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writes:Since 8th grade of 2009, a friend has liked this boy. She tells me she in love with him and I understand why. Im In 9th grade now and I was in front of my house with my dog and I see him walking with some friends and he says hi to me cause my best friend and him were kinda close. So i call him over he starts petting my dog and when he looks up at me he looks different but a good different, more cute and then I asked for a hug and he gave me one. Then he had to go. I kinda couldn't stop thinking about him since then. Should i tell my best friend my new out of no where feelings for him? me and my bestfreind have been close since 7th grade where in 9th now and we almost always like the same guys but idk how she'd react to me liking a guy she loves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): I agree with this comment, if your friend isnt going out with him, then its okay for you both to like him! She may be angry at first when you tell her, but soon she'll understand and you two can talk and giggle about how hot he is. However, if she is not a true friend or the jealous/competitive type, she may be really pissed off and think you are trying to steal her guy. Good luck!!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (4 December 2010):
Hi there. Your friend likes this boy, but they are just friends now - not boyfriend and girlfriend.
Is that right?
It's ok to both like the same boy, as long as you don't try to steal him off your friend.
At the moment as they aren't actually going out - just friends - it's really going to come down to who he chooses between you. When and if it gets to that point.
I guess you could say he's cute, when she talks about it. Don't make a big fuss about it and go on and on about him, or she will be suspicious and feel threatened by you.
So unless she talks about him to you, don't bring up the subject. Say nothing.
As you like him too, for now see how things seem to go between her and him over time, then decide what your next move will be.
If over a month or two, they seem to be more of a couple, then that will be the signal to back off. If you were then to take him from her, you would lose her friendship probably forever. Besides that, you wouldn't like it if someone did that to you.
In any case, apart from being cute and good looking, you really need to get to know him better than that to know if you wanted to go out with him.
There is no harm in saying hi, and having a bit of a chat from time to time. Just don't make any outright passes at him, especially as your friend was with him first.
Asking him for a hug, is a bit flirtatious and could lead to more than that, so be careful. He might go back and tell your friend, or worse still, your friend might catch you in the act.
So there's a few things for you think about.
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