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writes:so we have been apart about a month now. we dated for a year and a half. we broke up over stress and fighting to much i kinda brokeup with her first. after we brokeup she said she wanted to stay friends she didnt want nothing to change but she just didnt want a relationship right now she said it was helping her to be alone although she said she still wanted me she just wanted to be friends for now. she said she would be mad and upset if i went out and got a new girlfriend. the first week and a half i didnt try to contact her at all but she called or txted me almost evey night and we talked awhile each time. acouple of times she told me she loved me towards the end of our conversations. the last week i didnt try to contact her and niether did she. acouple of days ago she txted me out of the blue and we txted back and forward for about half an hr just talking about stuff like what we had been doing the past couple days and just normal talk. at the end of the talk i told her i missed her and she answered with your my best friend you mean a lot to me and i miss you to. for xmas eve i took roses to her house she anwered the door as soon as she did she grabbed them from me gave me a hug said thank you and marry x mas. she said she would ask me to stay but she was just getting ready to walk out the door to go to her grandmas. i said ok we talked a minute then i said im gonna go we hugged again and i left. 2 hrs later she txted me and said thank u for the roses the were beautiful. i responded and her next txt was it was sweet of u and we txted on and off the whole night. we had good conversations both of the last 2 times we talked and she was more herself eachtime. on christmas day she txted me merry x mas and we once again txted on and off almost the whole day having a good conversation. she is going to pittsburgh today to spend time with her mom and that side of the family for about 4 days. i told her i wanted to see her because we had only seen eachother that one time in the last month for like 2 minutes. i told her i would like her so stop down to see me when she passed by my house on her way leaving town cause she has to drive right passed it. even if its just for alittle bit, we dont have to talk about anything serious i just want to see u. i said no pressure if u dont wanna i understand, no big deal its up to u. she responed with if i have time and i said ok. and i havent talked to her yer today. please give me your thought on this, what i should do what she might be thinking and the chances she will want to come back if i give her space and time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): It sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it, too. She doesn't want to be your girlfriend, but she doesn't want you to go out with any other girls, either. If you want to be friends, that's fine, but if she really wanted to be with you then she would be. Stop waiting for her to come back to you and find someone new that will really care. This girl knows you have feelings for her and is using them to her advantage-always giving you hope that she still cares without ever coming back. Don't let her play with you like this.
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reader, nice boy +, writes (27 December 2009):
 she is currently your friend but she txted you first and you both are saying you love each other. she might want the relationship without the drama and thinks this is the best way to have that. if you're committed enough to try it again between you 2 then you should show her somehow. nice move on the roses by the way.
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