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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My ex and I broke up about a week or two ago. Everything was going perfect between us before that. She would normally take her anger out on me because she saw me outside of school more than anyone else and it was never me that she was mad at. She told me that at first she broke up with me on the same day we went to the mall because she doesn't have time for a serious relationship because of everything that was going on in her life and there were a lot of things going on. I agreed with the break-up, at least I made it seem like I did. She said that I was also too clingy even though she was more clingy than I was at the time but I just agreed with everything she said and she wanted to be friends but I told her that I don't want to be stuck in the friend zone and she said that we would have a 50/50 chance of getting back together. I told her that it would be best that we give each other space and not talk to each other unless we are going to date again. She understood.The next day I called her and I said I didn't mean it and asked her if she wanted to hang out next weekend and she said okay.A few days later, I contacted her on myspace and we just started to have a casual conversation and then I asked her if she wanted to hang out Saturday or Sunday and she said neither. We got into a little arguement and she said that she never loved me and that she just wanted someone to love her and we got mad at each other and then I said "You know what, I am annoying. Your right, I'm sorry." I signed out and the next time I sign in I noticed that she deleted me off of her myspace. I talked to her best friend which is another one of my exs because my current ex stole me from her. Her friend (my ex before her) said that she really loved me and that she wouldn't shut up about me.Does she still have feelings for me?How can I get her to date me again?I know where she lives. Should I go to her house and surprise her one day?
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (1 December 2009):
 "The real reason she broke up with me was because she didn't have time for a serious relationship because she has to take care of her mother whose back is broken and she has school, a lot of homework, and she also has to take care of her sister. "
This is not a reason, it's an excuse. Take it from me...I'm a girl, I know how we women operate.
If this girl wanted you in her life, nothing would stop her. Even if she only had three hours a week to spend with you she would. But she's not doing that, is she? People do what's important to them, they go after what they want and nothing stands in their way...they make it work somehow...she's not even making an effort, she's just making excuses because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
There is a girl out there who wants to be with you and you're chasing after someone who doesn't want you. If you're so stuck on this girl, why don't you let her go and see if she comes to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate:Her friend told me that she was in love with me and that she did NOT mean it when she said that she just wanted someone to love her. The real reason she broke up with me was because she didn't have time for a serious relationship because she has to take care of her mother whose back is broken and she has school, a lot of homework, and she also has to take care of her sister. How do I convince her that having me in her life will benefit her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate:Her friend told me that she was in love with me and that she did NOT mean it when she said that she just wanted someone to love her. The real reason she broke up with me was because she didn't have time for a serious relationship because she has to take care of her mother whose back is broken and she has school, a lot of homework, and she also has to take care of her sister. How do I convince her that having me in her life will benefit her?
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (1 December 2009):
Are you serious? Are you really 26-29?
This girl is using you and walking all over you. As a man, you should demand more respect!
I don't think she has genuine feelings for you. Whatever it is, she's using you for her own benefit...company, someone to take out her anger out on...I don't know.
From what I can see, I can tell you that she has no respect for you or your feelings.
I want to ask you, why do you want to date her again? Don't you think you're worth more than she's giving you? Don't you think you deserve a girlfriend who will care about you?
If you continue to chase her, go to her house and all that...she will continue the way she is...she know she can use you and she will. Don't let her do this to you.
I know that my advice is not what you really asked about but it's so annoying to me that there you are and you're letting her treat you like this.
I think that you need to move on from this girl. She will NEVER give you what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): I don't think she really loved you. She sounds like she may have a self esteem problem. You gave her love, and then she let you go because she achieved her goal. She was coming from a place of lacking where she needed to prove herself to herself. But the problem is, her validation came from you and not herself. I don't think confidence should come from other people because they can just as easily take it away. Using relationships to boost confidence makes one choose unwisely.
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