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writes:Why do so many people say that men age better than women or why is there the saying that men age like fine wine and women like off milk. Is this why so many successful men and movie stars want young women and so many older women complain of men their age not wanting to date them . Is it true that women somehow age quicker than men . Most of the women I know take a lot better care of themselves than the men I know of the same age but still many people seem very critical of any signs of aging on them . For example grey hair or wrinkles are often criticised on women whilst seen as distinguished on men Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2020): mysogyny , male power , econmonics and the fact that historically men have held the vast majority of resources like money and could demand young women and treat women as daiposqbke resources . Now that women are gaining the means for their own ecominic power in many countries it is slowly changing and women will slowly be treated as whole human beings and not just breeding machines but it takes time
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2020): There is definitely a hugely unfair cultural bias.
But there is perhaps a dose of the reality of biology: that men can reproduce even as older men, and women cannot after middle age...so wrinkles on a man don't trigger biological alarms but on a woman do (in the deep subconscious).
Sad fact but it is just one small aspect in the overall picture. There is way more to life than the sexual, and there are plenty of older women who are thought of as attractive. Aging is tough, but we learn to value other aspects of ourselves, which is a great gift. And good men also learn to value those aspects.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 December 2019):
 I don't know who these "people are" to be honest. I think we see more and more MATURE women in movies, even if they often happened to be behind the scenes and directing.
I have seen a LOT more commercials that show a wider age range too, and I have to say they choose women who look amazing for their age.
Personally, do I find an older well kept man more attractive than an older well kept woman? Not really. It all depends. I actually see WAY more well kept women over 65 around here than men.
Do men age better? No they age about the same. They don't quite have the same struggles (hormonal) when it comes to their bodies, when we stop producing estrogen we can easily gain weight, they don't seem to have the same issues with testosterone.
Are men more in denial? Perhaps.
I think there will ALWAYS be the notion that because men can produce offspring even in their 70's (and older) that it makes them more virile and therefore young-ish.
Whether YOU choose to buy into it or not, I think it up to you.
Do I CARE whether other people judge me by my age? I couldn't care less. Because there is nothing I can do about what THEY chose to do.
I DO think our society as a whole are not kind to older people. We forget them after a certain age. Which I think is a shame.
I have NEVER heard any granny bashing. I don't know where you heard that kind of crap. But I would refuse to buy into it.
Age with grace. That is what my grandmother always said. And she did. She was a head turner till the day she died. And she didn't look 20.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2019): Two things. Misogyny and Captalism.
How do you get women to buy crap products like anti aging cream (which might as well be whipped cream for all the good they do)? You first get them to believe their main worthiness comes from being beautiful. Then you tell them that beauty is youth, something they have absolutely no control over. Now you tell them you have a miracle product that will make them young (beautiful and therefore worthy) and you charge £35 for 30mls
Who runs the beauty industry? Men.
It's a scam.
See also: diet industry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2019): Wise old owl . If you ask me whether I prefer men with pot bellies who don’t look after themselves then the answer is of course no t. just as I’m not expecting men to prefer women who don’t look after themselves !
HOWEVER if you ask me to compare apples to apples and if I like men with grey hair and some wrinkles as much as men who are much younger I can tell you very honestly I prefer them .this is the double standard that I think you are completely missing .
It’s not about the fact that we all get older and youth in general is seen as more attractive than than aging , it’s about the traits that come with age like wisdom, wrinkles , some grey hair and life experiences are not valued in Women in the way they are in men . This is just a fact. .There is a double standard against women . You can claim it’s biology all you like but it’s culturally reinforced with the omission of older women from important roles in films ( something like 14 percent ) the way we hear of granny bashing ( not literal but slandering and shaming of their bodies but never hear of grandpa bashing ) talk of crazy old cat ladies and ‘bitter ‘ women etc etc One look at the movies and how old men are paired with much Much younger women , women in real life Who are ditched for younger women , one look at who the vast majority of ads repeatedly telling them they must eradicate wrinkles and grey hair to be attractive is aimed at will prove this ( Hint- it’s NOT men )
Deny these things all one likes but the reality is that getting older as a woman is about being devalued . Women are told out whole loves our primary value is appearance
I guess men have the luxury of pretending this doesn’t happen or not noticing and not caring
As for living longer , yes it’s true women do tend to take better care of their health , see drs when necessary and form healthy relationships that help keep stress down which research shows helps longevity .
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2019): From the time your great great-grandmother was in diapers; the beauty industry was conditioning our culture to believe that aging is undesirable.
In a patriarchal-society, women of childbearing-age are most desirable and preferred in marriage. Presuming you're an old-guy who still wants to procreate! Perky boobs vs droopy boobs might be aesthetically more appealing. If you're an old-fart, all you can do about it is look anyway!
Now come-on! Do you find a balding old-guy with a pot-belly, a hairy-back, dangly long testicles, a turkey-neck penis, and saggy man-boobs sexy? Be honest!
What appeals to the eye usually gets attention! Blame nature!
Entertainment media, the fashion industry, and the cosmetic-industry enriches itself selling products to fight aging and to appeal to vanity...women are the targeted-market! They are more likely to buy it, whether they need it or not! Why do beautiful women wear makeup? Because they like to, not because they have to! Why do men go to barber shops or stylists? Why not just shave our heads and call it day? People like attention and to look good, regardless of age! Personality still tops the charts when you want to fall in-love!
We are conditioned and wired by nature to believe we must be physically-desirable to attract a strong and attractive mate; in order to reproduce pretty healthy babies! Male-birds have the prettier feathers! I dunno why? The females get to do the picking! He's got to dance around, strut, and make a total jackass out of himself; and she still flies aways! With her dull plumage and all!
We are conditioned by constantly-broadcasted commercial and ads programming us to believe wrinkles and sagging on anybody is disgusting. Regardless of gender!
I see more guys at the gym than women! They must have been told women prefer muscular hot-bods...oh, and the gay-boys like them too!
Your notion about aging in men is outdated. We have the internet now; and men are as concerned about wrinkles and aging as women! Men tend to drop weight easier, can keep muscle-tone longer, and we retain the collagen in our skin longer into old-age. We can grow facial-hair to cover-up wrinkles! Women prefer to remove theirs! I guess you have to take that up with God!
You are speaking in generalities, and your cynicism is based on prejudices and perceptions cultivated into our modern society. Don't believe the hype!
You don't have to believe or let it bother you. It's really your choice if you want to accept these notions perpetrated by the advertising media; and judge yourself according to stereotypes, artificial-standards, and old-wives tales. Old-sayings bear truthisms, and they are also full of bull!
It's up to you if you want to allow yourself to be classified, rated, or assessed according warped-perceptions of reality. You've been aging since you were a fetus! Live long and prosper!
They also say a lot of good things about matronly-beauty, and people who age with grace and dignity. It's up to you which you prefer to listen to.
Another truthism is that women live longer; and are more likely to cash-in the life-insurance policies, collect the pensions, and assets their husbands leave behind. How should men feel about that?
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