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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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I'm 14 and I'm pregnant by my 15 year old B/f who talked me into sex. What do I do now?
Q. Hey!:) Ok, I have a huge problem and really need some help! I'm 14 years old, and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months. He is 15, and in the year above me at school. At the beginning of the relationship, everything was absoutol...
A. 5 September 2012: Not being pro-abortion doesn't mean you shouldn't consider it in this case. Im not for abortion, and I never intend to have one. If I get pregnant, then I'll have the child. I know I couldn't live with having an abortion.
But even so, I do suppo... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I'm pregnant by my 15 year old B/f who talked me into sex. What do I do now?
Q. Hey!:) Ok, I have a huge problem and really need some help! I'm 14 years old, and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months. He is 15, and in the year above me at school. At the beginning of the relationship, everything was absoutol...
A. 4 September 2012: Talk to a teacher at school, get to your doctor and have a check-out. Tell the truth about how you ended up in this situation, tell the truth about your boyfriend.
Eventually, you will also have to talk to your parents. This boyfriend of yours is... (read in full...)
Are there guys out there who actually don't like strip clubs?
Q. Are there guys out there who actually DON'T like strip clubs? I live in a mining town and strip clubs are starting to pop up everywhere, and since mining is a very male dominated field, guys go there after work to bond, and blah blah. I've been ...
A. 3 September 2012: Yes. I am fairly confident that my boyfriend doesn't like strip clubs. He barely let women touch him before he started dating me, he would look away as soon as anyone flashed a bit too much skin etc. So I hardly think he'd be interested in a strip ... (read in full...)
How do I now cope with fact he's slept with 10 girls since we had our partial break-up 7 months ago?
Q. My boyfriend and I split up 7 months ago, but we remained close and still had a physical relationship. (not the wisest decision I know). However recently, he told me that he has slept with 10 different girls during the 7 months, one of which wa...
A. 2 September 2012: *10 other women... (read in full...)
How do I now cope with fact he's slept with 10 girls since we had our partial break-up 7 months ago?
Q. My boyfriend and I split up 7 months ago, but we remained close and still had a physical relationship. (not the wisest decision I know). However recently, he told me that he has slept with 10 different girls during the 7 months, one of which wa...
A. 2 September 2012: I must add one thing: if he still had feelings for you he wouldn't have slept with other girls. He isn't that into you. If he had genuine feelings for you he wouldn't even think of other women, let alone sleep with 7 of them at the same time as he ... (read in full...)
How do I now cope with fact he's slept with 10 girls since we had our partial break-up 7 months ago?
Q. My boyfriend and I split up 7 months ago, but we remained close and still had a physical relationship. (not the wisest decision I know). However recently, he told me that he has slept with 10 different girls during the 7 months, one of which wa...
A. 2 September 2012: .. Nothing to forgive, you were broken up. But that isn't to say you need to be fine with it. Once he's slept with someone else, even kissed I will imagine, the close connection you and him had, the intimacy between you, was broken. Gone. No more. ... (read in full...)
Can I make sex turn into just pleasure and no pain?
Q. Hi there i am 23 years of age. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now he's my first serious boyfriend. Now for a while i had a problem when having intercourse i has terrible stinging but had tests and nothing was found. Anyways it could of ...
A. 2 September 2012: My bet is that you aren't lubricated enough. It needs to be a slippery slope down there. Just being moist isn't enough, you need to wet the sheets, to give you an image.
If you can't manage it on your own, or with his help (he produced lubrican... (read in full...)
Would a woman be irritated by my bending penis?
Q. my penis is bending (as a arc) left side always...it will irritate a women?...
A. 2 September 2012: No, it will be fine. But you and the woman in question will have to adjust and find positions that are comfortable for the both of you (but that is something every man and woman must do, no matter the curve or direction of the penis).... (read in full...)
18 year old living with us is too friendly. Do I tell her brother?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm in a living with my boyfriend for the past 4 years now,and everything was going great,he has a good job so do I..but now the problem has arised cuz of a third person which unfortunately I brought into the picture.. My best guy fr...
A. 2 September 2012: If she just has a mess in "her" room then let it be a mess. Close the door so you don't have to see it. Then make sure she cleans it when she leaves.
If it's really bothering you to have her there, and she isn't paying any rent, just kick her... (read in full...)
This guy I met a week ago won't leave me alone!
Q. I met a guy a week ago, yes that's just a week ago, we talked and generally got on. I told him from the offset that I wasn't looking for anything more than friendship and he seemed cool with that, but now he won't stop calling me. Apparently we are ...
A. 2 September 2012: Tell him you met someone else. ... (read in full...)
I feel like my love for him died.
Q. I had a pregnancy scare a few days ago, I told my bf and I took a test, it came out positive. But, just to be sure I made an appointment for another test. At first, my bf seemed supportive and soothed my nerves. On our way to the appointment though, ...
A. 2 September 2012: His reaction was normal, sure.. It showed who he truly is. He's someone who doesn't trust you, accuses you of things, and doesn't back you up when things get tough. Nice guy, huh?
I'm backing you up on this on, he was out of line, and if you want... (read in full...)
Wife talking to a FWB from 15 years ago. Should I worry?
Q. Should I be worried about my wife talking with here friend with benifit from about 15 years ago? My wife and I have been married 13 years and have two girls. About four month ago i notice my wife was becoming very secretive with her iPhone. ...
A. 2 September 2012: She said you drove her into it, I just have to comment on that part. Don't dismiss this so easily. I am sure you are trying your best to make the marriage work, but if she's saying things like that then perhaps you and her need to talk about it? ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my mom want me to sleep in the nude?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm a 14 year old girl. I like to sleep in the nude but my mom doesn't want me to. She never gives me a reason, she just objects. I started sleeping naked over the summer when it's super comfortable. What would she find wrong o...
A. 31 August 2012: Maybe your mother worries that people will enter your room to wake you up and end up seeing you naked. Maybe she's walked in and seen too much of you for her own liking. Not everyone are comfortable with nudity. Some people were raised to think that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tried a new toy with me but neither of us knows what it is called
Q. Dear cupid, So, I feel kind of awkward and not very smart asking this question, buuut here goes...lol. I had sex with my guy last night, and before we got started, he slipped this little band of rubber around the base of his penis. It was pr...
A. 31 August 2012: Cock ring/penis ring. Sometimes they vibrate too. ... (read in full...)
This don't make sense. How is it possible that he contracted chlamydia if we have both been faithful?
Q. i have been in a four year relationship, i have had many pap smear done and been tested for all std's, my man just went to the health department and got tested, and they told him he would have to come back in a couple of days to know the results, ...
A. 31 August 2012: Men don't have any symptoms of chlamydia. He could have had it for years without knowing. My question though is.. did you come back negative? ... (read in full...)
Is my husband controlling? Now the children are copying his style of communicating too.
Q. Is my husband controlling? We have been married for 21 years and he always wants to know where I am and what I am doing, even what time i will be home. I never go anywhere without one of the kids! He talks to me like i am a child, telling me what...
A. 31 August 2012: Set him and your children straight. He only does this because you allow him to. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when I'm not sure its mine?
Q. Should i tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when i'm not sure its mine? I have a grIfriend right now, she became my girlfriend in february, when my ex found out that i have a girlfriend, a few days after, she told me that she was 1 month pregnant and ...
A. 30 August 2012: Oh yeah, do not sit around and wait to see what happens. You can regret it. Take the first step and get involved. That way you can be on top of things, and YOU can control what happens next. If you let her decide what happens next you might regret ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when I'm not sure its mine?
Q. Should i tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when i'm not sure its mine? I have a grIfriend right now, she became my girlfriend in february, when my ex found out that i have a girlfriend, a few days after, she told me that she was 1 month pregnant and ...
A. 30 August 2012: If the baby is already home I am convinced it is not yours. A premature baby would be kept at the hospital in an incubator, needing medical assistance to stay alive. It would not be home.
Premature babies are TINY. Did the child look of normal b... (read in full...)
My best friend's girlfriend made him break all contact with me, and he did! I'm hurt and don't know what to do.
Q. I had a Friend who was one of my best friends. In fact he was more like the little brother I never had. About a month or so ago, he got back with his ex, who had cheated on him in the past. He said at the time, he felt like he was making a huge mi...
A. 29 August 2012: Babe and sweetheart.. Yes, thats definitely flirting. I would be bothered by it as well. It's not about insecurity for me, it's about respect. If a guy's with me and talking like that to another woman, then that's disrespectful to our relationship. ... (read in full...)
Want to be skinny
Q. i want to get skinny im uk size 8 or 10 but feel really fat i hate my body and need some confidence i have always been a bit chubby and always upset at my body i want to be petit i hate being curvy i find it so unatracctive and fat help me get ...
A. 29 August 2012: People wont call you a skeleton when you walk into the showers. Adults wont look at you and say your clothes are sagging on you because everything you wear looks too big. Adults wont give you comments about how you need to eat more, eat more, eat ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when I'm not sure its mine?
Q. Should i tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when i'm not sure its mine? I have a grIfriend right now, she became my girlfriend in february, when my ex found out that i have a girlfriend, a few days after, she told me that she was 1 month pregnant and ...
A. 29 August 2012: That baby must be premature, yes. Have you seen any photos of it? Maybe check her facebook page, or have a friend check it for you. Many post pictures of their babies online these days. You should see right away if the baby is premature or not. A ... (read in full...)
Does watching lesbian porn mean I'm bisexual?
Q. Hi I am a 24 year old virgin,I don't believe in sex before marriage,I believe in abstinence..I know some of you may think its crazy but these are my values,luckily the men I have dated understood this about me and never pressured me into sex.. I...
A. 29 August 2012: It is normal to watch lesbian porn, just as normal as it is for anyone to watch porn. There's nothing abnormal about it, and tons of straight people watch gay porn.
Fantasy is fantasy, real life is a very different thing. The stuff I love in ... (read in full...)
My husband lied about his ex for THREE years
Q. I've know my husband all my life. We reconnected about three years ago and have been married for six months. We've had problems in the past about his ex. They were together for seven years but they don't have any children and they weren't married. ...
A. 28 August 2012: I worry that he felt like lying, when in fact it is the LYING that is the problem here, not the ex. He started lying about her for a reason. When he said he didn't want to hurt you, that tells me there was something going on. If they were just ... (read in full...)
Does watching lesbian porn mean I'm bisexual?
Q. Hi I am a 24 year old virgin,I don't believe in sex before marriage,I believe in abstinence..I know some of you may think its crazy but these are my values,luckily the men I have dated understood this about me and never pressured me into sex.. I...
A. 28 August 2012: No, watching lesbian porn does not make you lesbian, nor bisexual. You could be bisexual for all I know, but whatever porn you watch is NOT relevant to your sexual orientation.
Porn is a sexual fantasy, not the reality of your sexual interest... (read in full...)
Husband thinks swinging can save our marriage
Q. I split up from my husband about three years ago, as he was cold, disinterested in me or our son, and refused to give me any housekeeping. I started a very romantic affair with a guy, got myself a rented house where my son and I were happy. My new ...
A. 28 August 2012: I think you were happier with your boyfriend. You only live life once, remember. ... (read in full...)
Thin line between real and imaginary.
Q. Hello cupids. I felt like writing this question, well more like an asking for help about a stupidity of mine that I did. So after I broke up with my real girlfriend because she was seeing a friend of mine, I was starting to become sentimentalist on ...
A. 28 August 2012: I think you need to see the real girl, basically. You can still end up liking how she really goods, especially since you fell in love with her already. Love makes blind, as the saying goes.
But she lied to you, and that's really bad. It says som... (read in full...)
I got him off drugs, got him a job and now he leaves me!
Q. Where do I begin,my life's just been a roller coaster ride..when I was 15 I started seeing this guy from my class and we dated all through secondary and high school and rolled into the same university for further studies in new jersey..he was basket ...
A. 27 August 2012: And I need to tell you that I say this because I have been in your shoes so many times. I fall very easily for the "needy" ones, the ones who need rescue. I fall for the ones who have no self esteem, who needs to be build up, the ones who need that ... (read in full...)
I got him off drugs, got him a job and now he leaves me!
Q. Where do I begin,my life's just been a roller coaster ride..when I was 15 I started seeing this guy from my class and we dated all through secondary and high school and rolled into the same university for further studies in new jersey..he was basket ...
A. 27 August 2012: You weren't his girlfriend, you were acting like his mother. It was not your job to take are of him. That was his job. If he wasn't mature enough to deal with his own life then you should have ended things right then and there. Because this is what ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to women, but don't "like" women - anyone else like that?
Q. I am a straight, single, social, male, 24-years of age. I've been single for a long time now (last 'relationship', if you can call it that, was back in high school, which wasn't really anything) and it's got me thinking and others frequently asking, ...
A. 27 August 2012: " spending time trying to sift through everyone to find that perfect someone who 'I don't find annoying or irrational' seems like a real unproductive waste - there is so much to do in this world that seems more important."
Thats why you're s... (read in full...)
Thin line between real and imaginary.
Q. Hello cupids. I felt like writing this question, well more like an asking for help about a stupidity of mine that I did. So after I broke up with my real girlfriend because she was seeing a friend of mine, I was starting to become sentimentalist on ...
A. 27 August 2012: Ask to see her on a webcam chat then. Maybe things can work out anyhow. I hope she's not lied about her age. ... (read in full...)
Is he not into sex because he's aware of what is going on around him?
Q. Hey, silly question. The other day I was having sex with my fiancé and right in the middle of the action he noticed my head was banging against the wall - nothing major, really, I could just feel the wall touching my head... I wasn't hurt or ...
A. 27 August 2012: How in the world you've managed to turn a sweet and considerate move on his part, into something negative, is beyond me. Of course he was being considerate! How in the world would it be a good thing to be so self obsessed that you can only focus on ... (read in full...)
I met my soul mate online but he just broke up with me via text because his mom told him to!
Q. Dear Cupids I am at my lowest point ever I hope you can understand everything I have to say , and would really like your opinions of how to go about this. I met this guy online ( i know I was also one of the ones that said never ...
A. 26 August 2012: He told you this today. Give it some time. You need to think, he needs to think. Don't make any rash decisions, wait it out and see what happens. ... (read in full...)
Thin line between real and imaginary.
Q. Hello cupids. I felt like writing this question, well more like an asking for help about a stupidity of mine that I did. So after I broke up with my real girlfriend because she was seeing a friend of mine, I was starting to become sentimentalist on ...
A. 26 August 2012: She might as well be a man, that's why. And lying about who you are isn't something forgivable, no. Lying is lying. Looks don't matter if she had been honest. But how can he even know that she is a woman? She (or he) betrayed his trust. I do not ... (read in full...)
Thin line between real and imaginary.
Q. Hello cupids. I felt like writing this question, well more like an asking for help about a stupidity of mine that I did. So after I broke up with my real girlfriend because she was seeing a friend of mine, I was starting to become sentimentalist on ...
A. 26 August 2012: Next time, always ask to see someone on webcam-chat on skype where you can hear each others voices and see each other. This is essential to see if the person you speak to is real or not.
As for now, take this as a lesson learnt. We all learn th... (read in full...)
I love kids but I don't want to give birth because I'm just terrified of the pain of delivery!
Q. I am 23 years old..I have always loved kids,I see them around I make it a point to go to them,play with them..I would do anything to have one..and I used to always tell my friends that I would want to adopt a baby.. Now fast forward to my current ...
A. 26 August 2012: I think you really need to discuss this with your boyfriend. This is something you should have spoken to him about before you got engaged. Maybe he also wants to adopt, and then there will be no problems. ... (read in full...)
Will he grow to love our child?
Q. Dear Cupid I am separated from my husband for a year. Had an affair meanwhile and now I'm pregnant. My bf doesnt want anything to do with me or my pregnancy now. Will he ever love my child if I go on with my pregnancy, I don't want my child to be de...
A. 26 August 2012: We can not say if he will ever love his child. But after my mother got pregnant my father didn't want me. He didn't want a child, and he wanted my mother to have an abortion if she could have. But she discovered she was pregnant after 5 months, so ... (read in full...)
My husband and his family do not believe I was a virgin because I didn't bleed after our first night together. Why did I not bleed?
Q. Hola I am from Mexico . Please forgive my English it is second language to me. I am originally from Mexico but live here in the united states. I am 21 years old and recently got married . I was a virgin when I married . I didn't bleed . My husband ...
A. 26 August 2012: Not all virgins bleed, it is a myth that virgins bleed.
You probably didn't bleed because your husband was good to you in bed. Was it painful? First time having sex does not need to be painful. But if a man is too rough, or the woman isn't re... (read in full...)
Fallen out of love with my girlfriend and don't know how to tell her
Q. Hi and help. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and a wonderful three years we do not live together but it is getting to that stage that she wants to. We spent last week on holiday together and although it was good i think i have sta...
A. 26 August 2012: I'm thinking you have a great relationship you just don't know it, because you are young and this is your first and so far only serious relationship.
All relationships have ups and downs, and there's going to be the occasional argument over som... (read in full...)
How do I meet friends and people to socialize with? I feel very lonely.
Q. Hello, I am 24, I've just moved out. I have a job/career that I love and I'm really happy with that aspect of my life. However, I think I've sacrificed a social life to get to where I want/needed to be. I would say, I have three close fr...
A. 26 August 2012: "what I really struggle doing is turning them into friends that I feel comfortable calling up out of the blue"
There's just one way: take the plunge and do it. Call them, ask if they want to meet up and do something (pick an activity before c... (read in full...)
How do I avoid becoming pregnant by my husband who won't allow me to use birth control?
Q. My husband of 6 years won't pull out during sex. We are catholic so he refuses for me to use any birth control. I do not want to get pregnant. Please give me advice...
A. 26 August 2012: Stop having sex with him. ... (read in full...)
How do I meet friends and people to socialize with? I feel very lonely.
Q. Hello, I am 24, I've just moved out. I have a job/career that I love and I'm really happy with that aspect of my life. However, I think I've sacrificed a social life to get to where I want/needed to be. I would say, I have three close fr...
A. 25 August 2012: So, is there a particular reason why you don't reach out and get in touch with people? You say you want to, but yet you're not doing it. You've got every excuse in the book, blaming it on career, studies, friends not willing to help you get more ... (read in full...)
What percentage of adult males needs lube for mastubration?
Q. Strictly curious, repeat, strictly curious, what per centage approximately of the populations of adult, human males always, always, always needs lube for selfsexuality/masturbating, actually?...
A. 25 August 2012: Few. Most of the worlds male population is not circumcised and have no need for any form of lubricant. And some of the circumcised ones don't even use lube all the time, so I'm going to place my bet at approximately 0.5% or less of the worlds male ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when I'm not sure its mine?
Q. Should i tell my gf that my ex is pregnant when i'm not sure its mine? I have a grIfriend right now, she became my girlfriend in february, when my ex found out that i have a girlfriend, a few days after, she told me that she was 1 month pregnant and ...
A. 28 March 2012: I think you should tell your girlfriend and family. Tell them how it is, that your ex girlfriend is saying she is pregnant and that it is yours, but that you are not sure it is yours. Have your family give you advice on what you should do. But tell ... (read in full...)
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