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41-50,
*endy2012
writes:My husband talks bad about me with other people about me.At first, he would let his friends make disrespectful comments about me. Then it went to him telling his relatives bad stuff about me whenever we differed, and some of his relatives would also make disrespectful comments about me. Now it has even extended to girls he flirts with. One of the girls had the courage to even tell me off, saying I was just a disparate wife forcing myself on him. To my surprise, I thought he would really be upset with her, but ended up just taking it lightly, warning her a little and continued entertaining her. I have been there for him, I ever protect him even in worst times. We live in my house, he drives my car (and sometimes even uses my car to pick these same girls and take them out) and I don’t go about making a big deal of it. I don’t broadcase his weaknesses and let every jim and jack talk badly of him. I feel like he is taking me for granted. I don’t want to leave him, but I want him to pay for this because its been three years of complaining, from the time we got married and he always promises to change but nothing happens. What’s the best way to fix him. Probably when he has to pay a high price he will permanently change.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (19 September 2012):
 How can you fix him?...YOU CANNOT!!
You can only fix yourself and the only way to do that is to leave.
If you stay he will do this to you forever and your life will become hell.
It's your choice, but if you foolishly think you can change someone, it is NOT possible.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (19 September 2012):
 Terrific "husband" you've got there....
You can start improving your lot in life by leaving him....
What do you have to lose????
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): I'm sorry but this is my opinion:
Whether you want to or not, GET RID OF HIM!
-Living under your roof.
-Disrespecting you.
-Slagging you off to other women he flirts with and allowing them to talk to you like crap.
-He uses your car to pick some of these girls up and take them out.
It shouldn't take something huge to happen to make him change, he simply should know that the way he treats you is wrong. Bottom line is, he doesn't love and respect you enough to treat you any better than this and the longer you allow him to, the more he'll treat you this way. You didn't marry him to be treated this way did you?
You're better off without.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2012): Leave him. He tried pushing you down making you feel worthless. And undesired. Kick him out of your life and he WILL see what he SCREWED UP. It will be HARD but thats the only way he will REALLY pay. At the endvof the night the real treasure is you and all he has is nothing. I bet you will come across a genuine man who he will love you and respe t you and take care of you. But really think about it...Youre only hurting yourself while he is relaxing thinking you're his i**t. Its time to take care if you and find yourself, time to fly and enjoy life and the hell with him he will get his time. Karma is b****. You're a strong woman because more than likely he wont change if you think he did....he most likely did not. Only an act to get to you to fall for his trick. YOU'RE beautiful and tell yourself that but take a break from him and see what happend. You deserve happiness!! Good luck :)
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