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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I feel that my boyfriend of 7 months no longer finds me attractive. In the begining things were great but just the other day he asked me "Who's the other guy?" I said there was none and asked him the same. He answered in the same manner. I joked with him and asked what she looked like. He said size 1 or 2. I am 5 foot 2 inches, 120 lbs. and a size 6. I've been working out nonstop and he still seems uninterested. I'd like to continue this relationship but I don't know how when it feels one sided. No kiss before bed, I don't remember the last time he said I was beautiful, and he acts annoyed when I want more from him. I spend everyday trying my absolute hardest to provide for him and make him happy and nothing has worked. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (28 November 2010):
Hi there. Why did you both ask about - who is the other guy/girl?
What is all that about?
Unless you have given each other a reason to doubt, that's an unusual question to ask.
It points to insecurity - by both of you.
Perhaps his question to you, is because you are always at the gym and he thinks that maybe there's someone there who you are going to see. It's possible.
You need to talk to each other about everything, and get it all out in the open and how you both feel.
He probably sees you as already being attractive enough, but just doesn't say it in so many words. Men don't always like to express themselves verbally.
He might be losing trust in you because you're always at the gym and he might have all different thoughts going around in his head every time you go there.
Another thought that might be playing in his mind, might be that you consider it more important to go the gym and work out, than be with him.
It might seem to him that your priorities are all wrong. That you place looking good above his importance in your life and the quality of the relationship.
I think this might be the problem.
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