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writes:i am a 24 yrs .typically from a cultural family .i have bitterness in relationship in my past.with many .everyone were a cheater .just made for physical relation .this hurts me a lot .due to my past even some of my fren scolded me .i was helpless .i had to struggle alone in such place having cultural belief and value .once b4 i broke up one ex told me not to share everything abt my past to bf .now finally i am in good relation with someone .he really loves me .we have all throught the kind of relation but he didn't know i was clean or not .he still believe me in postive away.but i know he was .i don't want to be far from him so i didn't dare to tell him everyhting .it' been 2 years .now when i am alone the fear of past eats my mind.just because i want him to love like he does today .an if he knows than i am afraid .i don't know what to do .he is very cultural guy.i believe one relation at a time .i can;t even think of betraying him.help me
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reader, EtTuBrute  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Be honest with him. Lying to a man is never the way to win his trust. Explain the situation and why you did what you did. Tell him how you feel about what you did now and how much you regret it. You can't take back what you did but you can explain to him that it's not your future.
A good man will accept the past and understand that people can change. He will give you a chance to prove you have and trust in you.
I had a history of cheating and being openly sexual myself. Now, I've been faithful to my boyfriend for over a year. He knows my past and accepted it. I'll never forget his response to one of our mutual friend's warnings about me. "How is she supposed to change when no one ever gives her a chance?"
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 You have started a new relationship, free of past faults. If he is a good man he will continue to love you and his love will steal your troubles away.
The past is in the past and it will stay there. Cherish this relationship so that it lasts.
I hope that helps.
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