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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in The ex-factor category)

The ex-factor: Help and advice

My boyfriend keeps souvenirs of his ex

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5093 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Months ago, i found in my boyfriends room, cards and photos from his previous relationship. I asked him why did he keep them and he said "to remember the good memories". This hurt a lot but he eventually threw them away. He reasoning later was that ...

I think he might feel the same way, but not sure?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5199 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - im still very much in love with my first. by my first i mean the guy i lost my virginity to. it happened in the summer 19 days after my birthday. after our experience we hit it off very well and i was in high hopes that we could end up in a ...

Wanting him back after he left me for another

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Are you comfortable? .. This is a long one. A few months ago i was seeing *Greg but we were always on and off after he admitted that he was still in love with his ex. So i decided to let him go. After several break ups with her he would always ...

What is it about calling the ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Why Do Men In Relationships Call Their Ex's?...

How can I guild up my self confidence from within this relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5398 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - I have placed quite a few questions here and have had some very good advice and observations from the kind people who have replied. Unfortunately my continued postings here have frustrated some people as most have said the same thing: That I should ...

Its complicated...please some objective input?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Hi there I've searched for and read so many of the emails from guys in the similar situation to me. I can never find one "relationship situation" that is exact to my particular situation, but at the end of the day, the expected answers I will g...

Should I let the ex see his baby, even though he says it's not his?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - ok so im new here and just want to know wat u people think i should do? ok here goes... i have a three yr old child and im currently pregnant again my babys dad and i arnt together he left me wen i was pregnant. hes a dumb @ss. n e wayz about a yr ...

What do I do...Nina or Lily?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - I'll try to make this short. I'm a teenager and I have stupid teenage love problems, but I'd really like some help. There's this girl I was in love with for a few years, Lily, she was my first everything first girlfriend, first kiss, lost my ...

Long distance love is fizzling out

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - hey i`m a little confused i`ve been in a long distance relationship with this boy who lives in ireland called Sean but lately i feel like my love for him is fading and some feelings for my last boyfriend called simon are still there. this is a pro...

I'm staying for my son basically but I Want to know how to remove myself from this guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have only dated my bf for a little over a year. He had previously dated the girl before me for 4 years. 4 months after we started dating we found out I was pregnant and 3 months into pregnancy I started having nightmares about his ex, ...

How do I make up to my gf with actions, not just a simple sorry?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship with my gf for 4 and a half years now. She has gone back to her home country for 2 months and will be returning in February next year. The thing is that she's hurt by my actions and wants me to make it up to her to ...

I like him but am afraid to be his girlfriend...he says he'll wait til I'm ready but he didnt....what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - me and this guy have liked eachother for almost 7 months but havnt kissed yet but sometimes he holds me and when he walks me home we hold hands, but we havnt kissed because im afraid to cause im almost 15 and he just turned 15 this october but i ...

I cheated on him and now he won't respond to my texts!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - I like my ex boyfriend and I’m unsure whether he likes me or not. We have a bit of a history so I don’t know whether to say anything to him or not. We’ve been out 3 times and I know that sounds really bad. The first time we went out things just did...

What can I do to get him back and mend all this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - hi, my partner and i have just broken up after 2 years. we were living together and ive had to move out with some of the pets. my ex broke it off because of a misunderstanding between me and his boss. ive explained and apologised to him but he d...

My ex keeps texting out of the blue.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - I broke up with my ex over a year ago. I have to admit, she is the only girl I have ever loved. But I don't mind being single and she never seemed to really commit after a year and a half. Early on after the break-up she would ask me to dinner and ...

We won't be getting back together and it hurts

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Well, ok... I am in love with someone and I never felt this way about anyone in my life. We broke up and we are still really good friends but we have talks. We still love eachother and still tell eachother we love them. My only problem is that we ...

I am obsessed with my wife's ex-relationship... how do I let it go?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

28 December 2009 (M) - I have been married for 19 years and my wife has been honest, loving and faithful. But, one of her (2) past relationships still haunts me. We were in college and she broke up with me to go out with him, then we got back together. Then she broke ...

Holding onto the ex...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5439 days ago

28 December 2009 (?) - Hello everyone, I could really use a bit of advice. I dated my first love almost two years, last year he broke it off out of the blue. For about a year we went back and forth, he couldn't seem to make up his mind as to what he wanted. To say I wa...

Do I tell her that I know she's lying?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

28 December 2009 (M) - Right, the names Darren, 16 years old. I really need your help! Please! Well me and my former partner broke up a few months ago, over trust issues between one another after a year and a half of being a couple - and there was other people in the sp...

Getting your ex back through friendship - did it work for you?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - Hi, has anyone out there ever tried to win their ex-boyfriend by playing the friend card? Staying in life as a friend and hoping things take their natural course to reconciliation? thanks...

Does he deserve a second chance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - The other day I ran into the guy I was seeing over the summer. He ended it with me because he still had feelings for his ex. Well he went back to his ex and ended it agaaain with her. He has been chasing me ever since Aug. He said it was a big ...

How do I be...just friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5441 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I've been friends with a guy for awhile now, he had a girlfriend of 7 months. (hes 22 I'm 20 and shes 18) we were just friends and stuff but developed feelings for each other and ended up fooling around before they broke up. (they did shortly after) ...

My girlfriend and I broke up but I want her back and she is confused! Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - Hello, After a big fight we had after 3 years(said some mean things that shocked her alot, hurt her alot, and it was too much for her). Basically, she done something that bothered me and she didnt know how fix it. Bottled up anger and vented her o...

This jealousy is killing me!! Please help. Any advice!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - I have a real big jealousy problem about my ex. She split up with me about 4 months ago as she said she no longer wanted to be with me. It hurt me a lot and im still not totally over her. I've read all the advise and done the things to get ov...

I am afraid that if I say no to giving him loans, it will hurt our relationship!?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 months now,before we met there was this gal he has been in love with for 3 years and told me he got over her just before we met, they still talk alot and he still acts like i do not exist in his life while ...

I have the most amazing boyfriend but I'm stuck on the military guy whom I don't even know well! How to forget him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I can't get over this guy who I dated for only 2 months and it's driving me insane. We went out a few times (just dates, no sex etc) and he then went on a short deployment (he's in the military). While he was away he called every second day and w...

Boyfriend still texting his ex behind my back. its driving me insane :(

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - On christmas eve my friends and i went to a local bar where we knew our boyfriends were hanging out because we wanted to see our boyfriends for midnight. The only problem is, i walked in and he was talking to his ex. I never had a problem with this ...

Should I write to apologise for the past to my boyfriend's ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5447 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - In the summer, I was working away and had a very strong connection with a guy who was recently engaged. Over the summer months that we were working together 24/7 he began telling me he didn't have strong feelings for his fiance anymore, and he ...

I know how much I put her through and I want her back!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5405 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid. I my ex of 2 and a bit years broke up with me 3 months ago, we had known each other from our last years teaching teaching college. I have done so much wrong in our relationship and I do not know how to make it up to her. I love her ...

I don't know what I want!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5448 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - Me and my ex boyfriend broke up.. 4 years ago now when he went to College, as it was 3 hours away from where we lived, and he didn't want to do a Long distance relationship. The saddest thing, is that I'm not sure if I'm over him or not. I still ...

Christmas Drama...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - Need some advice! So my bf had his xwife come with the kids and his parents. We talked about this, he lead me to believe she'd be staying with relatives. He did not invite me for Christmas. Now he wants me to meet everyone next week for new ...

Is my ex rebounding?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - My Ex and i were together for nearly five years when we met she was married to a guy she met a year prior and married six months later supposedly he cheated on her and she was undecisive to leave him! she asked me to go to a resort with her after ...

Why does she say she loves me and wants me but doesn't want a relationship right now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - so we have been apart about a month now. we dated for a year and a half. we broke up over stress and fighting to much i kinda brokeup with her first. after we brokeup she said she wanted to stay friends she didnt want nothing to change but she just ...

Is there a probability that she is sleeping with others?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - I am still in a sexual relationship with a former partner. I suppose I get to see her once a fortnight or once a month. So far she has not been keen on us getting back together formally. My question is do you believe she have other sexual par...

I'm pregnant and can't decide whether to be with the father, be with the ex, or go it alone?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5411 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I am 30 years old. My live in boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me, and moved out and into his new girlfriends place in May 2009. A very good male friend of mine, split from his wife, and I let him stay with me until he could get on his feet. He ...

My ex-friend is a back stabbing slut!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5432 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - How can I convince my ex-mate that I'm not a backstabber and that she's done worse and what I did wasn't bad. If I am in the wrong please tell me. My ex-mate (I'll call her K) K dated this guy for approx 5 days, within this 5 days she told mo...

Should I be angry that he wasn't with me at christmas or I am overreacting?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5447 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I posted 2 days before christmas about my ex who I have recently been seeing again. We were exes for 8 months now but still remained in contact somehow. Last week, I confessed to him that I am going to be alone for christmas and he said "he ...

Why can't he distance himself from his ex completely?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - hello i have been seeing this guy for 1 year now. he is really sweet and nice to me but the problem is he can't distance himself from his ex. They were seeing each other for 5 months till she dumped him and it tool him 2 years before he finall...

Does anybody know about narcissistic personality disorder?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5425 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I'm having a hard time coping with the end of my relationship as it is so unique to anything I've been through. My ex suffered from narcissistic personality disorder. I didn't realise this until after we broke up and learning about the disorder ...

I have a great b/f but I let my ex pursue me. What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5447 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I have a huge issue. My ex bf and I..we've been broken up 5 years.after a year after our break up, I met someone else.let's call him jo.he is a super nice and cute guy. We've been together 4 years now and have lived together for 2.I love him dearly, ...

Should ex-wife tell "mistress" husband wants wife back?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5419 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - My husband left me for another woman back in 1991 and subsequently married the mistress. Afer 10 years of being divorced from each other, we reconnected and have been seeing each other since 2004. He moved from another state to be closer to me, but ...

She is willing to give me one more chance but I'm afraid it won't work!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - Hey, i really need help. I am very lost. My girlfriend wanted a break because we had a big fight. basically i bottled up anger about something that was bothering me about her and vented all out on her, threatening to break up. She broke down and c...

Is my ex stringing me along?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - My ex boyfriend of 2 1/2 years told me he was moving on about a month ago. I met with him after a week or a half after that and told him all that I had realized about our relationship and how I thought we could fix things. He started crying when I ...

How do I forget the intimacy and move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5445 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - I have lingering doubts about a recent break-up, even though many told me the relationship was unhealthy -- and I believe they were right, to an extent -- because him and I were compatible in so many other ways. I have a difficult time remembering ...

Is she with me out of guilt?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5449 days ago

25 December 2009 (M) - Ok, my girlfriend and I haven't been going out for long, coming up for five months quite soon, and I'm starting to get worried. To begin with, we were just friends, and when I say "Just" friends I mean "best" friends. We would text each other ...

I am tempted to call or text him. Should I just do it or wait?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5448 days ago

25 December 2009 (F) - My ex and i broke up over a year ago..not due to anything that couldn't be repaired..noone cheated..i know what i did wrong and my regrets and left him a voicemail in september. He called me back about 5 minutes later. I told him directly my ...

I'm afraid she's going to fall in love with her ex again!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

24 December 2009 (M) - So im with my Girlfreind, ive been with her a year, and we was best freinds, i mean as close as two people can get without going out, for four years before that. im 18 shes 19 Shes my first girlfreind, im her second boyfreind, the only othe...

Girlfriend and ex talks more to each other than me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

24 December 2009 (M) - ok i recently broke up with this girl for reasons than were explained in my previous question and i have now a new girl friend this is not a bad thing but what is bad is that my current girlfriend and my ex have now become very very close frien...

Should I contact the ex after this time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5447 days ago

24 December 2009 (M) - My ex broke up with me about a year ago (she said that she "didn't love me"). I went no contact from that day but for the following few months she would contact me, want to talk but then simply act all cold towards me, saying "if i loved her i ...

Should I resume contact with my first love who broke my heart?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

24 December 2009 (M) - On June the 25th 2007 I got my first taste of heartache. My long distance girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me. I felt the worst pain of my entire life on that day, and I never felt that I would recover. It was the worst time of my entire life. ...