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writes:Hi, I posted 2 days before christmas about my ex who I have recently been seeing again.We were exes for 8 months now but still remained in contact somehow. Last week, I confessed to him that I am going to be alone for christmas and he said "he will see if he can spend it with me". Take note, in his religion..they don't celebrate christmas so I know he doesn't understand how awful to be alone during this time. Days succeeding that agreement, he can't stop wanting to see me. I refused all the time until I said yes. So the the whole wkend, he slept in my house like it was his own and he was so sweet as if our break up never happened at all. For hours, we just stare at each other in bed and he would just cuddle with me and we shared stories of what happened to us during the break-up. He began giving me ideas of us dating again. I can see he loved sleeping in my bed and never wanted me to do anything but lie down beside him either in silence or talk. We had sex too.Then he had to go coz of his work. Two days after, he contacted me and told me he wanted to see me again. So I said for him to come over. He asked me if he could bring me food and I insisted that I don't eat. Then still brought me food which I didn't touch.That was the last time I saw him. A day after that, I texted him to ask if he will come for christmas eve and he said he can't and that he is currently in another city for a training. He ask for an apology. Automatically, I got upset and at first I was cool until I couldn't resist it and I sent him a msg to say how upset I am and I felt that maybe he just used me for sex. Well, I know it was awful. The truth is, I agreed to have him in the house days before christmas so in return he will keep me some company on the 24th day. If it wasn't for it, I will never invite him to come over. I can live without sex. But I was wrong and I felt betrayed. He replied so fast in every message I sent him and the last thing he sent was, that he wanted a peaceful mind and that we will need to talk it over when he is free. He begged me with a lot of "please". But I never replied to his msg anymore.Until now, no communication between us has happened. Do you think it was right of me to get that upset or am I just overreacting? i sometimes feel like I need to apologize for getting angry so fast as he just told me "let me see if I can be available on the 24th" and that I shouldn't have expected so much?Or it was only right to be angry as he knew i had no one to keep me company and he stood me up? I feel so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the replies.
That is exactly the reason why I posted a question here. A part of me says it is only right for me to get angry but a part also says I shouldn't. I admit, I never even bothered to call him in the months that have passed and just because I would be lonely for christmas, I decided to.
Your replies opened up my eyes and made me realize I shouldn't have acted so impulsively on the anger that I felt.
Thanks again.
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