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writes:Are you comfortable? .. This is a long one. A few months ago i was seeing *Greg but we were always on and off after he admitted that he was still in love with his ex. So i decided to let him go. After several break ups with her he would always coming back to me he knew that i would let him , because i was absolutely head over heels for him and he used it at his advantage. So i decided to end it once and for all no going back. Since then he has gone back to the ex for a few months and i was absolutely fine with that and felt no anger/upset towards them. I was actually happy for them. Also i had been seeing someone else since we broke up; *Dave. Whilst i was with him all i could think about was Greg, even whilst we was getting intimate. But that relationship soon fizzled out. However! The tables have turned and now Greg and the 'ex' have broken up and i have decided to act upon my feelings for him explaining that i miss him and he has returned the feelings, and wants to see me again. Although i acted upon this, i did it rather quickly and contacted him the next day after they broke up and now im worried if they will get back together like they did in the past and i was kicked to the curb. My friends all think i'm crazy for wanting him back after he left me for her... have i made the right decision?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 December 2009):
I'm afraid your friends were right. Though your loyalty and love for this guy really is admirable, it's so terribly wasted on a guy who has hurt you not just once, but several times by going back to his ex. I'm afraid to say he will probably do it again, so you'd be best to end it yourself now and completely move on. The last thing you want is to be still hung up on him ten years down the line with him using you like he is, when your friends are getting married and seem happy. Never waste time on an ex, especially one who has hurt you.
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reader, Nells*Mae  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 Ok sweatheart... I am somewhat going through the same thing. Except my boyfriend and i broke up and he moved on so fast to this new girl. No lie... made out wit her right after we broke (within same week). He did nothing but lie to me and blow me off to hang out wit her. I love this kid SOOO much and I just waiting for this chick to turn him down so I can have him back. All my friends are saying I'm stupid... but I am going to tell you this:
"Do what you think is best for you. If you love him or have some deep feelings towards him, you should try to work everything out wit him. Sure you may get hurt in the process but it will just teach you a lesson. I only wish that my ex would come to me lol. But I wish you the best of luck and hope that it will all work out. I believe that you will make a great decision. You can always go back and keep getting hurt but when you had it for the last time, give up. Give it a month or two and then he will realize what he is missing and what he had."
But I sure do hope that he has the same feelings towards you. Right now, he knows that you are his back-burner. And he will use that to his advantage. But if I were you, I would somewhat play wit this advantage. Be all flirty flirty wit him. I sure hope that was some-what ok information. That's the total opposite that I've been told. But we are in the same boat... always here to try and give ya some good advice if needed. Have a good one and good luck!
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