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writes:I was with my step-sister who is only a year younger then me when she told me she had a crush. I asked her who it was and she said a guy called. Which I thought was weird as that was also my name. I said 'Can I meet him?' She said 'WE'RE NOT DATING!!!' I then said 'Ok..!' The thing is I have a crush on her. I had one before my dad and her mum got married. Now, she's in love with someone else!! So, I confessed to her. She accepted. But, I don't know how I'm going to tell our parents? Not to mention I got her pregnant, can I get some tips on what to tell our parents?
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reader, Billy Bathgate  +, writes (26 December 2019):
Way to bury the lede kid. I don’t know how old your step sister is but if she is an adult then the two of you need to act like adults and step up and tell your parents. I hope you plan to be a man and live up to your responsibilities.
I’m going to assume what happened was consensual sex between two adults who care about each other. If it was then the facts are she is not your sister and there is no legal, biological or moral reason you can’t be together.
Your parents may be angry but they’ll get over since both of them are going to be grandparents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2019): You tell your father and her let her tell her mother and let them find a solution for you. This needs for the both of them to disuss this and come with a plan to what to do. The sooner you tell them the better. Dont wait for the bump to show for them to know what has happened
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (26 December 2019):
 This doesn’t really sound true, but if it is, you just have to announce it and get it out of the way. “I got her pregnant” and take the consequences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2019): You are a bit muddled.This is not about a crush.You two have already overstepped the boundaries of friendship and crush.You can't back track now so tell your story in the correct order.By this I mean it could sound like this.'We got together and had sex a couple of times and my girlfriend got pregnant.!'Then you are talking reality.Then you address the issue of the pregnancy.How does your girlfriend feel about having a baby?How do you feel about becoming a dad?As you are both a secret couple would you prefer to have a baby or for your girlfriend to have a termination?Had she seen a doctor yet?It's no good hiding in the shadow of your parents relationship.You two are not related.Not by blood so there is no problem with you having a secret love affair.The thing that separates a man from a boy is that a man takes responsibility for his actions.So that's why you own your mistakes and your achievements.Otherwise you are still a child!And expect to be grounded for being naughty.This is not in that context.It may not be ideal but it is what it is.So be clear about it.You have to be able to talk about your actions.I have known younger boys face up to facts quicker.And to accept responsibility and to talk to the girlfriend properly about what she wanted to do.There is no reason not to.Surely you understand that sex without a condom can lead to pregnancy.Some youngsters just say:'The condom broke!' which can happen.But by your age you have to accept that unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy.It's a very basic assumption and you should know that you use a condom if you intend to protect yourself and the girlfriend or a potential future child.Don't talk this back to front garbage about a crush and mum and dad being married.They may have got together but she is not a sister you grew up with.So either you took advantage of her and forced yourself on her or you both agreed to have sex together.If you forced yourself on her then you need to wonder why you felt entitled to take advantage of her.You need some adult conversation to get your head together so I suggest you speak to one of the adults and tell them the truth.By doing this you are accepting responsibility for your actions and behaving in the correct manner.
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