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writes:My so called best friend is so very immature and insensitive. For the second time she has gone out with the boy that I really fancy after promising me she doesnt like them and knowing that I do. The boy in question this time told 1 of my other best friends that he likes both me and the insensitive best friend but fancies me more.He is good friends with this other friend so tells her everything, not knowing that in turn she tells us everything. He decided that since we're bestfriends it would be best if he didn't ask me out until he was totally over my bestfriend. So the horribly immature best friend now knows that I fancy him and tells me that she fancies this other boy in our class.This other boy then asks me out and my 'bestfriend' gets really angry with me despite the fact I said no and am clearly not interested. So then she asked out the boy I like and is going out with him.It's been a week since they went out but she hasn't kissed/hugged/held hands with him yet and hasn't with any other boy, ever. He has told me he likes her still but told me that he likes me as well, not that she knows about theses convo's, and says that she is getting on his nerves a bit for not doing anything with him.So this afternoon he kissed me, like a proper kiss and he is so not a player or anything and acted all apoligetic and was saying sorry. He then told my other best friend that he is going to dump my 'bestfriend' and hopefully go out with me (but in like a week to allow my friend to 'get over him'). They both spoke to me about it and my 'best friend' was saying to me today how he seemed a little different and wierd today. She also said that she heard a rumour that he cheated on her and she started crying.I'm really annoyed with her, and I do like this boy a lot, but I didn't know that she liked him that much (or was it just fake?).What should I do?
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reader, KANDIWRPR  +, writes (2 December 2009):
 wait so are you trying to say that you annoying best friend went out with the boy that you like just bevause someone asked you out? well thats not what you call a best friednand i honestly think that you dont consider her to be your best friend..mayb just a friendbest friends dont think and get mad at another over a boyi say that you forget that boy that you like becuase if he liked you more then your other friendhe shouldnt have gone out with your "best friend" obviously if you go out with that boy later he might cheat on you with you "best friend"dont do iti say just let it all goyou are still young
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 December 2009):
 alrighty here goes, why not just accept what has already happened as water under the bridge, and in your mind decide to start afresh.
In future dont discuss who you like or who likes you, or who might like the other girl, or the other girls great aunt!
Decide who you like but keep it to yourself. Dont break up with your girlfriend, we need them more than we need men as we get older, but stop confiding in her (and other people) so much!
You friend actually sounds a little confused, and unsure about how to go on, so just relax and try to enjoy your teen years without doing too much damage to yourself.
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