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writes:helloi have been seeing this guy for 1 year now. he is really sweet and nice to me but the problem is he can't distance himself from his ex. They were seeing each other for 5 months till she dumped him and it tool him 2 years before he finally moved on, met me, asked me out and we started dating. He was best friends with his ex. The problem is when he told her about me, she got really paranoid, told him she still loves him..wants to marry him blah..blah..He told her he loves me now, but she kept pestering with calls and messages, that he answered and replied to. Finally I put mt foot down and told him to choose "her or me". He stopped after that. But we broke up about a month later ( due to different reasons). He got back in touch with her immediately and they used to chat. He came back to me after a month and we started seeing each other again. The problem the ex is back in the picture now. And he still chats with her on and off. I don't understand why he can't distance himself from his ex completely even though he knows that it really troubles me and the causes a lot of strain in the relationship. Whenever we discuss this he tells me i am just being insecure and he just loves me and noone else. Am i being played??
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): I dont think youre being played but he sounds as if he still have a lot of issues with his ex girlfriend. He may still like her alot and even get off a little on the fact that he has become more interesting to her since youve been with him. But he should really put an end to the friendship or whatever they are calling this. Its not fair on you if theyre making you worried and if they really were very serious about each other they could have started soemthing while you and him were apart. Im assuming they didnt. They are just behaving like a couple of vultures circling the remains of their relationship. Ask him to move on from her now. I dont understand why some find this so hard to do! They deny any feelings for the ex, they know having a certain type of ex around can make a partner very uncomfortable and concerned....yet they insist on keeping them. It doesnt make any sense, so i am of the opinion they keep ex`s in their lives because they DO still have feelings for them. Ask your man to put her in his past and if he wont, put him in your past or you will just be miserable because of the pair of them.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 December 2009):
Sounds to me like you are being played. I don't think he ever really got over her, and he stopped talking to her for you, then split from you, then started talking to her again and now accuses you of being insecure. Time to move on and start afresh with someone else.
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