We have been married for 18 years but recently he has been cold and we don't have sex for months.

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Any advise will be appreciated. I have a situation going on with my husband of 18 years. We married young and maybe this is a factor because I think he is tired of me. I have always been a little colder than him and would try to hide my emotions, I had built this wall and wouldnt give myself 100%. Years went by and i learned to put down my guard because he proved to me time and again that i his priorty and my love grew more and more. We had our ups and downs but recently its been more down. For the last couple of years our relationship have suffered a great fall, he stop paying attention to me, we lost communication, and he can go months without having sex with me. I tried talking to him but he might try to fixs the situation but only fir a few days because than he us bck to his ice cold self. I really want to understand him but he wont open up to me. We are drifting apart and i feel if we dont try to fibd a solution our marriage of 18 years will end. I Dont think he is cheathing, but I wish I knew whats in his mind because im afraid that one day he will just leave me, or i could get tired of this ice cold relationship and fibd a way out. He is losing me by the minute and is jyst standing there watching me flow away. I just want an advuse on what apporach i should take I dont want to give up just now I want to givd it all I got before we call it quits. I still love him but I have to think of my pride too.

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