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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My Ex and i were together for nearly five years when we met she was married to a guy she met a year prior and married six months later supposedly he cheated on her and she was undecisive to leave him! she asked me to go to a resort with her after being nothing more than friends for two months prior we slept together and of course i was already into her so i wouldn"t stop it! damn hormones! she was twenty six and been married twice and starting a business after moving home and didn"t know alot of people she was the type of girl i always liked intellegent very conversational sexually attractive but had a hard life before she had a lot of one night stands and married twice within three years lots of boyfriendsi wanted to move into a relationship because i was all into her and she told me she didnt want to go fire to fire because she wasnt even divorced yet i conceded and backed off but remained great friends (Lots of sex) and about three months after the divorce she finally told people we were together albeit everyone already knew we were togetherabout a year and half later she had been pushing me to ask her and i was waiting for the right time i took her to europe and paid for it and bought her an expensive rings exactly what she wanted even drove sixteen hours to ask her parents per her request she wrote me letters all the time telling me how much she loved me and how good i was to herthis year was hell we had a party in which everyone was invited who knew us and she wanted me to sell all mystuff and move with her away for her to go to school i Had second thoughts because i Always had a feeling she might be cheating there was stories that didnt add up and she always told me since the beginning she wanted to hang out with other people and not spend all our time togetherabout five months after the party she started to hang with a single guy who was all over her and she started sleeping at his house and etc of course i Was pissed beyond belief and we fought alot her parents knew that something wasnt right and sided with her and her lies but my family and friends told me something wasnt right with her eitheri broke up with a rage one night but didnt become physically violent just very very upset and asked for my rings back about two months later i wanted to work on it and she wasnt sure and still hanging with the guyabout a month later she started to come back and told me how much she loved me and our relationship was great she left for school and our communication was still great i went to visit her and she told me she wasn"t talking to the guy and backed off when i found some stuff on her computer she called me jealous and insecure and etcfrom then for about a month our communication wasnt good and finally she told me she was done and i was done and she couldnt take my mood swings towards her i was very suspectful then that something wasnt rightshe came back to our small town for xmas and i hear from friends that she met a teacher twice her age (sixty) and shes more happier and in love than ever and he gave her a ring at xmas (came home with her for xmas) and now shes engaged after at the most four months and yet we"ve been only seperated for the most two months her last conversation with me is that she couldnt be in a relationship due to the restraints of schoolsince shes been home shes called me twice (i"ve never answered) and tried to talk to family she brought some of my stuff to my family (just left it there) and obviously wants me to know shes with someone new and now engaged to himi understand people change their minds but she always told me she was leary and that you cannot know someone well enough to marry them in a short time of less than a year what is up with her? does she not have any feelings for me at all? we were together for four years and more than any of her relationships prior
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): She is really doing this. She is doing what she wants to do, but don't worry, this relationship will end soon enough when the self centered princess gets bored or sees some other man she can ruin. It's all a game to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): The thing that makes me hurt is that she wrote me letters about how much she wanted to be with me and how much she loved me and etc, brought me to family with her and I was accepted.I really believed she cared and wanted to be with me, but my conscience always told me I should keep an eye on her. I know she cheated, she cheated on her ex-husband with me. Proof enough, and I am 99% certain she cheated on me at least once (with another guy this summer, and possibly the second guy) but she will tell it as we were done at that point. She told a friend that shes the happiest shes ever been in a relationship, he's her equal, she's having a lot of fun, etc, and they are engaged less than a month from our wedding date, and probably less than 4 months after meeting for the first time. Just because she has some serious issues, doesn't mean I don't love her, she told me I was obsessive, but I really feel I loved her for who she was. Not saying if she came back I would take her back, I'm just trying to ensure in my mind that she is really doing this or that I pushed for this to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): Reread your post here and tell me if you can't see the pattern in your exes behavior.
She is a cheater, and she is unstable. Anyone who is married twice by the age of 26 has problems and she goes from man to man relationship to relationship before the old one is settled in the dust.
She is simply bad news, not relationship material at all.
My take is she is the type of woman who thinks she is HOT and she uses men and she uses her sexuality to control men. Because she hasn't had any bad consequences from her bad behavior, she will continue to be this way.
My take on you is you are making her sexual attractiveness the most important criteria in your wanting a relationship with her. Buddy, you get what you pay for.
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