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writes:I broke up with my ex over a year ago. I have to admit, she is the only girl I have ever loved. But I don't mind being single and she never seemed to really commit after a year and a half. Early on after the break-up she would ask me to dinner and then cancel at the least minute. This happened three times. Then a couple of months later she asked how I was doing? I asked if she wanted to get together and talk. She replied that she was in a serious relationship and just wanted to see how I was. I told her I was fine and she need not bother. Then again a couple of months later, the same thing. Then a month later (recently) she asked to hang out. Then an hour before she said I am sorry, but I can't hang out. Needless to say, I really don't care either way. But I am really curious, what makes a person do that? Why go through the trouble to ask someone to do something with you and then bail everytime let alone ex?Thanks
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reader, jadam7435 +, writes (2 January 2010):
Thanks everyone. It has been confusing and of course I haven't heard from her since. I think she wants me to be texting the heck out of her, so she knows I am still around. Of course I haven't. I will take your advice. If she should actually text sometime in the future, plan to blow it off. Moving on.
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reader, little_laura0  +, writes (29 December 2009):
She sounds insecure. Ur her ego boost. Shes only thinking about how she feels not how it effects u. by the sounds of it she gets a kick out of the fact that when she calls u go running. dont text her back, ignor her. when u do that she will try and contact u more because its knocking her ego. shes only going to cause u more harm. u have to be very harsh and tell her to never contact u again and to stop living in the past.
when u do find a special girl, and ur ex keeps harrasing u, which i would bet all my money on because it means uve moved on, she will jepordise ur relationship. that special girl wont want to hang around when ur ex is in the back ground.
She wants to have the power over u always. she doesnt love u, or care. i know it sounds harsh but its true. dont let her mess up the opportunity u will get in finding happiness with some one who does care about u and love u the way u should be. The only thing that matters now is the present and future.
i hope this helps
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 December 2009):
She's just toying with you, like a cat with a ball of string. If she really loved you, she'd be with you, and of she was really with someone else, she wouldn't be talking to you. What's happened is she left hoping to find someone else and hasn't, so is using you to make herself feel better. End all contact and try to move on.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (29 December 2009):
 lol, its the classic hook and sinker, shes fishing to get you back. often on makes plans only to disapoint you this usually creates a sence of disapointment and hope that you may have another opportunity. its also a weak persons way to 'say" they are with another, even seriously just to make you curious.
The thing is mate, you're still bighting her bait. If you wanna stop you neet to end it once and for all ... try changing your number or just plainly call her to stop calling because your simply ... over her.
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reader, redsox29 +, writes (29 December 2009):
She's just trying to keep you close. You're her back up and by contacting you again and again she's trying to stay in your life. By you agreeing to get together, she thinks that you're still interested. She's playing mind games. Lame.
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