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writes:Me and my now boyfriend have been friends for years, but we just started dating 3 months ago. I always liked him, just didn't know how to bring it up, and he seemed to really like me so we talked more and more, he told me he would love to be in a relationship, and I agreed.But he's not paid very much attention to me. We live and work in different cities so it's very difficult to see each other often. We text on and off throughout the day, everyday, but he doesn't really seem to make time to do much more than that. We planned on getting together this weekend and he came up with something last minute. When I asked him if we can do it today he said yes but then... something else came up. Last minute.He told me his friends wanted to get together and he hasn't seen one of them in AGES so I understood. But today the excuse was he had to get ready for work tomorrow and I've not heard from him since... Almost seems like he is avoiding me now because he doesn't want to bother traveling to see me. I brought up webcam and there was also an excuse for thatMaybe I'm being selfish... I just want him to pay more attention to me. He is always on my mind but it just doesn't seem like I am that way for him. I mean.. I really actually love this guy. I just wonder if he feels the same for me.I WANT us to grow, not sure if he does. He doesn't seem to be putting much effort in, which is ironic because if my memory serves me right he was the first one to admit his feelings.I just need some advice. Should I give it time and see if we grow? How much time? Or should I just start to accept this isn't going to work... Our relationship is still so new and already communication is lacking. All I want is to be with him and it hurts because I'm not getting that...
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reader, Miss.Cupid +, writes (16 October 2013):
 It seems like in this relationship your the one begging for the attention. what i would suggest you do, not break up with him But stop texting him, or stop bother trying to see him because if he really misses you then he'll be the one to ask you to see each other. and if you dont hear anything from him. then well it all depends on what you want to do. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): He seems to be avoiding you for some reason. What the reason is, that is TBD.My thoughts is that he is not only seeing you right now. It seems like he is DATING you, but your not the only one he is dating. Problem is, he is out of town and not too close to you. He could have met someone and due to their close vicinity, is beginning to become more involved with them. People don't make chronic excuses like that unless they are chronically trying to avoid someone for a reason. So, either he is seeing someone else too, or lost interest in you.My advice: take a few steps back. Stop texting him - let him contact you instead - and show less enthusiasm when you speak to him. Sound disinterested. If he backs off too, you have your answer. Otherwise, he will make the attempt to "fill the gap" that you left by taking a few steps back.Oh, and go out to a bar with your girlfriends and hit on dudes. Stop worrying about this schmuck and let some guy get you drunk for free. ;)
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