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writes:My live-in boyfriend and father of two of my children never wants sex. We are intimate maybe once every two or so months. Our two yo does sleep in the bed with us, but when he or I really really want it we move to another room or move our child into her room. I also know that he watches a lot of internet porn. I don't know if its me or our situation. What can I do? We want to get married but I know I can't if it will always be like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses. It's obvious what I have to do and hopefully it will help.
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reader, msmac +, writes (1 December 2009):
Get those kids out of your safe romantic place. I wouldn't want to have romance in the same place my kids slept. You should not have to go anywhere that is your safe haven and where you should feel most comfortable. Get them out.
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reader, Roadster73  +, writes (1 December 2009):
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This happened to me & my husband, he never seemed to want sex, & for a while I thought be was going off me... I know it sounds like a sterio type but I always thought men were always suppose to be up 4 it?? We also have young family, & a combination of things stopped him being/feeling sexy.. Like our daughter in our bed, her not sleeping all night... We were both so tired!! We now put our daughter in her own room it was hard cause we had 3 weeks of her screaming.. But eventually we cracked it... Now our bedroom is back to being "our" room & we have sex alot more although not as much as we used too... But hoping once the baby goes to playskool we might try to start dating/spending time alone & finding time fir each other
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (1 December 2009):
I wud say it more ur situation. Here's the deal. After you have kids its all about the kids right? Wrong!! Its even more about you and him after you have kids. See when two people are deeply in love they want to go through life together. Part of that is raising kids. I say love your spouse with evrything you have and the rest will just follow. What am I saying??? Move your 2 year old out of the bedroom. By having your kid sleep w you you are simply communicating that it is all about the kids and not you and him. If you are both on board with ur kids sleeping with you than you are both communicating that point. Bottom line....move ur kids to their own room and make urs and his room "urs and his room" again. Your bedroom is where you grow and nurture your relationship.
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