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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok, my girlfriend and I haven't been going out for long, coming up for five months quite soon, and I'm starting to get worried.To begin with, we were just friends, and when I say "Just" friends I mean "best" friends. We would text each other all the time, call each other every night, and try to see her as much as possible. In fact, we were known for going over so much on our phone bills that our bills used to equal more than our weekend job wages, it was quite funny actually.She always used to text me about the problems she had with her ex boyfriend, and I was there to console her when she broke up with him, and the main reason she had broken up with him is because she had fallen in love with me. I too, was in love with her at the time.However, I asked her out on two occasions, and was declined on both occasions, we used to see each other every day, engage in sexual activities, kiss and cuddle in public, and tell each other we loved each other all the time, but she refused to make the relationship official.Eventually, I had had enough, and told her that if she wanted to remain single, she couldn't treat me the way she did, and refused to speak to her for a while, to give myself time to get over her.However, she came back to apologize and to ask me to be her boyfriend, and obviously being the hopeless romantic that I am I couldn't say no, as I was still fully in love with her. However, from that day I have always wondered, did she just come back to me so she would have me back in her life? I mean, she had lost her best friend, and someone who treated her right when everyone else seemed to be against her.The first few months went well, but now, everything has changed. She is constantly aggressive, snapping at me for every little thing I do, ridiculing me about events that happened in my past, causing arguments about EVERY little thing. Then, whenever I voice my opinion, she always replies with "If your so unhappy, why are you still with me?" or "Why don't you just dump me then?", and acts like she doesn't even care.She constantly tells me about how her ex boyfriend is feeling her up in college, and how he continues to do so, even though she tells him to stop, and how another guy in college has been confessing his love to her. Finally, for the past month, she has confessed to me that she doesn't want to have sex with me any more, and that she doesn't find sex appealing, whereas in her past she has been known to be one of the most sexually active people you could meet.So, just to make the check list, we have making me angry, making me jealous, and making me feel rejected....the perfect three.What the hell should I do guys? She always tells me she loves me and stuff, but I'm just getting the impression she regrets asking me out now, and that she's just trying to get me so mad that I eventually dump HER, not the other way around.Thanks for listening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): She's definitely pushing you away. You are a friend only. To be her lover, you probably have to be stronger than her. Calm, cool, and collected in ALL situations. Make most of the decisions when with her. If something makes sense to you, that is the decision you make (so don't let her change your mind just because she APPEARS to wants something else). Dress in a fashionable way that suits who your are.
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