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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How long does it take somebody to get over nonstop lying, cheating & betrayal??

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2949 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi All!! Im praying that somebody out there will have some answers to my massive confusion in my relationship. 4 months after starting a relationship with the guy im still with currently. He proposed to me. I accepted due to being massively head over heels in love with him. Not ... (354 words)

I scared him off but I want him back...but how??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2949 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - There was this guy. I knew him from high school and we were always friends with a very strong connection. He liked me but I always had a boyfriend and frankly I thought he was weird. We talked briefly in December and stopped because I was going through a tough time...In August ... (192 words)

How do I deal with him moving to the other side of the world?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2906 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age 26-29 - the love of my life is moving back home to the other side of the world to me and I don't know how to cope with this change and the build up to him leaving. Our relationship has a terminating date. What should I do to cope with this situation? ... (50 words)

Do you think I my married lover is tiring of me? In the beginning we talked. Now he only sends a text

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been friends with this married man for 8 months now, who doesn't have sex with his wife I guess. He is 38 and I am 22. He was my first lover. He took me to his house 3 times and we never had actual sex because I said I want to remain a virgin. He used to talk to me for the ... (225 words)

Do I have to worry that I'm always the first to message "I love you"? He says it first in person!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age 18-21 - My boyfriend and I are very close, and we may be in love. We've shared a few new experiences together, and he spoils me in every way possible and for that I'm so lucky to have him. Over messaging eachother, most of the time I have been the one to start up meaningful ... (123 words)

My dad seems suspicious of me and I'm afraid he'll have my aunt restrict me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2928 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age 22-25 - Hi everyone I really need some advise.. I recently moved to a different country to study and even though I'm living my aunt, my dad keeps on calling me everyday and honestly, it's a very intensive course and sometimes I don't pick due to the fact that I finish late from... (386 words)

He caught me in a small white lie about my smoking cannabis!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so I told a small white lie to my boyfriend that I hadn't smoked cannabis in a while but he found out I had infact the day before but it was only a tiny bit and I didn't enjoy it anyway. When he got with me he knew I smoked and had given up for him and this was one slip up,... (308 words)

How do I help my partner become a better parent to his 8-year-old? Right now he spoils her and shares too much information about our relationship

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2904 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - How do I help my really good man become an amazing man and father? We've been together 4 years and couldn't be closer.( or could we?) We do everything together and plan on getting married soon. There's a small nuisance and it has to do with his 8 year old daughter who li... (463 words)

Had a bad last day at work and my boyfriend just made jokes about it instead of listening. Would a good partner react this way?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2906 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi members. I think my boyfriend is selfish and not understanding in this situation I will write about. What do you guys think? Would a good boyfriend react this way?? It was the last day of my job today and after telling him I had a bad day at work he joked about it. When I... (126 words)

Did I mess things up by not sleeping with her in the midst of all these mixed signals?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

30 September 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - So, i am kind of sort of seeing a coworker but not really, we both agreed it would be horrible to date while coworkers. She is ten years older than me, kids are out he house and i have no kids. We have gone out a few times, but nothing serious. Yesterday, i meet her mom and... (445 words)

How can we slow things down? And why does he keep slipping out?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2837 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age - Ok, so, After messaging and chatting to my guy, we both agreed to meet . I really like him, he likes me too. We get on so well, laughing, relaxing and enjoying each other's company. We arranged a few more dates, there is definately a spark there, on date 3 we kiss, passion... (256 words)

The definition of moving on has a very different meaning for dumper and dumpee?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

30 September 2016 (M)

age 36-40 - Is it normal that Dumpers always want to be friends or find it cool than how a dumpee views it? And Im not talking about right after a breakup, but after time they seem to just be cool to maintain some truce or form of contact. It is clear that a dumpee suffers much much ... (533 words)

Was this barman interested in me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

30 September 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - I went to an afternoon bar to catch up with a friend. I helped myself to some water as the queues were too long at the bar. Then this waiter came over quickly and filled a bottle of water and came over to my table and said "I have got you some water so you don't have to get any ... (175 words)

At 19 I kissed another guy. What is the kindest way to tell my husband the truth? I can't forgive my indiscretion.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2906 days ago

29 September 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've been with my husband ten years, married for two years. We have always had our ups and downs but now we are very strong and we have two children. However, when I was nineteen I made a terrible mistake. I kissed another man in a club while drunk. It was totally out of ... (347 words)

Is becoming angry a normal reaction to being accused of cheating?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2950 days ago

29 September 2016 (F) age 41-50 - If you accuse your boyfriend of cheating and he says he is remaining calm because if he doesn't he will become violent and walk out the door and never come back, would that raise a red flag? He said he doesn't like being called a cheater. Is this am extreme reaction? Cou... (83 words)

I feel bad for my pregnant sister as her mother in law is so mean to her. Sometimes I wish she would get divorced. What can I do to support my sister?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

29 September 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone.. I have a problem that is about my sister.. It really affects me and i feel so bad for her ! My sister has a mother in law or should i say a devil in law... She has done nothing but try to ruin my sisters marriage.. Caused a million problems between my siste... (203 words)

Do I back off and hope he'll approach me? Or do I make a move and tell him how I feel? Eight year age difference.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

29 September 2016 (F)

age - I have posted about this before so some of you may be familiar with my story. Just need a bit more advice. I met a guy, he is a PT at my gym. Cutting a long story short. There seems to be an attraction due to the way he looked at me. I did not like him at first as he neve... (498 words)

10 years later my ex writes me to say she's sorry. Do I ignore?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2906 days ago

29 September 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - A random question here .. about 10 years ago with my first gf ,, we was going out for a couple of months and then she ended it and spread loads of bad things about me .. which tbf didn't help me and probably hasn't helped me to this day .One thing it did show me is who my true ... (142 words)

Am I right in that my friend has picked yet another controlling unpleasant boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

29 September 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Try and keep this brief. Best friend has form for allowing guys to treat her like a doormat. She's been single ten years and approaching 40 and she's suddenly thrown away all her previous dealbreakers - must have plenty of time for her, not have been previously marri... (476 words)

Why he'd come back after 3 years after things ended so horribly?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

29 September 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - Long story short, I was briefly acquainted with a man 3 years ago and it went downhill very fast. We were supposed to be strictly friends and things started getting weird and complicated with attraction and feelings and miscommunication. We were both very attracted to each ... (174 words)

I think I broke my hymen. Am I still a virgin?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

29 September 2016 (F)

age 22-25 - so this is pretty embarrassing??? but i was masturbating with a hairbrush handle and it was rather large and i like popped my cherry??? i didn't bleed or anything but i felt the pinch-y stretching feeling and now i'm like looser??? like is this normal?? how do i tighten up ... (71 words)

I love my boyfriend but am concerned that love isn't enough

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

28 September 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been in a relationship for just over a year with my boyfriend - I'm 25 and he is 23. He is an amazing boyfriend, he is my rock and my best friend. He got me through a tough time and is totally supportive of me, we rarely ever argue. My family and friends love him, and I ... (437 words)

Please help me draft a post to my sister for her birthday

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

28 September 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey everyone!! I'm not good with writing or words but I want to write a message to my sister on her birthday!So please help me I will just tell in brief what I want to write. My younger sister is my best friend I can't imagine my childhood without her,we did everything toget... (127 words)

Is there hope that my mother will learn to love me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

28 September 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - So my mother and I have always had a weird relationship. One minute I'm the best thing that ever happened to her, the next, she will ignore me for days or weeks. Long story short, she had me when she was 20, and finally told me after having drinks one night that she's jealous ... (459 words)

She showed me her nude pictures. Does this mean she likes me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2947 days ago

28 September 2016 (M)

age 26-29 - A little about us, we are both 21, study at the same university and are very close to each other. We study together, eat together, hang out it the same group most of the time. Last week we were doing an assignment at her place. Actually there were 3 of us that day. Let's ... (354 words)

How can I overcome my anxiety around women?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

28 September 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - I suffer from anxiety near women. I try to avoid women as best I can in social settings. Not in a malicious way but nervously. I had some bad experiences growing up and it's made me wary around women. Growing up girls were particularly mean. Guys were on a physical and ver... (315 words)

Should I wait for him to develop feelings for me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

28 September 2016 (F)

age 22-25 - I proposed a boy... at first he accepted, but then he wanted time from me... He told that he hasn't that kind of feelings for me, even he said, from the beginning he thought me as as a sister... so he needed time to grow his feelings... but he didn't rejected me also.... (444 words)

Is this legitimate suspicion or paranoia?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

28 September 2016 (M)

age 36-40 - As I venture more and more into the gay world (possibly the same in the straight world), I recognise that I have this unique skill in winning over guys and making friends easily. This gives me a great power, in that im not afraid to put myself out there. As I develope... (348 words)

My FWB has friend zoned me and its devastating!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

28 September 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, so of a few months ago I wrote this post but I would now like to get some more feedback as this situation is really driving me insane. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/mixed-signals-from-my-crush.html Basically, him and I continue to occasionally talk and he kept se... (622 words)

My boyfriend has always been rather shady. Is this a red flag?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

28 September 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - I would like some advice on whether the following scenario would raise a red flag: Today I was driving home from work, on the phone with my boyfriend. Suddenly he said he had to take a call, so I was like OK, call me back. When I got home 40mins later, he had just gotten o... (378 words)

Considering my reasons for going in, my boyfriends comment, my age and his age and our desire to have kids, is it too late to join the military?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

28 September 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - For some time now, it has been a dream of mine to join the military. I was in ROTC for a bit in college but to be honest, did not succeed very well. I got out after a year but then after graduating with my degree about 2.5 years ago, I got the same feeling that I really wanted ... (272 words)

Should I act now? I don't want things to go too far, but I like my tutor and I think he likes me. What should I do...?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

28 September 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a 24 year old girl who just started college 6 months ago. For the last 3 months I've been getting help from a tutor in a class that I had trouble keeping up in. The tutors at my college are students that have shown excellence in their past months/year of classes and now ... (323 words)

My boyfriend touching my breast didn't do anything for me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 18-21 - Hello, I'm 15, and I'm still a virgin. My boyfriend of about 4 months and I have shared quite a few new experiences with eachother, and as of yesterday he had touched my breasts. My bra was on, and I have to say I didn't really feel the sensation. Of course I wouldn't know how ... (98 words)

Its been 18 months since my husband passed away, is it too soon to start dating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - I started dating my husband when I was 16, we dated for 8 years and were married for 10 and had three children together. In April 2015 he was killed in a car accident then he hit a moose. It turned my life upside down. He was the only guy I ever dated and we had an amazing ... (365 words)

I can't seem to find anyone to date me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2881 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, ok so long story short I've been single for close to 7 years now and that includes no intimate relationships, I've been starting to get down on myself thinking about it, I've been told I'm a quite attractive woman and I take care of my appearance but i can't seem to find a ... (82 words)

Was she hinting that she wants me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (M)

age 26-29 - My female friend sugguested that I masturbated then openly admitted she does it. Was she hinting that she wants me or am I misreading the situation? Basically I was saying I was having trouble sleeping and she was like why don't you go masturbate.... (47 words)

Its hard since a co-worker every day when I still have feelings for him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2488 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I have liked someone at work for quite a while, and have always had a good relationship, quite flirty and friendly, but i never really knew if they liked me back. They've recently admitted their feelings (while drunk) and then changed their mind, and I can't help being ... (161 words)

My boyfriend just broke up with me and I am devastated

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend of less than a year just broke up with me. I am 31. I feel so alone and devastated. He was everything you could want in a guy except he suffered from depression. He couldn't seem to get himself in the mainframe to love someone else. He has 5 girlfriends and has ... (159 words)

My girlfriend is moving into a house with a guy she once cheated with. I'm not happy about this!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi, My girlfriend recently moved out into a student house. I've been with her for a few months but shes moving into a house with the boy who she cheated on her boyfriend with previously. He has no respect for boyfriends and always tries to hit on her when hes drunk. Shes ... (70 words)

Will I ever love someone the way I loved my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - I broke up with my boyfriend years ago but I thought about him a lot and he's only just got a new girlfriend after 4 years. My question is is it possible that I won't love any one as much as I did him? As this ever happened to anyone else that they let someone go and nev... (74 words)

A text from another woman has made me wonder if I can trust my boyfriend

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (F) age - I've been with my b/f for 3 years and just found a text from a woman saying she misses him too. I questioned him and he said its nothing just someone he's helping find a job. He says she's nothing and not to worry about it.I said why would you tell some woman you miss her and ... (179 words)

I'm dating a new guy but emotionally still tied to my ex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - I was dating a guy off and on for about 2 years. I know a part of me will love him forever, or at least I think so. Our relationship was not the most healthy. Lots of fighting,drama, and he had some narcissistic tendencies.It was like a roller coaster. There were good times ... (305 words)

Why does my boyfriend keep making jokes about kids?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 26-29 - So been dating my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months and lately he been making jokes about me having his kids or when we do it he ain't pull out! What does he mean by this? Why he keep making jokes about babies? Do he wnt kids secretly? Where is this coming from ?... (53 words)

My bullying ex has made me feel so worthless. How do I cope as a single mum?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

- Ive never felt so low in my life. At the weekend, after another row, I finally decided to end things for good with my ex. We have a 6 month old baby together and I also have a 6 year old son from a previous relationship. Our rows have escalated since our son was born. Things... (796 words)

How does forgiveness start?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2955 days ago

27 September 2016 (M)

age 41-50 - There is so much to be sorry about but my ex has done so much towards me purposely to hurt me. I want to say sorry and just talk but do not want to be together at all. How does this all start? How does forgiveness start?... (47 words)

I can't stop wondering about her

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (M)

age 30-35 - Everything my logical brain thinks of says DO NOT CONTACT HER, yet I still want to know how she's doing. I want to know if she is doing well. Obviously this is about my ex'. Im curious and hoping she's doing well. I can list a number a of reason why I should not contact her ... (85 words)

Why can't he find more time for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - I am dating a divorced man with two children of 12 and 13 he has shared custody with them and it's amicable and settled. I haven't met the children yet as we have only been dating two months but plan to in time and he wants me to. He also works away once or twice a week. I see ... (129 words)

How can I believe him ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 51-59 - My boyfriend of three years has always said that he doesn't get anything from looking at pictures/movies of women (porn, etc). He has also said that he doesn't like fake boobs and that natural big boobs get gross over time. He made a big point of saying all this. He said ... (259 words)

Boyfriend fails on work related questions

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

27 September 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - Please help me understand his thoughts. I can't seem to be able to talk to my boyfriend about work related things. I'm senior management and when talking to my boyfriend about taking on new tasks or training/motivating my team, his one and only response to me is "You're ... (109 words)

Should I back off and forget about him or am I being a bit dramatic?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

26 September 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I really fancy this guy at work, the other girls have been trying to set us up for months but we're both a bit shy so nothing's ever happened. We were out with everyone from work a couple of weeks ago and he told one of the girls he was interested in me but didn't know wha... (120 words)