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writes:i am 17 years old. My 32yo sister won't have anything to do with me because i am "f***cked in the head, a s**t, a wh*re, embarrassing, stupid.. the list goes on. She has never met my 3 month old daughter as she told me to abort it or she would never see me again. She kept to her promise.My 13yo brother, there is something wrong with him i tell you. He gets everything he wants, he doesn't go to school, he calls me a cun* and hits himself and runs to mum and says i have hit him, remarkably she believes him and i get the silent treatment or get told off. My Father is not in the picture. Do not ask.My boyfriend of 2 years and the father of my child is making things worse by saying "you are a selfish bit*h" and that i am a sl*t and cannot keep my legs closed. I apparently can't do anything right by anyone and i feel like a complete failure. When my pay check comes i have to give it to my 13yo brother so he can eat takeaway or i get in trouble by Mum. I can't talk to ANYONE because my boyfriend just gets his temper going and eventually it turns out its all my fault once again, i can't talk to mum because she only listens to the golden child, i cant talk to my sister because.. for obvious reasons, and i cant talk to my father. I have ZERO friends to speak of, i have no family (they are rich and snobby) All i have is my cat as stupid as this sounds and i don't want to talk to her because it will be like talking to a brick wall. I don't go to school ( i do school by correspondence) and I can't afford counsellors. I feel so alone i feel i will either just crack or go balistic. I don't have anyone in the entire world and it's driving me nuts. My boyfriend is so unsupportive saying im a selfish cow and whatnot.. all this fighting in my family is getting to me and i can't take it... im so scared and upset Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazed~Confused  +, writes (2 December 2009):
 Obviously you are never going to get them to treat you any differently. From the sounds of it, your mother created an environment whereby it was ok for you siblings to treat you and talk to you any way they pleased without consequence.
So, the only person that you have control over is you. So, you need to get out of there. Break the cycle and don't let your daughter learn this kind of behaviour.
Your boyfriend is a jerk, and obviously gets some pleasure out of demeaning you. You don't need him.
You need to concentrate on you and your baby.
I commend you on continuing school, it's not easy with a baby, but graduating will definitely give you more options for the both of you in the future.
Your pay cheques are yours. You worked and earned the money, you keep it and use it to provide for your child.
I think if I were you, I would go and talk to someone at social services or something. They can help you get set up on your own, and help you out until you finish school.
Whatever you decide, you need to change your environment. Also, ignore what they say about you, and be confident about yourself.
I think you will be surprised to see that once you are out of there and have some self-confidence, you will find yourself with friends. Ppl are attracted to ppl who give off a good vibe. I understand that in your situation it's hard to be positive, so leave, and see things change for the better. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it.
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reader, jeslet992  +, writes (2 December 2009):
I understand what you're going through but I also know that you can get past this because I did not a long while ago. My personal suggestion is to move out or if you need to, get emancipated. You are not living in a healthy environment and your boyfriend only makes it worse so you need to stand up fir yourself, make him pay child support and start over. It works I promise. You can make yourself into a whole new person if you really want to, but stay true to who you are and don't let anyone push you around.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 December 2009):
 That jsut sounds messed up. I think it is time you look into moving out on your own with your baby, do you really want to raise you child in this environment?
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reader, KANDIWRPR +, writes (2 December 2009):
 y is your family like that?
and y did you have a baby with a man like that?
or was it an accident?
i feel so sad for you
being in your situation sucks
what do you mean you have no friends?
i honestly dont know what to tell you
but i dont understand why your mother is like taht
ok i get it that the younger child is always babied
but why do you have to give your hard earned cash to your little brother?
you should really try going back to get an education
because i know that in college they give you money
to help with you baby
well in the US i dont know where you are at
sorry i dont know how to help you but i can say that
i can help listen to you problems
also dont let your bf get to you
by calling you names unless you really are sleeping around or flirting..then you should stop and think about whats best for your baby
put him on child care, leave him if he is of no help
just try to ignore your little brother and talk to
your mom why you have to give all your pay checks to your brother..that money should b to your baby
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): Hey hun i know how you're feeling, i'm very lonely to and have no friends. you can chat to me if you like. i'm willing to listen and relate to all the problems you have.
good luck
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