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writes:I'm a University Student, and I'm taking English Literature as my Major.I meet with a beautiful classmate on my first day. (Let's call her Alice.) During our class, our Professor asks the class which writers have stood out from today's writers, and a fellow student answered "William Shakespeare". When class concluded, we have been told that our assignment was to find a great piece of Literature that should be shared with everyone. At this point in time, I'm free to go to the cafeteria, and I tell Alice that that is where I am heading. She tells me she'll just go to the restroom first, and she'll join me later.After I arrive at the cafeteria, she already found a table, and reserved a seat for me. After I got my lunch, I sat down with Alice, so I could get to know her a bit better. As an ice breaker, I mentionned the answer in class, and Alice told me that while she thought it was a great answer to the Professor's inquiry, she would have chosen Brian Jacques, as his Redwall stories have been a very important part of her childhood. As you can probably imagine, I am feeling excited, as I've watched the animated series when I was little.I asked Alice if she liked impressions, and she told me that it depends on what I'd imitate. I told her I would do a few impressions of Stonefleck, an antagonist of the Redwall series. Alice then says, "Ok. Let's hear some."I immediately imitated Stonefleck saying, "It's that otter.... he's eating those killer fish like a pig, going at acorns!" (Here's a link to how the actual quote sounds like: http://youtu.be/kRdurGfBi5E?t=7m12s )As I finished, Alice told me I was a natural, and that we should get together to read some Redwall books alone for the assignment. I accepted her request. Then, she asked me to do a Cluny the Scourge impression. I guess she wanted to see how much I knew.Anyways, I imitate Cluny saying, "Prepare, if you can, Redwall.... Cluny's coming, and no mouse, alive, or otherwise, is going to stop him!" (Link to quote: http://youtu.be/3FuTovNZL7g?t=3m50s )Alice then looked at me in a way that I felt was a sign that she wanted to get a bit closer to me. Well, on some emotional level, anyway.For the remainder of our free time, we spoke about how today's entertainment would be a lot better if the writers were more like William Shakespeare or Brian Jacques. At this point, Alice asked me if I had a girlfriend. I told her I didn't. She seemed to be a bit surprised when I told her that.She then said, "I hope if we need to do some plays, that we get to be Matthias and Cornflower." As a fanatic of Redwall, I know the pair of characters she mentionned is a couple. It feels as though she's giving me a strong message. However, I don't want to misinterpret anything, though. Could what she said be just for how much I know? Or, is it safe to assume that a bit more small talk might make myself and Alice more than friends? I appreciate your answers, as I wouldn't want either one of us to potentially get hurt by mixed signals. (If any.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2013): I think she wants to know if you fancy her so tell her what you feel like.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 September 2013):
 I agree with CMMP... do not ask her what she wants in terms of pace.
just ask her to do things... just relax and be yourself...
don't force it and don't read into things... go with the flow...
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reader, CMMP +, writes (9 September 2013):
Don't ask her "at what pace she'd feel comfortable going", stop being afraid of scaring her, because confidence is very important, so if she sees you questioning everything you do, THAT will scare her off.
Just go at the pace that feels natural. Don't rush things, don't spill your guts out too soon, don't ask her if she'd be okay with everything, just use your instincts and your CONFIDENCE (since she's already given you reason to be confident that she likes you).
In my experience, women like it when a guy knows what he is doing. So, don't ask her what she wants for dinner/what she wants to do on a date/etc. Just take her out and show her a good time. Be assured that if she likes you she'll be happy with whatever you come up with as long as you put a little thought into it.
The first date, depending on the signals she gives you, maybe just give her a nice kiss on the cheek while you put your arms around her. See how she responds... But you shouldn't rush into bed.
Find something creative to do, something that's fun, but allows you two to get to know each other better. Depending on where you live there may be a number of things that'd be perfect. Google it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk. Seems to me that she may want to take things to a deeper level than friendship. However, I guess I'll have to ask her what pace she's comfortable with going, as I don't want her to feel rushed into a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): Go for it! The force is strong in this one.
Generally if everything played out as you said then the next step is clear. It almost seems to me that the two of you are together.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 September 2013):
 When I met my current G/F we, too, sat down and discussed what couple we most matched. She said "Rhett Butler and Scarlett O'Hara....".... and asked me what couple I thought we did, or could, match....
I told her I viewed her as Emma Bovary, with me as Rodolphe Boulanger. So far, it's working....
Good luck....
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reader, CMMP +, writes (8 September 2013):
Okay, it's time to stop being afraid of "potentially getting hurt by mixed signals" and to start making this more than a friendship. If you don't you risk getting stuck in the friend zone.
Ask her if she'd like to go out on a date. Don't word it like that, though. Make it something simple (not a movie) that makes it obvious you like her but doesn't put too much pressure on you guys like a romantic dinner at a fancy restaurant would. Save that for later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCool! I was beginning to worry that the impressions would be viewed as immature, as I've been told by one of my exes that imitations are considered rude, impolite, and immature. I guess everyone has a different viewpoint of imitations.
So, if I am to have a wonderful bond with Alice, how should I proceed? I wouldn't want to do anything that might creep her out.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (8 September 2013):
 Do you know how much guys wish they had that day? It was a lunch date and it went by so smoothly, effortlessly and she was showing she likes you. No one knows what the future holds but one day you would look back and agree that it was a fantastic day.
I think from now on anything you do can't go wrong. You can do more impressions and at the same time you can talk about general life, get to know her personality more outside of English literature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust a quick additional detail, she never looks at her cellphone while we talk. The only time she looked at her cellphone was when I asked her what the time was, so I could get ready to go to the next class.
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