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writes:41yrs of age with husband almost 8yrs and married for almost 1 yr. This is my second marriage and my first one broke up as he was violent and should nothing for me but I stayed in it for 14yrs. Then I met my new husband and he was just everything I had wanted. He was kind caring should me affection and we had sex almost every nite. I will be married a year next week and since I have got married I am so lonely. It was about 2months into the marriage things changed. Sex was gone affection gone it was like I was not there. We both work and as soon as he would come home he would put on his xbox or browse the net. Then a few weeks ago I found he had a profile on a web site and he was looking for 1 on 1 sex with women. Well my world has just fallen apart. I have confronted him on it but he denied it at first. He then admitted that he did do it but he has never met with anyone. I told him I wanted him out but he pleaded with me to give him a chance. I told him the trust is gone but he wants to try and gain my trust back. It's now been about 2 months since And I don't feel any difference. Yes we now have sex but it's him who gets satisfied while I'm left totally frustrated. I so don't know what to do. Please can anyone help as I so love this man very much and I want my marriage to work
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Professional counseling, the only way to go, and keep going as long as you want the relationship.
If the first one doesn't work, then get another.
If the second one doesn't work, then get a third.
Otherwise, you are in for years of hurt and suspicion.
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reader, cheannryl  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 Hi,im not yet married ok.people do mistakes,please learn to forgive.not just ok i forgive but deep inside you're hurting and still so angry.put god first,if you let god then everything will be ok.in god you'll find true happiness:)
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 First off, has he actually made a change? Sex really would not be the best thing to be doing right now because, you do not trust him and the wounds are still too fresh which is why you are left frustrated. I really think you should go back to when you were dating, go out at night to dinner, go see a movie together, do whatever it was you two did before so you can build your relationship again from scratch. Because really, that is all there is left to do. And he needs to be doing more to gain your trust back and if he complains then this marriage just is not worth saving because you cannot control how you trust anyone, you cannot force yourself to trust him. So if he does not do enough, or if he refuses to do enough, do not even bother with this marriage. Good Luck.
I hope that helps.
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