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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I found out that my boyfriend has been sending texts to other girls of a sexual nature along with this he has also been sending texts saying that he wanted to be with them. this is the second time that I've found this out in the space of a couple of weeks.When i confronted him about this he didn't seem to care to much because he said that I had cheated on him with a friend as I had spent the night looking after him because he was ill. I like him a lot but he's left me feeling really insecure about the way I look. I never thought that I was ugly but it seems as if that may be his opinion if hes texting other girls this way. I've tried my best to be a good girlfriend but doesnt seem like im doing anything right at all. we've decided to try again but I dont know if i should i really dont want to get hurt again or give him the impression that he can do as he pleases as he know that im going to be there waiting for him. I've barely got over the inital betryal then to have another one thrown in my face has just thrown me completely. he says that he loves me and wants to be with me but im not sure. i know people can make stupid mistakes and its important to give people another chance but I don't want to be the idiot that's used as a doormat.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 December 2009):
 If you dont want to be the doormat, the answer is simple. Dont! Just get up and walk away.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (1 December 2009):
 He told you exactly what he told the other girls. His excuse for cheating on you is that he suspects you cheated on him. This is all wrong.
You don't want to be a doormat here is what you do. Tell him this is not an "open" relationship. Then lock the doors. Change the keys and phone numbers if you have to. Put his stuff on the curb.
Bad boys will continue to be bad as long as there is one girl who rewards their bad behavior.
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reader, Shan25 +, writes (1 December 2009):
have you ever meet a woman who's you think man treats her wrong. cheats on her and disrespect and the girl always say i been with him for a long time and i know he loves me. whatever do you want to be that woman. he don't care for you, you can be the best girlfriend in the world but if he is not the one he will show you all the signs that he does not want you. will you listen to the signs or will you say he is a good man. its your choice to decide how you want to be treated. and please do not think he is the last guy to come in your life. good luck
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