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Archived questions from: September, 2012 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

How can I get her to love and trust me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4461 days ago

30 September 2012 (M) - Hello Everyone, I am hoping I reach someone who has some actual knowledge in relationships. I am just unsure of what to do. I have been married for 9 years come November (2012), and my wife is no longer in love with me because I destroyed her tr...

I can't believe anything my husband says anymore. I just want the truth!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4465 days ago

30 September 2012 (F) - My husband has problems telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. We've been married 21 years and the amount of lies he's told is astounding. Sometimes it's about stupid things like if his dog used the bathroom in the house, ...

Husband didn't introduce me to anyone at a party and I was left feeling very uncomfortable

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4465 days ago

30 September 2012 (F) - I feel very sad and disappointed at the moment because my husband and I went to a party where I knew almost anyone and he didn't introduce me to anyone. He says he doesn't like all these mannerly introductions, but I think that's common sense. I...

She hates me, she loves me I don't know

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

30 September 2012 (M) - My wife of 11 years told me a couple times past few years that she wanted a divorce. Completely caught me off guard and I know that sounds crazy but I didn’t see it coming. She used to say it every time she got really mad. She said she wanted to ...

Feel like I married both my husband and his sister -- and she doesn't like me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4464 days ago

29 September 2012 (F) - I have been married for two years and was blindsided by a problem that he has: his sister. She was very friendly before the engagement and wanted to be my best friend. My husband and she are very close. They talk every day on the phone, lived ...

Do I keep it to myself or tell my sister? My sister's husband of nine years told me he is having an affair

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4466 days ago

29 September 2012 (F) - Yesterday was the worst day of my life. My sister's husband of nine years told me he is having an affair,he trusted me enough to tell me, but I feel like I'm betraying my sister. Please help me what should I do????? My sister also has a life treat...

How do I tell my husband that I'm pregnant with another man's baby?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4466 days ago

29 September 2012 (F) - My husband and I have had alot of issues that we just cant seem to get over. 3 months ago I told him I was unhappy and didnt love him anymore and didnt want to be with him. we have 2 children together and he said to me if I left he would take the ...

My problem is low self-esteem and low confidence. But can I fix it ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4466 days ago

29 September 2012 (F) - It seems like the root of my problems is low self-esteem/confidence. I think I have gotten a lot stronger, especially with the help of my boyfriend... but how can I make sure that my doubts don't keep coming up in my mind and affecting our rela...

I wonder how someone who says they love you, can be so cruel with their words and comments

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4466 days ago

29 September 2012 (M) - I am 52and my common-law wife is 46. We had an amazing relationship for the first 15 years of out 17 together, with only 3 or 4 arguments. We had always put each other first, and love and respect were two aspects of a relationship we cherished. ...

Should I tell my husband the real reasons why I left?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4467 days ago

28 September 2012 (F) - I feel so confused and lost about my marriage. I separated/cleverly ran away from hubby 6months ago, went back to my country, and i never told him the real reasons for my leaving. He knows i'm in my country to manage a skin condition and i should ...

Is my husband and the father of my child Gay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4467 days ago

26 September 2012 (F) - Please help me :'( I've been with my husband since we were 14, we're now 18. When I was 15, I fell pregnant with our daughter, who turns 3 this December. We got married nearly a year ago. I love my husband so very much, but I'm absolutely he...

Do you think he is cheating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4469 days ago

25 September 2012 (F) - First, my husband works on the pipeline, so he is gone for 3 weeks and then home for 3 weeks. This time, he worked for 8 weeks so he's been gone since july. We talk on the phone every night so I thought everything was fine, he was just working 16 hr ...

Am I just suffering from the 'grass-is-greener' syndrome? I am so disappointed with myself for not being able to find a man that fits me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4470 days ago

25 September 2012 (F) - I have been in two long-term relationships for most of my adult life. In my first marriage, I was pretty much starved for conversation, as my husband wasn't much of a talker. When he got home at night I'd ask how his day went, he'd grunt without ...

Contacted the wife of the Ex-Boyfriend she reconnected with on Facebook

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4470 days ago

25 September 2012 (M) - A follow up qustion from a few months ago. My wife's High School Crush and first sex partner from 18 years ago contacted her on Facebook. I posted about this a while back and my question is not about the contact itself between them. But a q...

My much older husband is so insecure now. How do I stop it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

24 September 2012 (F) - I'm married to a man almost 24 years older than me well 23 and a half years to be exact . We married last summer and since then he is gotton very insecure and I don't know why . I'm 21 and he is 44 we were together about 2 years before that , before ...

Married lover and I want to end our affair but keep going back for more

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4467 days ago

24 September 2012 (F) - I've been having an affair for a year now. Married for 9 and a half years with 2 children. My husband is great and I honestly am not sure what lead to my affair? I have been in this affair with our neighbor who we see all the time so it's extremely ...

I feel rejected when wife turns me down for sex because I know she didn't say no to the other man

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4471 days ago

24 September 2012 (M) - Hi, I'll start this off by saying this is most likely not normal. My wife and I seperated for a couple months a few years ago. During that time she got with another man. As we were both certain we wouldn't reconcile at this time, I can't ho...

I'm terribly upset about the way my sister-in-law treated me 2 years ago and the fact that my husband did not stand up for me.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4470 days ago

23 September 2012 (F) - 2 years ago my husband's mother died. At the funeral my husband's sister mostly ignored me, made me feel uncomfortable or made fun of me. I have had no dealings with her since. My husband did nothing to stop this going on. Since then a wedge has ...

I need to get over him. I need any ideas you can suggest to help me get over him completely

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4464 days ago

22 September 2012 (F) - Hi I need Advice here is the case: before 4 years my BF and I were together for about a year then I got pregnant. That time he didn't have job I have a job, he told me we gonna be together and he will do his best to get a job, a give birth and af...

He says I am the problem, but doesn't want me to get help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4473 days ago

22 September 2012 (F) - Well now where do i begin.. I've been married for 4 for starters total of 4 kids (2 from previous 10 yr relationship) I've known my husband for a total of 12 years altho we've only been together 6 we were friends before. My problem.. when he gets ...

He lied to me about watching porn and now I feel I am losing my love for him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4468 days ago

20 September 2012 (F) - I've been married since April to a man that I have been dating since I was 16. We have a long long history and a lot of ups and downs in that time. In the past he has hidden things from me and lied to my face about lots of things: seeing h...

Truly love my wife, only been with her, want to try another woman though.

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4474 days ago

20 September 2012 (M) - Hello there, I married my high school sweetheart. We have been together for near 15 years, married only about 5 years. We had kids "really" young. I have only ever slept with her and she has only ever slept with me 100% fact. So in technical ter...

His behaviour and attitudes are unsettling. Should I leave him while I can?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4450 days ago

19 September 2012 (F) - Before we married, my husband was really into me (always holding my hand, kissing - being intimate in every way but no actual sex). I thought our honeymoon would be non-stop, but over the course of 10 days we had sex maybe five times. I was very...

What if he goes back to her? He is delaying signing the divorce papers served on him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4475 days ago

19 September 2012 (F) - Hey everyone I've been dating this guy for a couple of months, I have never been happier..he keeps me happy..but now out of nowhere his wife comes in the picture he never told me about him being married..I was upset,I cried I broke things off and ...

Am I being used as a sugar mama in this marriage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4475 days ago

19 September 2012 (F) - I am 34 and my hubby is 30. We have been married for two years. I told him my age just when we met, and he hid his till about a year and half into the relationship. I never bothered much cos I thought he could be just a few months to a year old...

How can I fix this? My husband speaks badly about me and flirts with other women.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4477 days ago

19 September 2012 (F) - My husband talks bad about me with other people about me. At first, he would let his friends make disrespectful comments about me. Then it went to him telling his relatives bad stuff about me whenever we differed, and some of his relatives would also...

7 year itch. Why would she leave without even talking to me and telling me what was wrong?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4477 days ago

18 September 2012 (M) - I am still a little confused about why my wife left me. She says she left because I was having an affair with a friend of mine, which I wasn't and she knew this, we have been together for 7 years, always have been able to talk, but in the last few...

Should I be talking to my husband's disrespectful family?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4478 days ago

17 September 2012 (F) - I had to set boundary with my husbands family. They convinced my husband that our daughter was not raped when she was. On top of the rape, this was so bad!! They have been verbally abusive to my son. They have yelled at me, threatened me, and have ...

My husband has been having an affair for 12 of the 14 years we have been married. I don't know if I should end the marriage.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4477 days ago

17 September 2012 (F) - I am married for 14 years and has two kids. My husband is cheating on me for 12 years with different women. I got the chance to talk to one of his other women would you believe we just talk and didnt had a fight! They broke up because I have all the ...

My husband is lazy and I no longer feel compatible. How do I get him to understand it's over?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4477 days ago

17 September 2012 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 14 years. We have three children (age 13, 11 and 10). Our 10 year-old is a special needs child with autism. Before my husband and I got married we talked about a future in which I would work and he would take ...

I want to make my marriage work but we are completely lacking a sexual bond and intimacy.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4478 days ago

17 September 2012 (F) - My husband and I met when I was just 20. At the time, he was essentially a rebound as I had just broken up with my first "true love". I picked him on the basis of rational thought; he was reliable, very intelligent, caring, trustworthy, and capable. ...

Does a cheater deserves a scond chance?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4462 days ago

17 September 2012 (F) - Just a little of insight please. I have just foud out that my hub of 3 years have cheated on me for 4 months.We have 2 sons, the youngest was only 1 month old whne he started sleeping with the other woman. He works deployed 4 months on, 2 months ...

I want to leave but have no money, and my husband says if I ever leave he will take the kids as he has the money to give them a good life. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4478 days ago

17 September 2012 (F) - Me and my husband have been married for 4 years. We have 2 boys, 5 years and 1 year. The last year have been crazy, we fight ALL the time and his verbally abusive. I think it's time to get out but I have no money and no place to go. I've been a ...

She filed for divorce claiming I verbally abuse her, how do I save this marriage?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4478 days ago

17 September 2012 (M) - So, here goes nothing. I have never posted anything like this before but an looking for unbiased opinions. I am married to someone that I truly care deeply for and we have been in a relationship for over two years. She recently filed for divorce and ...

Should I leave or stay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4479 days ago

16 September 2012 (F) - I got married to guy 15 years older than me at the age of 23. I have two kids from a previous relationship. I didn't get married for love it was not like a security blanket for the shake of the kids. I didn’t ask him to marry me he kinda insisted we ...

My marriage is crumbling and I don't think my husband loves my daughter

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4479 days ago

16 September 2012 (F) - Currently, I have just survived cancer treatment. Going through chemo and radiation was torture but also made me appreciate life so much more and to not worry so much about problems because, life is more important. So, during my treatment, when I ...

Sleepless in Canada. In the non romantic way.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4479 days ago

16 September 2012 (M) - I've been writting about this awhile now. My marriage is in trouble and everytime I try to talk about it with her I don't get answers. This always happens when we get anyone at fighting about what it is. It always gets thrown in my face ...

He makes constant demands for sex but due to my health and busy lifestyle we can't do it so often.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4480 days ago

15 September 2012 (F) - I am generaly a happy go lucky kind of girl. In a great relationship with a man i love and cherish and have for near enough 7 years, our sex life is amazing but recently i have run into some problems with my health. Chronic fatigue and i also have ...

We have been married for 18 years but recently he has been cold and we don't have sex for months.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4477 days ago

15 September 2012 (F) - Any advise will be appreciated. I have a situation going on with my husband of 18 years. We married young and maybe this is a factor because I think he is tired of me. I have always been a little colder than him and would try to hide my emotions, I ...

I am stuck in this awful place where I don't really prefer a divorce but staying in the marriage is difficult.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4480 days ago

15 September 2012 (M) - My wife and I just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary in August. Instead of it being a joyous milestone, it was melancholy in nature from my point of view. We share a lot of love and joy or else we would have never made it this long, but o...

Am I just being paranoid about his strange phone behaviors or is there something to worry about here? And how would a normal person react to this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4480 days ago

15 September 2012 (F) - Earlier tonight I asked my husband to see his phone to hear a voicemail his brother had left. It seemed like he was going through some things and pressing a lot of buttons before handing me his phone. I am a paranoid person and I think I suffer from ...

After breaking up I went to therapy and he decided he is willing to try again but not making any promises. Should I be hopeful about this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4478 days ago

14 September 2012 (F) - Ex boyfriend agreed to give it a try. Is there any hope? We are in our ealy 30s, both divorced once, dated seriously for 14 months. We broke up on Labor day. He said he loves and cares about me very much, but he's not in love with me. After b...

My coworker and I had an affair but now he doesn't seem interested anymore. What's the problem?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

14 September 2012 (F) - Hello All on this forum. I have a problem i really need help with. I think i have been foolish. A month or so ago i had sexual intercourse with a man from my office of work place. Sure he chased me and flirted with me and text me more than my husba...

My husband took pictures of women without their consent. Should I send him packing or report him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

14 September 2012 (F) - My husband is in his late 50's. The other day we were both at the mall shopping and he had his cell phone with him. I was in another area of the store shopping and we set a designated time and place to meet to allow us each enough time to s...

My husband waits until I've gone to bed to talk to a female co-worker, should I be worried?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

14 September 2012 (F) - I know that my husband talks to a female co-worker. But he always waits till I go to bed to talk with her. She works mightnight shift. I don't think this is normal. Should I be worried?...

Is my husband secretly gay?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

14 September 2012 (F) - I have a strong feeling that my husband is either gay or bi.... 8 months after we have gotten married I found in his email that he posted on craigslist about sex with a guy... Of course I asked him about it and was upset... He told me he didn't a...

My husband can't tell his family no, and it's causing trouble in our relationship.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4482 days ago

14 September 2012 (F) - Every time my husband's family comes home he don't know when to come home, all he do is drink with them and forget all about his family, then curses me out when he gets upset, I want my marrage to work, and we have been doing so good, its like if we ...

We had a threesome and my husband completely ignored me! I feel our marriage is over...

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4479 days ago

13 September 2012 (F) - I am married for 5 1/2 yrs. My husband and I have useId talking about a 3some several times during sex for excitement. Me being bi. But he has always said he doesn't really wanna do it. But the opportunity presented itself. And he asked and asked if ...

I no longer desire sex with my wife but I do desire other women. It's consuming me, help!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4481 days ago

13 September 2012 (M) - Ok,i'm married,and have lost my desire for sex with my wife,but have a desire to have sex with almost every female i come across! When i meet another woman,even for just a minute,i'm wondering what it would be like to have her! It's consuming ...

My husband no longer loves me or wants to live with me. I still want to be together even with him feeling this way. Is it worse to live with us both unhappy or to lose the love of my life?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4482 days ago

13 September 2012 (F) - Here's the situation. I'm totally in love with my husband and I'm desperate for us to get back together. He has fallen out of love with me and cannot bring himself to be with me sexually. We're still friends and see each other nearly everyday. We ...