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writes: i want to get skinny im uk size 8 or 10 but feel really fat i hate my body and need some confidence i have always been a bit chubby and always upset at my body i want to be petit i hate being curvy i find it so unatracctive and fat help me get skinny or confident in my fat body !!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 August 2012):
 You go to mom and you say "mom I think I'm fat and i know I'm not... I may need some help so I don't get anorexic can I please see the doctor"
getting support and help from those that love you is very important in healing...
I get where you are honey.. I used to be a US size 28... now i'm a US size 8/10 but last summer I was a 2/4/6 and I thought i looked great... now i realize I was bony and too skinny... but no one had the guts to tell me to gain weight... thankfully I've gained more than enough and now I battle with about 10.... but I still struggle in my brain thinking i need to get back down to a smaller size.... and lose 20 or more...
body image issues are so hard...
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reader, BLONDII3  +, writes (30 August 2012):
 GP's are legally bound by legislation to keep it private if that's what you want- so they won't tell your parents- although it might be best to tell them- your parents only have your best interests at heart :)
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (30 August 2012):
There is nothing wrong with your size, honey. I do understand what you're going through, as I experienced the same when I was your age. Then I started crash dieting, got really skinny and as a result guys didn't even want to go out with me anymore because I was such a bag of bones. When you lose a lot of weight, you lose the good stuff as well: boobs and butt. I went from a C to an A. My hair started falling out too and I generally looked unhealthy, which got people asking those questions Chigirl was talking about. No fun. Plus it's bad for your health. I spent 5 years getting my metabolism back to normal and just becoming healthy.
Look at Scarlett Johansson. She's your size and she rocks it. She just knows what works for her body. Every guy I discussed the Avengers with were talking about ScarJo's body, not the thin girl on deck, even though they were both wearing tight clothes. If you see her in a bikini you notice she's not perfect. But that doesn't stop women from wanting to look like her and guys from wanting to be with her.
So change up your role models (exit Victoria Secret models, enter ScarJo and many others) and stop reading those teen mags that tell you you need to look like a stick to be cool. It took me a while to learn at your age that there are only a few girls who look good that way, which has to do with how their bodies are built (small shoulders, small hips, small everything.) When you have a rougher build, like me, you look like a sack of bones at model-weight.
If you want to look tighter and slimmer, work on replacing some of that bodyfat with muscle. Make a point of stretching throughout as well. I took on Bikram Yoga 6 years ago, along side with a bodyweight workout regime (=pushups, situps, bridges, squats, pull-ups +variations of all these). I'm much leaner than I'm used to be, but in a graceful way. I will never be able to be skinny and look good that way. Instead I look strong without looking masculine. I much prefer that.
As for food, try to eat more protein (chicken, eggs, fish, etc.) and more green veggies, but other than that please enjoy what you eat. Don't diet, just try to meet your bodies nutritional needs. That doesn't mean you have to completely quit on french fries and burgers and ice cream. I still eat all that. I just make a point of not eating it every week.
Just don't make the mistake I did, by going on a diet, going too far and ending up with an ED and all the issues that come along with it. I wasted 5 years making up for that and if I can prevent someone else from doing the same I'd be very happy.
As for the GP, one way is to tell your parents you want to meet up with your GP because you feel sluggish and then go there and tell him/her the true story and take it from there. If your GP advises to tell your parents, please do so. Your parents would love it if you come to them for help. The worst thing for a parent is when their child struggles but they don't know about it. So please consider telling them.
Hope that helps, OP.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 August 2012):
 Stop looking at the labels on clothes. Your absolute best bet is to pick a sport: tennis, running, swimming, whatever you think would interest you most, then get really involved in it. Your body will naturally adapt and change to do the sport and your mind, well, that will gain a HUGE boost of confidence and clarity.
Skip the diets and don't focus on the scale or the size labels.
Pick the healthy things: food, moving your body and team or individual sports and you will look and feel amazing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys hearing all your comments and advice showed me i might have a problem i want to tell my family but i dont know how is it possible to go to a gp that dont tell your family ?? thnk u really !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): The last time I looked, sizes 8-10 wasn't that big, and I think anything less than 8 would be considered unhealthy and unattractive.
I guess (like most people who are convinced there's a physical problem with them) it wouldn't matter how many people tell you, you look fine and there's nothing to change, you don't believe them?
Maybe something like psychotherapy to get over this negative self belief would be a benefit to you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 August 2012):
 People wont call you a skeleton when you walk into the showers. Adults wont look at you and say your clothes are sagging on you because everything you wear looks too big. Adults wont give you comments about how you need to eat more, eat more, eat more, because you're too skinny. People wont ask you uncomfortable questions about the anorexia they suspect you have. Fat girls wont give you snide comments to hurt you because they are jealous of you.. even though there's really nothing to be jealous of. You wont get constantly accused of dieting, or starving yourself. You wont be called a stick, rib case, skeleton (did I mention that one already?) etc.
Think about all of those things.. things that YOU don't have to experience or go through, because you're not skinny. Or, in case you already are experiencing any of these things and actually ARE skinny, but just "feeling" fat: go see your doctor.
And boys really do love a woman with curves and aren't attracted to sticks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): Oh Darling... Size 8-10 is pretty much the most perfect and healthiest size you can be! You do not want to be a smaller size as I find that girls that wear sizes under a size 8 could be mistaken for little kids. You're growing up, so you do not want to get smaller. You probably just need to tone up. Do some sit ups or planking to strengthen your stomach. Youtube some exercise vids to tone your belly. You will see a difference and I'm sure you will feel more comfortable in your own body :)
Good luck and stay beautiful :)
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (29 August 2012):
 Size 8-10 is in no way chubby or curvy. It depends on how tall you are, but unless you're very, very short then size 8-10 is healthy. I'm worried that you've got body dysmorphia to be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): Im size 8, it's not fat! You can't get much smaller and still be healthy trust me !
Men don't want skinny women's they want curves, you need curves for children and things, skinny is what a little girl is.
What I suggest is go gym, and tone what you have and naturally you'll loose a bit of weight and will be a comfortable 8 but time what you've got and be happy so many women would love to be size 8 and not sizes 18-32 which are all above the uk average of size 16.
Maye try some confidence building exercises as well and be happy with your figure it's womenly not a little girls shape of a beam pole :)
Hope this helps
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reader, BLONDII3 +, writes (29 August 2012):
Its shocking that you think size 8-10 is 'fat' or even remotely 'chubby'! It is the weight most girls would love to be! You need to learn to love your body- and realise that you are in perfect shape- and far from being fat!! I would recommend that you tell your parents/guardians the way you feel about your body and see your local GP so they can give you some guidance on how to feel confident about the way you look! Please realise that you have a perfect body size before you put yourself through the hellish ordeal of an eating disorder. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF! :)
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