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*ilentBliss
writes:ok, so ive been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months now and we hardly ever see each other, but when we do we dont act like a couple what i mean by this is we dont hold hands and walk and i guess the reason for that is because he walks fast and i walk slow.I went to see him the other day and i just feel as if were physically distant he has alot on his mind so i guess thats why we werent really interacting much but still i just feel bad when i see other couples holding hands, hugging and the rest, neither one of us has been with anyone else. This has been on my mind since ive seen him i dont know what to do i just need some advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): Have a serious talk with him and if his distant behavior continues, you might want to reconsider your relationship with him. No one wants to be in a relationship where there is not affection whatsoever. There are people in the world who are emotionally distant for whatever the reason maybe, but at some point they are going to show just how much they care about you with their actions. If he is not showing you affection when you guys are in person after spending so much time apart, then I would think there is a problem. I would talk to him about it--don't yell, curse, or accuse him of anything. Just bring this issue up to him in a nice an civil manner and see where that goes. Some people keep their emotions bottled up due to past hurt, but others just aren't capable of showing deep positive emotions such as affection. If he is one of these guys, and you are the opposite, you may want to reconsider this relationship.
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reader, bitch  +, writes (1 December 2009):
Maybe you are the affectionate type and he is not. That doesn't mean that he can't change. You have to tell him you want to feel closer and you would like to hug him and have a hug more often. That is all. Try talking to him about this.
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