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writes:me and myboyfriend have fight every day or after one or two days. i know he loves me and i also love him but there is something... like if we get to talk about any thing we end up fighting and i dont know what to do... plz help me and tell me what i should do..... to let him know that i love him and care for him Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (24 October 2010):
Hi there. You probably both want to be right, and aren't willing to see the other's point of view with an open mind.
This is usually the reason most couples fight, because neither wants to see the other person's side of things. Both feel they are right and the other is wrong.
When you talk to each other, listen intently without interrupting.
Try when you are in conversation, to see his side of things and therefore gain an understanding of where he's coming from with his thinking. This is being open minded. Being open to different ideas, not just your own.
It's being flexible with your thinking.
If you stay open and flexible, you are showing him the respect he deserves. Everyone wants to be heard, it makes people feel good about themselves. He in turn, will do the same for you.
You will quickly find over time, that things will flow a lot more smoothly. You'll be able to talk about anything and everything, and feel free to be yourselves knowing that you are accepted for being you. It allows you the freedom to be yourself.
To allow a person to say what they want without argument (within reason of course, excluding rudeness), shows that you respect them and accept them for who they are -unconditionally. We all want that.
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