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writes:I have a real big jealousy problem about my ex. She split up with me about 4 months ago as she said she no longer wanted to be with me. It hurt me a lot and im still not totally over her. I've read all the advise and done the things to get over her- new hobbies, writing my feelings down, remembering the bad times, etc etc but i'm stuck on one thing...I can't stop thinking about my ex with other guys. Not only in a sexual way but also in an emotional way- i cant get it out of my head that another guy is going to whisk her off her feet, like i did, 3 years ago. Some other guy will be (or is now for all i know) in her bed (what was our bed) and this thought just kills me.How do i get over this jealousy? I know that dating other girls and having one night stands is supposed to help but right now my confidence is at an all time low and i can't pull at all.Xmas and new years is the worst time but all the time is hard.Any advise is welcome- even if its harsh advise. Please help. Thanks.
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reader, lionelhutz  +, writes (27 December 2009):
Just keep doing what you're doing. A relationship that long, that meant that much to you is going to take time to get over.
You need to remember, she has chosen to go her way, you need to go yours. The more you dwell on your ex being with new guys is just going to prolong your pain. It's easier to say than do, but you need to put these thoughts out of your mind and focus on yourself.
Best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): Thankyou. So is this jealousy normal? It really is horible and i can't 'just stop thinking about it'...
I'm not sure what to do cos its eating away at me.
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reader, Jessbabyy +, writes (27 December 2009):
 Tell her you still feel this way. If she is harsh then shes not worth being jealous about. Hope I helped, mail me for further advice or if you don't understand something. Will reply as soon I can! Jessbabyy x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 December 2009):
It will take more than 4 months for you to get over her. All you can do is keep working though it. You'll get there. but give yourself a break. You were with her for 3 years, so it will take longer than 4 months to get over her.
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