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writes:My ex broke up with me about a year ago (she said that she "didn't love me"). I went no contact from that day but for the following few months she would contact me, want to talk but then simply act all cold towards me, saying "if i loved her i wouldn't have let her go", that "she wasn't making me happy" - when i responded that she was the one that ended it and that I did want to talk things through, she act all ignorantly, angrily and simply dimissive. So since May09 I've keept NC.A couple of things are currently playing on my mind as I've been trying to move on:1) Her brother keeps in contact with me ocassional "hi - how are you" messages and we have hung out for beers twice (he nor i ever mention his sister). We weren't really friends before i met his sister, so i wonder why he does this? In addition, I start thinking about my ex after contact with him and this doesn't really help me moving on.2) It's her birthday soon and for some reason I've an urge to send a happy birthday text. Underneath i guess i still simply want contact with her. Stupid as it was my birthday a month ago and i never received anything from her (wasn't expecting but you never know!).I guess it stems from what she said those months back - "you let me go easy" and "i didn't show her I loved her", even though she was the one who ended it, didn't want to talk, said she "didn't have those feelings". That should have been my closure but her brother still in contact still keeps my thinking maybe I should contact her??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): My advice is to get a hot new girl stop thinking about the old one.This will increase your social value.It will drive her crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): She's being a bitch, doing her best to keep herself in your mind and prevent you moving on by saying those things to you, you're actually better off not being with a game playing fool like her.
She ended it instead of talking it through, you don't do that just to gain attention and what kind of fool dumps someone just so they fight for that person to stay. No one, that's who.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 December 2009):
1) Her brother is your friend, and likes you as a friend, so won't get rid of you. I think he's just being friendly.
2) Don't send her a card or text or anything. She didn't send you a text, or a card, and she hasn't fought for you at all. Leave her in the past.
I'd say that she was acting a bit spoilt to be honest. I think she was rather hoping you'd come crawling to her on your knees. You can do without a woman like that in your life. If she loved you, she would have said something, not just split and then blamed you.
Move on from her, leave her in the past where she belongs.
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