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writes:So my Boyfriend of 6 months that loves me to death and worships the ground I walk on is constantly on FacebooK. I actually Deactivated my account because of him. I just got tired of constantly seeing him on there...So tonight when he was checking it like he always does I took his phone and Began to read his messages. The first five were from girls and the women were calling him baby and other pet names....I Admit it seem like common conversation but I really got upset because I feel like he should not entertain women?and a few that I know have liked him in the past not to mention he really seemed upset when he snatched his phone back.... He tells me he's not doing anything..Do you think he has something to hide?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 September 2013):
 he loves you to death and worships the ground you walk on...
HOW do you KNOW? because he says so? or because of how he behaves?
just because he SAYS he loves you does not mean it's true.
he SNATCHED his phone away from you? so he has stuff on there he does not want you to see
he has multiple lady friends who call him baby....
He TELLS you he's not doing anything,.... do you believe him?
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (8 September 2013):
 Damn. His words about love are bs. This guy loves attention shamefully not yours. Yea id say theres a fair chance hes hiding something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): "my Boyfriend of 6 months that loves me to death and worships the ground I walk on . . ."How do you know that your boyfriend loves you to death and worships the ground you walk on? Because that's what he tells you? If so, then don't believe what he SAYS, believe what he DOES.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (8 September 2013):
He is disrespecting you. Not the women. You are not in a relationship with them. I would say - have one calm conversation about it with him and tell him you find it upsetting. Ask how he would feel if you were messaging with other men and calling them "baby". My EX used to do this and before i knew why - used to be really protective of his phone. I found out when he left an account open - and sure enough - he was involved in a long distance relationship w someone he never even met (she lived in another country). But there it was - him telling her he wasn't serious about me when she asked him about the "in a relationship" status. He was keeping his options open and enjoying the female attention. Sounds like your guy is doing the same thing. Not a good sign at six months. Sorry. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): His behavior sounds like he is either cheating, will cheat, or thrives on ego boast from other women.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (8 September 2013):
 It's not the women disrespecting you, it's the boyfriend who worships the ground you walk on who is disrespecting you. There's a lot going on here. You've been together for 6 months so things are still new and exciting, and yet you've already deactivated your Facebook account because of him. He's Talking to girls who are calling him baby. You're having a hard time trusting him.
He's being disrespectful to you and to your relationship. I have close male friends and we text each other but my partner had met them, he knows who they are, and they don't call me baby. Same for him. He has female friends but there are no secrets. Your boyfriend it's keeping secrets from you.
He sounds a bit shady but if you want things to work you need to have a serious conversation with him. Don't make any threats that you can't follow through. If he continues to keep secrets and communicate with girls you don't know about, you walk and you don't look back. Otherwise he thinks it's ok and he'll keep doing it.
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reader, 30anddating +, writes (8 September 2013):
30anddating is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have talk to him about this and he says he will erase his page but to me that's not the answer it will always be different sites like FB...... Idk I love so much but I just feel so disrespected by these women.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (8 September 2013):
 If he has nothing to hide then why did he snatch his phone back? I don't care how good of friends they are, other women shouldn't be calling him anything other than what his name is.
I am always on my facebook, checking it and perusing my newsfeed, my fiance might look at his once a month, however I don't talk to other men on my facebook. Have you had a conversation with him about how much his facebooking with other women bothers you?
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