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writes:i have been with my fiance for 2 years. we have been fighting for our relationship from the start. our parents dont approve because of religious differences and my friends thought it was a rebelion against my parents. 3 months into our relationship he cheated on me. it was only recently after we had become physical and i forgave him but found it awhile before i trusted him again. we moved in together after dating for 6 months. after living together for about a year we decided to have a threesome with a friend of ours and told him to get comfortable with her. my mistake there. when i was at work one night they were drinking and making out when it got carried over to the bedroom. although they never finished they quit soon after starting. i found out from her because she felt guilty. im still with him. i love him and i have defied everyone to be with him, but is it worth it? he hasnt even so much as talked to another girl without me there since then, and he is trying to regain my trust but am i doing the right thing in staying with him?
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reader, youngandrestless +, writes (1 December 2010):
youngandrestless is verified as being by the original poster of the question sorry there seems to be a missunderstanding in my message. Me and my fiance arent the ones fighting eachother. We are mostly fighting our families so we can be together. His family is JW and mine is christian. even though we dont follow either religion our parents still think we need to marry within the respective religions. actually we get along very well otherwise. we go out on dates every 2 weeks, we rarely fight, and we generally have a very good relationship. exept for the problem i asked for advice for on here. thats the reason i havnt left him, because he treats me very well and loves me and i love him so much. i want to marry him and grow old and have his children. im just worried that im being a fool but now that i think about it i trust him. its still hard sometimes but i know that we can get throught this thankyou everyone for helping me.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (30 November 2010):
Hi there. Perhaps the threesome was a bad idea. It's like giving him permission to cheat on you with her in future. It seems that he has done that.
Cheating is not always a reason to breakup a relationship. It just depends on how well you both get along with each other generally.
Also, does he generally treat you with love and respect, and take you to nice places and spend money on you?
As long as you can build up the trust you used to have, and he does nothing out of the ordinary, or become very secretive, or get upset with you if you ask him a simple question, then you need to trust him.
Trust him completely, unless he gives you any reason not to.
Once you feel trust again, your relationship will go a lot more smoothly in future. Because then there will be no more nagging doubts.
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reader, Trac675  +, writes (30 November 2010):
 Walk away...if you fight like that now, it will get worse, TRUST ME...going thru it now, and we are on year 8 and just got married in Aug. The fights were NEVER this bad.
it sucks ass
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reader, bernergirl +, writes (30 November 2010):
 I don't think you're going to like the answer. No. You need to get out of this. I will say this, I have been in relationships my parents don't approve of my boyfriend but never again. If anything perhaps push things back a little. But both of you are still really young. There is so much you have yet to experience, I know you love him, but I think you should look at your relationship from outside. If a friend came to you with this problem what would you advise them? Good luck.
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