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writes:hi, ok this may be confusing but i need your advice so please read.i fell head over heels for a female friend of mine that i shared a student flat with about a year ago. i told her how i feel and we had sex on 2 occassions. however, she was totally in denial about her sexuality. She was all over me when she was drunk and then wouldnt even speak to me when she was sober. she broke my heart and our friendship dwindled.4 months ago i met a girl and immediately fell in love with her. she is so lovely in every way but the only problem is she lives 3 hours away. our relationship is struggling because we dont get to see each other very often. but i do know i love her with all my heart.so my problem is this.....my friend who i share a flat with keeps trying it on with me, even when shes sober. she knows about my relationship with my girlfriend. when my girlfriend was in my bed with me, she sent me a text saying "why dont you sneak out when shes a sleep and come and stay in bed with me". its driving me crazy!! i love my girlfriend but my friend is playing with my feelings. she was the first girl i loved and i will always have feelings for her. Ive told her that i dont want to be with her and that im happy with my girlfriend but she will not listen.How can i deal with this situation? why is she all of a sudden coming on to me so strongly when she was so adamant before?? i will admit, ive been very close to kissing her but i love my girlfriend so much and i want to stay faithful. im worried i dont have enough willpower!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): She's only interested now because you have someone. It's not about you, it is completely selfish on her part. Your girlfriend actually wants you and has committed. Tell your flat mate to get lost!
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reader, orange_sasquatch  +, writes (12 October 2010):
You need to get the message clear to her. She doesn't seem to take a hint. I'd suggest leaving, moving out, whatever. She probably only wants you now because she can't have you. You need to go beyond her reach. What's to stop you from moving in with your girlfriend?
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reader, RomanticGURL  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 She is doing it because she likes the challenge. There is something attractive about a guy who is taken. She wants you because all of a sudden she cant have you. Even if you were to cheat on your girlfriend and break up, she will lose interest again.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 The moment you realize a text is from her, ignore it. She is threatening your relationship and very clearly, your morals, tugging on your emotions as if your heart were a puppet. Cut off communication from her and just ignore her. She has no right to do this to you or your girlfriend. Or you could go over to your girlfriends house can't you?
I hope that helps.
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