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Archived questions from: December, 2019 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'm worried about my mental health.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1813 days ago

31 December 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm scared i'm sinking into depression and can't pull myself out of it. I'm a Mum of one (teenager) and came out of a long term relationship in October. When I had my child, I battled post-natal depression for several years and so I think I can spot some of the signs. ... (329 words)

Are my wife and mother being selfish?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1814 days ago

31 December 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - Am I paranoid or are people selfish? I recently had a road traffic collision and as a result I was prevented from doing my usual sports or activities by my wife and mother, physically I was fine. They both said I shouldn’t drive for my health just to recover mentally, so I w... (244 words)

My ex and I remain friends, he has invited me to a family party.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1816 days ago

30 December 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - my ex and I dated for two years we have been broken up for a year now we still remain friends and hang out almost everyday he has invited me to a family party what should I expect... (41 words)

There is no physical chemistry, which makes me think he is not "My Guy"

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1814 days ago

30 December 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear cupid, I have been dating a friend of mine who confessed that hes had feelings for me for a year now, and since I just got out of a toxic relationship he said he had to tell.me how he felt before I started dating someone else, hes a great guy, very sweet, calm different ... (132 words)

I'm shy and not sure how to work out if this could be more than a friendship.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1814 days ago

30 December 2019 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello I've recently met a guy at my workplace I'm gay and I'd like to know if he's just being friendly or maybe likes me or just want to be friends because a few days ago we walked together and a girl approached me and greeted me and not him also, and he jokingly asked her why ... (279 words)

What is this girl doing? Is she into me or not?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1803 days ago

30 December 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - This girl at college stares at me a lot. Ive walked over to her while with her friends a couple of times to make conversation but I ended up speaking with her friends and she walks off, not instantly but usually pretty soon after. She has the most beautiful eyes and her sta... (174 words)

My boyfriend acts single and doesn't respect me.

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 1816 days ago

30 December 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now. I’m having issues because his social media. He brings his exes to it a lot. Particularly one that I caught him having an emotional affair. As well as a bunch of flirting. He sees no issues with tell... (119 words)

Extended family, I'm damned if I do, and damned if I dont.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1816 days ago

29 December 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - some background: I am an expat living in my husbands country. Despite that on the surface, everyone gets along, there has been unspoken tension for years. Without listing everything off, basically my MIL and my BILs gf have given me silent treatment and cold shoulder and at ... (855 words)

My husband doesn't like my new hair colour.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 1814 days ago

29 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - ive been with my partner for twenty years when I met him I was natural brunette but now im in my mid forties got a few greys and I changed my hair to blonde which everyone likes my family and friends and I get much more attention. Most importantly I love it , it suits me and ... (107 words)

Why did my husband go my sister-in-law's house when he knows I dislike her?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1813 days ago

29 December 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Let me give you a little background first before asking the question. My husband and i live in city A, his brother and his wife live in city B, and all our parents are based in city C. We wre all currently in city C with our our respective parents for the holidays. I k... (309 words)

My wife has an anger management problem and my patience is wearing thin. What can I do to help?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1816 days ago

29 December 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife has an anger management problem. Sometimes she is mad at me, but many times she reacts angrily in ways that are disproportionate to the situation. If she "almost" (but does not) burn dinner she will stomp her feet and pound the table. If she spills water on herself ... (572 words)

My Ex Girlfriend has told me the only person who will raise our son is her.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

29 December 2019 (M)

age 22-25 - The mother of my child and my ex girlfriend got a new boyfriend. We’ve been broke up since October 28, of last year. So roughly 14 months ago. About, May of that time period, only a month or two after our son was born. We were at my senior graduation party and we got into an ... (1127 words)

Why do people say men age better than women?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1813 days ago

29 December 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - Why do so many people say that men age better than women or why is there the saying that men age like fine wine and women like off milk. Is this why so many successful men and movie stars want young women and so many older women complain of men their age not wanting to date ... (123 words)

How do I stay friends when I want much more?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

28 December 2019 (F) age 30-35 - I have been interested in this guy for years, we have been in almost constant contact for years, he worked away and didn’t want to be in a long distance relationship. All of our friends say they don’t understand why we aren’t together and I’m frequently asked what is going on ... (208 words)

I found out my husband is cheating, I want to be able to do the same.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

28 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Question 1 ive been with my husband for 10yrs we both did our share of cheating and I thought we were passed it I promised to never cheat again I recently found out he still cheating but here I stay but now that I know his secret how can I tell him or let him know that if hes ... (140 words)

I'm miserable in our relationship of 7 years.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1803 days ago

28 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I’m in a relationship now for almost 7 years and I am so miserable there is no excitement I try talking to him on a night just general chit chat and I get totally ignored by him he shows me attention when he wants sex when he gets it he goes to ignoring me again so I avoid ... (149 words)

I was so sure about this girl so her rejection has me off kilter.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1818 days ago

28 December 2019 (M)

age 26-29 - I (22m) really hit it off with someone (26F) at a party and she turned me down, blaming everything on the alcohol. Sorry in advance for the novel, but the story goes as follows: A few weeks ago, my friends in grad school were having a combination end of the semester and Chr... (1049 words)

I'm in love with my cousin - a followup to my previous question.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1815 days ago

28 December 2019 (F)

age 18-21 - I am re posting this question with extra details as I need more advice he has a girlfriend of 4 years, we have NOT had sex, he has never threatened me or hit me est... , i think I’m in love i want to know what he thinks and what I can do etc... I am I love with my 20year o... (237 words)

I'm in a predicament. Who do I chose?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1815 days ago

28 December 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I was dating a guy who I really loved for three years. After two years, I had to leave the city and settle in another country for work. He was not comfortable with doing a long distance but I was...so we eventually broke up. Our love bond was strong and while I was e... (264 words)

I've ruined my familly, I can't look at them.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1818 days ago

28 December 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I had a family and it was beautiful. I never actually cheated physically but I talked to a guy for a month or so. It was never sexual, at least not from my standpoint. It was sweet. I liked the attention. I liked the new excitement. I liked hearing how great I was an... (167 words)

I don't want to be in this marriage anymore.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1817 days ago

28 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I don’t think I want to be in my marriage anymore. My husband and I have been married for 6 years. It’s really never been great. He’s a completely closed off person. We never talk about anything - future goals, family planning, budgets, our emotions, how our days went. The ... (340 words)

He's left without me, after planning to spend NYE together.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

27 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been seeing someone for 3 months. We have been taking it very slowly but the past 3 weeks things have been progressing more and I have met his mother and a couple of his friends. The other day we were talking about New Year’s Eve. Originally we had planned to go away to ... (332 words)

My boyfriend's good side is wonderful, it is why I have stayed so long.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

27 December 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Over the last year, I've spent 5 months total with my bf. Let me give you a timeline. January-gone half the month working February-gone half the month because he was mad at me but we took a trip to Florida where we reconciled but then I flew across the country for a fa... (431 words)

My boyfriend cheated, and I don't know how to rebuild the trust.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

27 December 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, I have been with my partner just over a year. We were work colleagues for around 6 months prior to that, and our relationship didn't start in the best way - my then boyfriend was working away and I had an affair with current boyfriend for that duration (around 2 months).... (351 words)

I struggle to trust my judgement when it comes to guys.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

27 December 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello aunts and uncles, I’m really interested to hear what others think is a ‘normal’ amount of messages to be sending in the very early stages of dating. For context: I’ve been seeing a new guy that I met online for the past month, we’ve had 1-2 dates per week during th... (267 words)

I feel a complete romantic disaster!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

27 December 2019 (M)

age 18-21 - Hi all, and happy holidays! Any help or advice is much appreciated. A few years ago I liked a girl at my school (so much that it became more of an unhealthy obsession than a crush), but was never able to muster up enough courage to finally ask her out until about two years ... (352 words)

My boyfriend is financially dependent on me, did I make the right choice?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

26 December 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Everyone, I am writing this today because to be completely honest, I feel completely lost. I have been in a relationship for about 7 months. It started pretty slow, I didn't necessarily plan on being in a relationship so fast. We started talking and shortly after he moved... (1306 words)

It makes me uncomfortable that my husband is on an app with my friends

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1811 days ago

26 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I am married with 2 children . My husband and I have had some difficulties mainly with his temper but we've work on it alot and things are alot better. A situation has come up which I'm struggling with and am looking for advice to deal and gain some perspective. First let me ... (302 words)

Should I yes or no female coworker

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1820 days ago

26 December 2019 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok this young female coworker that I work with, we came into the job together so we are classmates if you want to call us that. From the first day we worked together she asked me to rub her feet (didn't do it). We hung out a couple times but she wants to go far out to places no ... (161 words)

Married 17 years and it's stale and boring in my marriage now

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

26 December 2019 (M)

age 51-59 - I have been married for 17 years and have two children. Our marriage has become boring and dull. I will suggest we go out to see a movie or a car ride or anything and the answer is always no. I feel that either she has met someone else or has just given up on this ... (75 words)

How do I balance 3 young children along with a love life with my partner?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

26 December 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a mother to 3 young children, ages 5,3 and 2. It gets very overwhelming sometimes, as parenting can get but we have fun. I've been with their father for 6 years. Lately it seems to be a bit of a struggle for us to balance this parenting/partner thing. I guess you could ... (251 words)

I'm in love with my cousin but not sure about his feelings for me

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1818 days ago

26 December 2019 (F)

age 18-21 - I am I love with my 20year old cousin. I am 15. I don’t know what to do. He has a girlfriend but he acts like he likes me : he always teases me and we cuddle and other more intimate things. However I don’t know if he feels the same. I need him he is all I can think about I know ... (180 words)

Is my boyfriend inconsiderate or am I overreacting?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1820 days ago

26 December 2019 (F) age 41-50 - Hello aunts and uncles and happy holidays! I have a question and trying to figure out if I’m over reacting. My boyfriend of 10 months was supposed to spend the Christmas afternoon with me, I’m 37 and he is 45. He was invited to his friend’s party at lunch and supposed... (171 words)

I'm worried about my friend giving money to a man she met online

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1818 days ago

25 December 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I’m concerned about my friend. She met a man online. I think it was on Facebook. They have met 3 times, he lives far from her so she travels to see him. He is unemployed apparently. He does ask her for money. I found out she does give it to him. My concern is I thi... (206 words)

I got my step-sister pregnant. How do I tell the family?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

25 December 2019 (M)

age 26-29 - I was with my step-sister who is only a year younger then me when she told me she had a crush. I asked her who it was and she said a guy called. Which I thought was weird as that was also my name. I said 'Can I meet him?' She said 'WE'RE NOT DATING!!!' I then said 'Ok..!' The ... (125 words)

He's ready to break up with his fiancee to be with me but is it the right thing to do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

25 December 2019 (F) age 30-35 - Hello agony aunts, 7 years ago I was in a relationship with this man whom I met in college. We were so in love however I had to finish my higher education outside the country for 2 years. We were trying patiently to manage the LDR but after I finished my studies I had a great ... (429 words)

I can’t get into deep sleep anymore

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1820 days ago

25 December 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - I haven’t been able to go into deep sleep, this has been going on for almost a year now, I am only able to experience shallow sleepwhere I almost feel half asleep and half awake, I feel like I could be awaken by a drop of pin. And this shallow sleep lasts less than 4 hours, I ... (322 words)

Troubled family relationships am I in the wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1820 days ago

25 December 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Trying to cut a long story short as I just need an outsiders point of view. I have been with my partner for almost 14 years and throughout this time he has a lot of pressure from his parents. Not only that, they make him feel not good enough, he is always criticised and always ... (514 words)

How can I survive my toxic relationship with my mother in law and her sister?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1705 days ago

24 December 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend's family and this situation has got me drained mentally plus giving me severe anxiety and depression. My mother in law and her sister who I live inside the same residence with, hate me. I live on the second floor apartment. Everyone knows they are mean to me, they... (678 words)

My hypochondria and fear about the health of my loved ones is driving me up the wall

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1823 days ago

24 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I desperately need help for something that's gotten out of hand. I am a total hypochondriac and always assume the worst when it comes to health issues. The last year has been particularly bad. I thought I had breast cancer (turned out to be a harmless lump), thought my fathe... (220 words)

Would I be judged for not wearing a bra?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 1793 days ago

24 December 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - I would like an honest opinion please I don't find bras comfortable. Would i be judged by men or women if I was to be without a bra in public I'm only small up top and I know it's my choice but even tho I'm small up top, to put it simply, my nipples are not small Woul... (82 words)

I do not know how to communicate with my husband anymore because he just does not listen!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1823 days ago

24 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid Ny husband of 2 years would not listen when I try to tell him when something he does bothers me, but he does tell me all the time what I do right and wrong. Its double standards and when I try to tell him that, he would not listen. He gets defensive and blame ev... (76 words)

We rarely have sex and b/f watches brother/sister porn. Does he want to have sex with his sister?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

24 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Why does my bf watch porn w/ brother and sister having sex? He gets defensive when i asked him about it. We rarely have sex because he says he's tired but waits until i go to bed then masterbates. Does this mean he doesn't like having sex or is that he has sexual feelings for ... (59 words)

My husband and I are not well suited. Should we even be together?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1819 days ago

23 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - This may sound trivial to a lot of people who have more serious issues but it’s something that’s really bothering me and I could use some advice and input My husband and have have an ok marriage . I say only ok because the emotionally intimacy isn’t great . He is very much a s... (380 words)

My boyfriend is going away for a month, how do I get through this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1821 days ago

23 December 2019 (F) age 41-50 - My boyfriend will be going away for a month soon. I can't go. I am worried he will cheat on me. I fear I will not be able to cope with the constant anxiety and stress about what he is doing. Can anyone provide tips on how to stay SANE? An entire month of non stop anxiety will ... (115 words)

Split for a month and I slept with someone else.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1813 days ago

23 December 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey aunts and uncles I am in a real dilemma, I have been with my man over four years,we have had our ups and downs and he often goes away for a few days and ignored me. A few times we have agreed to split and the last time we did was for a month. In that time I slept with som... (204 words)

We don't have sex much anymore.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1823 days ago

23 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years. And next year it is 10 years. But we don't have sex that much anymore. Is this normal in a relationship?. Or is there something wrong with me?. ... (37 words)

My boyfriend and his crazy ex .... I'm wondering if I should just leave them to it.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

23 December 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My partner and I just got back together, and he has female friends and he slept with all of them. This one in particular that he keeps in contact with I really hate her because she was his gf before we got back together and she did some really nasty things to him and me. Mind ... (174 words)

I lose my erection when I'm about to have sex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1822 days ago

22 December 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi guys! I am having problem during sex.My penis is tight and fit when i play with my babe but when i want to insert it become lose. what is issue? need your help.... (37 words)

My partner spends a lot of time partying with his friends.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1824 days ago

22 December 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - So me and my partner have been together around 4 years. For the most part it’s been good. My issue is his time spent with his friends. They get together about 3 times per week. His friends are mostly single and they party. Whenever they see each other it’s alcohol and ... (127 words)