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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I broke up about a week ago. He still things of his at my house we dated for 5 months and 2 weeks. He moved in a month after we started dating. We had taken a break he moved out. A month ago I decided that I wanted to move on so I took his things to his work . 3 days later he texted me telling me he missed ne. He came over and stayed 2 days and we talked and just Hung out he moved back in and things were amazing he was more lovey dovey he cuddled with me and held me while he was at work he would text me and tell me he missed me. He was talking about a future with me and my 2 year old daughter everything was perfect. Until a week ago. We got in a huge fight and he broke things off he said being around me was to emotionally stressing him out because I always wanted to fight about something. Anyway I have started going to counseling to fix myself. Every time I try to talk to him ignores me unless its about him coming to get the remaining of his things. He treats me now as if we never dated like nothing happened between us. Like he never met me and its really hurting me really bad. I've never felt this bad before. He won't talk to me or anything. How cab things go from being perfect to this? Does anyone know why he's acting like this. He has never acted like this.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 September 2013):
 He’s acting like this because he realizes it’s truly over and he wants to put it behind him and the only way to do that is go no contact. Since you are not able to do that till all his stuff is out of your home, he’s doing the next best thing which is acting like you are nothing.
Get his stuff back to him and let him go. I know it hurts but things happen for a reason. Use this as a springboard to work on issues about yourself that you would like to fix.
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reader, R1  +, writes (9 September 2013):
 I'm sure you will get a load if posts saying this but it isn't good for you or your daughter to move a man in after a month...
But we all make mistakes when we are in love :)
You seem very negative towards yourself - I don't like the phrase 'fix yourself', counselling is great and will help you work things through and look at your thought patterns and behaviours but it isn't about fixing you! Your self esteem is low and until you are happy with yourself you will continue to make poor choices when it comes to relationships...
Take your time and you will meet a good man I'm sure
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (9 September 2013):
 It all boils down to too much, too soon - as the anonymous
poster has told you - though in more detail then the way I've put it - but then, I think she did an adequate job of advising you, and I've nothing to add. EXCEPT to say that if you are in counseling, your experience with this man is grist for the mill (in other words, something you should be discussing with the counselor).
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2013): Then things move to heavy to fast and 5 months is too soon to be moving in together they tend to burn out far to quickly , just like how they started .. For the sake of your own sanity and sexual health as well as your daughters emotional attachment .. Take it easy ..Rome wasn't built in a day ., and neither are lasting fast paced relationships .. Now relationships that have firm foundations can overcome spats and disagreements .. Relationships that are built on lust attraction and little knowledge do not .. So let him go ..Concentrate in your daughter for a while .. And furthering your career prospects .. Love will come when it's time .. And next time date at least 8 months before sex and 18months before moving in together .. Respect and value yourself sweetie you have a lot to give .. Keep that pretty chin up . X
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