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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My bf has this dual personality. To me, he speaks and act perfectly. Seriously, could not get a more perfect boyfriend. But when he is with his friends he doesn't ever speak of me like he loves me. He will chat about how hot some girls are, joke sorta at my expense, and to them I genuinely think our relationship doesn't seem that serious. Which I firmly believe it is [2yrs on]. I don't know if this is his way of maintaining his masculinity around the boys, but it hurts me somewhat to think he never just says "I love her". Please advise me :(
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reader, lifetimelover  +, writes (11 October 2010):
i have been in that situation before I felt that my bf wasn’t that proud of me, you will never hear him talking to his friends about me or our relationship, while on the other hand, I’m so conceited when it comes to our love and in what we have.
I remember there was this perfect time to talked about it, I open the topic thru a small untrue story like.. my workmate husband is so sweet.. he’s vocal and affectionate.. I wish I could have someone like that… then he follows with explanation.. he might not so vocal about our relationship but .. he loves me and he never wanted anyone in his life.. blah blah blah…
I think what’s more important is to keep the communication open on both sides, coz only then you will express how you feel, youll understand what his thoughts and the pain will wash out once he remind you how he loves you ?
trust.respect.love.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 I think you are right. Some men are afraid that they will seem 'whipped' to their other friends. Talk to him, tell him it bothers you and it is starting to hurt your relationship. This sort of behaviour shows that he does not respect you as much as he should, he should be proud of your relationship with him but he is showing fear.
I hope that helps.
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