I am afraid that if I say no to giving him loans, it will hurt our relationship!?

A female age 36-40, *love writes:

my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 months now,before we met there was this gal he has been in love with for 3 years and told me he got over her just before we met, they still talk alot and he still acts like i do not exist in his life while he is with her, he just keeps giving her excuses for not being wit her as much coz he is wit me most of the time, (he invites her to his place for movies, goes over to her place for lunch and they keep texting each other....... from the msgs on his phone, he gives her the impression he is still single.... this is the same thing with most of his female friends(ever admits that he is now in a relationship and keeps saying he is single). he only tells his male friends about me! when i confront him about all this he says i have nothing to worry about, he belongs to me and will not cheat on me or leave me for anything! meanwhile, i am 24 and he is 33, he is self employed and i am a salary earner, he keeps borrowing money from me so far he owes me 650usd and is waiting for my salary to get more, he makes plans basing on my money! most of the time i foot the bills when we go out....(i dont mind 50/50 sharing of bills.

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