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writes:So im with my Girlfreind, ive been with her a year, and we was best freinds, i mean as close as two people can get without going out, for four years before that.im 18 shes 19Shes my first girlfreind, im her second boyfreind, the only other relationship she had was with her best freind back in first school, and it lasted 5 years, he left her as he said because they were going to high school its time to end it. when the relationship ended so did their freindship.the trouble is 8years later and she is back in college with him, she talks about him, she says hes just a freind, when i asked do u have any feelings for him she said ur actin like i just broke up, it was a long time ago, he has somebody else now.i asked her why it ended, and as i said cos differnt schools.she sometmies compares me to him!she wants my children, and she does love me,but im worried that she is going to fall in love with him again, and if so there would be nothing i could do.In my opinion the day he left her, is the day he gave up his right and i came in and its my turf now.What should i do?im stressed over this.
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reader, HelloItsRobert +, writes (25 December 2009):
 I don't know what to say.
I think the best thing to do would be to just try and make her as happy as you can make her, express a slight distaste for the way she compares you to him, and just see how things pan out.
That's probably the best you can do.
I will say this though, the chances she has feelings for him again are very, very high. But luckily for you, these feelings will have disappeared within a few days of them being re-found, and she will most likely not act upon them.
All I'm saying is, set yourself up for the fall, just in-case, but don't expect her to cheat on you or leave you or anything, she's probably just confused about her emotions right now, and she'll be all yours again in no time =D
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reader, Davethegamer  +, writes (24 December 2009):
me being the 1 on 1 kind of guy no outside men involved...id be furious but dont handle it my way lol it causes problems. does she still have contact with him atm? if not i wouldnt be too worried but ur insecurity is reasonable, in my eyes, becaue if she wants the relationship you want (which seems to be long term) she should just be focusing on u and herself
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