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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I can't get over this guy who I dated for only 2 months and it's driving me insane.We went out a few times (just dates, no sex etc) and he then went on a short deployment (he's in the military). While he was away he called every second day and we got to know each other better. When he came back he broke it off, said he wasn't ready for a relationship. I knew he was making an excuse but I walked away without asking questions etc.6 months have passed, I now have the most amazing boyfriend, but I can't stop thinking about the military guy. Sometimes I forget but the smallest thing will remind me of him and I get so upset at the thought that I will never see him or have him. I seriously though he was 'the one' after our first date.I've been dumped before, hurt by guys and all that and with time I got over it and forgot...but I just can't forget this guy.I feel so bad for even thinking about him when now I've got a boyfriend who treats me well, respects me and loves me so much.Why am I so stuck on someone I didn't even know that well? And why him? I've never been stuck on anyone like this? What should I do to forget?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): Thanks cdjud for your answer :)
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reader, cdjudd +, writes (27 December 2009):
This is a familiar situation that I have faced myself. The first thing to do is remain loyal to your current boyfriend. You need to then decide is this guy you barely came to know, is worth ending what you have now. There is no way to convince yourself to forget him, however you need to decide whats best for you and if your willing to take a chance on someone who walked away from you. If you leave your current boyfriend, chances are you will never get back together with him after stopping the relationship and this "military guy" could not work out and you could be alone. So, in my opinion, I would give your current boyfriend your attention and remain loyal to him in all aspects. If you really like this guy, you'll stick with him because it feels right. But the heart gets what the heart wants if you are honest with yourself and others.
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