simple (family only). I'm not the type that fusses over engagement rings, big ...
A. 11 September 2012: No, not a guy thing. But maybe he's a private person and doesn't share personal details with a lot of people. I would assume that you'd know this about him considering you're getting married. Does he usually share more with these people? Talk to him ... (read in full...)
How do I stop gay guys from hitting on me? I'm straight!
Q. I don't know whether I should address it at other guys, gals, or perhaps gay men. The problem is that I keep getting hit by gay men. The thing is that I am in no way undecided, I am into women, point. And I'm not exactly the warm, romantic t...
A. 11 September 2012: Maybe you just exude a sexual energy that men pick up on... women probably pick up on it too just don't act on it since women rarely hit on men anyway. The only thing to do is politely and firmly decline the advances and keep living your life as you ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend lying about watching porn?
Q. I recently found out my girlfriend is downloading porn. This wouldn't concern me except for the fact that she has said she has no interest in porn and scoffed at the idea when we talked about it recently. She has expressed numerous times that I am ...
A. 11 September 2012: Probably for the same reason's that men lie about it.
Could be she is ashamed, or she is worried that it would hurt your feelings, or worried that you will be angry. Perhaps it is just a private thing for her that she doesn't want anyone else invo... (read in full...)
Should I trust him to make the right decisions?
Q. Thank you for taking the time and reading this... I have been with my bf for 3 years now and we have had our ups and downs. When we first started dating I didn't put effort into the relationship due to finding out my mother was diagnosed with c...
A. 11 September 2012: Vegas can test the strength of even long established and stable relationships. He doesn't sound like the type to care about making right decisions. I have a feeling that if you stay with him for a long time, you will find that it's an emotional ... (read in full...)
What would you think of an otherwise decent woman having a one night stand in the distant past?
Q. If you were dating a woman of good standing, moral fibre and integrity.... what would you think of her if you found out she made one big mistake several years ago in the form of a one night stand found from the internet? Would who she is today be ...
A. 11 September 2012: Most adults have similar backgrounds. I've had a lot of one night stands, mostly unmemorable. I would assume the same from any woman I was seeing. My lady I know has had a few (don't know the exact number) and I've never thought twice about it. It's ... (read in full...)
I'm scared about my feelings for another woman and what that makes me
Q. I don't know how to feel about a girl. I have never had a relationship before, I am a 22 year old female. I have never had a crush on anyone before until i had one on a female close friend. I told myself it was fleeting, and when she was with her ...
A. 5 September 2012: Are there any local support groups that you can contact for questioning people? Many bigger cities have LGBT phone lines or distress centres where you can talk to someone who has been through the process of realizing you're gay/lesbian and coping ... (read in full...)
Is my husband interested in Lisa? Should I be worried that he's angry that he missed out on a chance to be with her?
Q. What do you think about this situation? My husband and I occasionally hang out with another couple, I'll call them Bob and Lisa. Before we met, we both hung out with this couple seperately. My husband used to be Bob's best friend and when I was in ...
A. 5 September 2012: I'd like to hear your husband's take on this situation, unfortunately it's hard to guess at someone's motivations with only one side of the story.
Assuming he IS still attracted to her after all these years, why hasn't something happened soon... (read in full...)
Guys, are women with big boobs more 'valuable' than the rest of us?
Q. I was talking to my BF and he said that he was more inclined to treat a woman with big boobs with more care, respect and spoil her than a woman with smaller boobs. Of course I have a small B cup, and I asked him why he was with me. He said that I ...
A. 14 April 2012: Of course not. Your boyfriend is being ridiculous and sounds like a bit of a simpleton. ... (read in full...)
What are some good ways of losing weight, especially in the breast area?
Q. i am 16 years old,i am somewhat fatty,but my huge boobs give me the look more fattier.which exercises i should do at home to reduce my weight n also the size of my boobs? ...
A. 13 April 2012: The only thing that will change your weight is proper nutrition. I suggest you talk to your family doctor and get advice from them. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I'm turned on by my girlfriend's sex toys?
Q. Hi everyone, I’m just wanting to get a bit of perspective on something, it's not an issue per say, I just wanna make sure I’m not weird in my behaviour. Ok so basically my girlfriend and me have just started living together and she has brought ...
A. 12 April 2012: Doesn't sound weird to me. Watching your S.O. get off is very erotic.... (read in full...)
Are there any men they do not use pornography in a relationship?
Q. Are there any men here who don't use pornography in a relationship? I would absolutely love knowing they weren't looking at anyone else. I don't even know why they still do it and thinks it's normal to still look when they are getting sex. Men want ...
A. 12 April 2012: The age old question...
I don't use porn in a relationship. I've found it to be detrimental to my and her enjoyment of sex, as well as a hindrance to forming deep connections with women. Most women are very weary of men using porn and hesitate to g... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to find a girlfriend?
Q. I would like to know how I can get a girlfriend. I am a 36 year old male who has never had any kind of a relationship with a woman.(not even a week long fling when i was at school) I have never been in a situation where it is appropriate to g...
A. 5 April 2012: Stop viewing women as potential dating partners and start viewing them as individual people. Chances are that you act differently around women than men because you're getting desperate, and they can read your intentions and secret desires a mile ... (read in full...)
Should I make tomorrow out like a date? Or just being with a friend?
Q. Tomorrow I've got a date scheduled with a guy who is a friend. At first it was to keep him company as his girlfriend dumped him but we have been talking more and it seems like he is hitting on me and being really flirty. I mean we used to kinda date ...
A. 5 April 2012: Friend. Don't come on too strong, make him work to get you back, or you will be just like a rebound. He may be coming back for an ego boost after being dumped. Don't let him use you like that. Keep it casual.... (read in full...)
I'm disinterested in the relationship and wonder if I should end things?
Q. I've been in a relationship for about two months, but am really struggling with commitment. It isn't that I've cheated or anything, but am disinterested in my relationship and think to an extent it's because I'm scared of actually having to be part ...
A. 5 April 2012: Ending a relationship that isn't working for you isn't a sign of weakness or failure, so if you don't feel for him it's kinder to break it off early on rather than letting him get too attached. You're young, commitment is not required. Wait until ... (read in full...)
I let my b/f watch porn during oral sex. Is that a bad thing to do?
Q. Okay so, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I let him watch porn while I give him oral sex. It's never when we have sex, but my question is I feel like he's being turned on by the girls on the internet, is this okay or am I putting my ...
A. 5 April 2012: If both of you are happy with this arrangement then there's no reason not to. Different strokes.
On the other hand I would try giving him oral without porn next time and see if he still responds the same way. It could easily become a crutch for him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to porn.... what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 months... Our relationship is fine in everyway except our sex life. He has admitted to me recently that he is addicted to porn and watches it and masturbates 2-3 times a day. At first sex was never a...
A. 5 April 2012: It's early enough in the relationship that you can bail out without too many ill effects. Porn addiction for most men becomes a lifestyle that is too rewarding to willingly quit. It may take him many years before he realises what he is missing. In ... (read in full...)
Men: what do you prefer? Boobs? or butts?
Q. Hi guys as a matter of opinion what do you prefer in women: boobs or a nice firm ass? I have to admit I am an ass man but what do you prefer?...
A. 5 April 2012: Large ass and a small waist. Strong thighs, shapely calves. All women have breasts but an ass like that takes work, and I admire that. ... (read in full...)
During sex I decided it wasnt right..was that rape?
Q. I met up with this guy and concented to sex...then during sex I decided this wasnt right and asked him repeatedly to stop....he didnt, I even tried moving but I wasnt strong enough, when it was all over I just let it go and stayed the night....I ...
A. 9 October 2009: Pinktopaz- So, if you were in the middle of sex with a guy and you decided you didn't want to do it anymore for whatever reason, and he refused to let you get out from under him, and kept going and going, even though you were yelling at him to stop ... (read in full...)
During sex I decided it wasnt right..was that rape?
Q. I met up with this guy and concented to sex...then during sex I decided this wasnt right and asked him repeatedly to stop....he didnt, I even tried moving but I wasnt strong enough, when it was all over I just let it go and stayed the night....I ...
A. 9 October 2009: Yes, this is rape, do not let anyone tell you otherwise.
I have been involved with a woman who changed her mind halfway through (once) and I immediately stopped. Men can stop during sex. I for one would find it incredibly UNAROUSING to have sex with... (read in full...)
Small penis confusion... need guidance asap
Q. okay, so im embarassed to tell my friend so im trusting this website will help me out, im gonna get straight to the question. ive had sex with 2 guys, im guessing both of them were 2-3 inches long erect. after about 5 min of having sex i lite...
A. 20 March 2009: That's small. Most men are at least 2-3 inches bigger, so you're not the problem. If you can't feel anything during sex... well that's a problem. Sounds like you just had a bit of bad luck. Some women make do with small penises, but if you literally ... (read in full...)
Can a man have sex and not feel anything for the woman?
Q. Can a man have sex with a woman if he feels nothing for her or will he always have some sort of attraction? When men have affairs they tend to say its "just sex" - but surely it must be "just sex" with some sort of attraction?...
A. 19 March 2009: From a guy's perspective, I think the bar pretzel theory is very accurate. Of course some guys never take the free pretzels cuz they just won't settle for anything less than filet mignon, but for a lot of guys, especially young ones... yeah we ... (read in full...)
He likes porn because "they look better than you"
Q. i am with a lovely man who is kind and gentle. He likes his porn and one day i asked him why. His response was that "they are better looking than me". Well, I was devastated. Since then I have forgiven him but I find intimacy with him very di...
A. 18 March 2009: What an idiot. Has pretty much just sabotaged any chance at a fulfilling (real) sex life and opted instead for the cheap thrill of porn. He may be "kind and gentle" in your eyes, but he's a moron in mine.
I'm not sure if there is a fix for this... (read in full...)
Can a man have sex and not feel anything for the woman?
Q. Can a man have sex with a woman if he feels nothing for her or will he always have some sort of attraction? When men have affairs they tend to say its "just sex" - but surely it must be "just sex" with some sort of attraction?...
A. 17 March 2009: Some men can. Some men can't. I have some male friends that are serial monogamists and can't sleep with girls until they know it's right, that they have real feelings for each other.
I used to sleep around with girls who weren't that attr... (read in full...)
After a year of sex, I've never had an orgasm..how do I tell my b/f?
Q. I think all of us girls (and most of the guys out there) are perfectly aware that it is not only normal but common for a woman to only orgasm with clitoral stimulation. But, I think my boyfriend doesn't know that this is the case. Because I am lou...
A. 17 March 2009: 1. Why don't you just trim your pubic hair if this is such a worry for you?
2. Don't tell him that you've never come, it's not a good way to start the conversation. Instead say something like, "I'd like to try something new in bed, and see if it m... (read in full...)
I like my daughter's coach!
Q. I am a single mum who has a nine year old daughter. my daughter has recently started tennis lessons and her male coach is very nice very good looking..and single!! Is it wrong to ask him out as he is my daughters coach and how are some ways i can ...
A. 17 March 2009: I agree with CandyCakes. There is nothing inappropriate about trying to have a relationship with this man. Just take it slow, if you want a relationship with him and not a one night stand it's best to have a foundation of friendship first. ... (read in full...)
If he knew it was wrong, why did he cheat twice?
Q. My husband cheated on me he says he is sorry and it will never happen again.When i asked him if you had never got caught would you still be going behind my back his reply was can,t really answer that but proberly.This is not the first time he has ...
A. 17 March 2009: "When i asked him if you had never got caught would you still be going behind my back his reply was can,t really answer that but proberly."
So he basically admitted that he would/will cheat so long as he doesn't get caught.
He has no respect f... (read in full...)
My sister wanted me to spy on her fiance..do I tell her what I found?
Q. my sister sent ne on a mission to spy on her fiance. their wedding wud take place in three weeks. well, i got to find out he has an affair wt his coleague at work and when i caught him red handed in an eatery, hugging her, saying bye see u later , ...
A. 17 March 2009: I would tell her. Her being 35 and eager to get married is no reason not to tell her- marriage is supposed to be for life so she should marry someone she can see herself being happy with for life, not just any man who will have her. She deserves to ... (read in full...)
He cheated 8 years ago and has only just told me
Q. Hi Aunts , Last week my partner and I of 20 years together went to his works reunion party. We mingled with lots of people we both knew well. This particular woman kept hanging on to my husband and I overheard her say to him she wouldnt forget t...
A. 15 March 2009: You have a very good husband (if what he says is true)- he made one mistake 8 years ago, and has promised that it never went so far as sex. Given your situation, married, with a kid, I think it's best to try to forgive him and move on. Maybe couples ... (read in full...)
My 21 year old sister is doing sexual things that I know she will regret
Q. Im 26 years old and have a 21 yr old sister she was baby sitting for me and when she used our computer she didnt log off. I happened to come across a very distrubing email from her boyfriend of 6 months. Before I satrt I should say that se was been...
A. 15 March 2009: Why the hell would you mention it to yout parents? It's none of your or their business what your sister is doing.
Some people like kinky sex, some people like dirty talking, some people like group sex. Just because you don't understand it does... (read in full...)
What are the signs of a true female orgasm?
Q. I want to know what the signs of a "true female orgasm" are. I know that there are some people who say that you can't tell but I don't believe that. So someone please help me by making this clear to me....
A. 15 March 2009: You can feel her vagina tightening/loosening around you. The contractions (at least for me) are really easy to feel. That's the easiest way to know she's not faking it, coupled with her heavy breathing/moaning/sometimes screaming. ... (read in full...)
Please help. I am dying to talk to to my b/f's friends
Q. my boyfriend has friends that goes to my school........... i never talked to them before but now i want to make friends with them , how can i approach them.? and what if they reject me or maybe ask me out ? i want to tell my boyfriend about it but ...
A. 12 March 2009: Have your boyfriend introduce them to you, then you can get to know them. If they are decent friends they won't ask you out. ... (read in full...)
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