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26-29,
*kyscraper16
writes:I don't know how to start but this is my problem.I have a crush on my teacher and I know it's really creepy. (I don't want to but it just happened). Our age gap is seven years. And if you categorize me to stereotypes, I belong at Emo kids, (those who wear black? Dapressed humanoids)Last year, he's our adviser but at that time I don't really like him. I find him annoying, really annoying, and I don't know why. Every girl in the room likes him and flirting him beause they say he's cute and he looks like a teenager like us. In my mind, they don't respect him like a teacher and ew disgusting why would they like an older person than them for about 7 years?? Time passed and I don't know why he's entering my mind, it's not really a big deal for me so I just ignored it.Then after that, a day came that I really looked at him straight at the eye, Was I angry with him or what? Everything he does annoys me. (Well it must be not! I'm really freaking!) One time it was exam, when he's our proctor and then suddenly I have the urge of impressing him, I wanna stare at him. Omg. Another thing. I saw his test and the reading comprehesion stated details that are my bioblurb at a certain site. Is he stalking me? (I know I'm too assuming, but no!!) Now, currently, I just found out that I have a crush on my teacher. If I see him passes by, or if I pass by, when I see him, I'm becoming nervous, my heartbeat increases. I even memorized his phone number, and stalked at his profile at fb.The thing is, when we see each other I feel so awkard. I think he's faking his smile when he sees me unlike to my other classmates. I feel that there's an awkwardness between us. Does he know I have a crush on him? Or in what instances can I stop loving him?
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reader, franny1297  +, writes (30 September 2013):
 Lol, don't worry and chill. I've been in your situation before many times, it's sort of fun in a way. You DON'T love him, it's just a crush, no matter how strong you think it is, if you can't state on reason you like or that's good about him then you don't love him. I'm that type of person that blushes beetroot red, shivers, gets nervous, becomes shy and looks down when I have a crush on someone, even teachers, so you can guess how embarrassing that is. You clearly (hopefully) don't want your teacher to know your crush on him, because that would be even more awkward. Teachers are very smart people and they are fully aware of the students that have crushes on them. Instead of viewing them as a crush, view them as a role model. Here are some past questions that I asked dear cupid, read the answers too:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-a-teacher-know-when-a-student-has.htmlhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/its-added-to-my-anxiety-my-favourite-teacher.htmldon't read to much into this crush, have your fantasies and crush, but don't let it become reality. don't do anything that will embarrass anyone and yourself, don't tell ANYONE about your crush; what goes round, comes round. Many people who have crushes on teachers will tend to become more attracted to people in authority in the future e.g., politicians, policemen, lawyers. Good luck and be safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2013): You're a young girl experiencing a crush. That's all it is.
You're maturing and that makes you notice guys more than you used to. If he is an attractive man, that will catch your attention; and can trigger your attraction to him. Nothing to freak out about.
If he was looking up your bioblurb; I do find that disturbing. I can't image any reason he would be spying on social media about a student; while still in the classroom. He may be monitoring all his students, to determine if they have any psychological issues. Teachers sometimes followup on rumors of cyber-bulling.
Under no circumstance should you respond to any communication from him outside of the classroom.
Stalking is creepy for either of you. More so, in his case.
Don't ever call him or communicate with him outside the classroom, or he could be fired. You're just going through a phase in your development.
It's common in your age-group to crush on older attractive people. It only becomes a problem when you cross boundaries that you know aren't appropriate. Don't confuse fantasy with reality. There will be nothing happening in any meaningful way between you.
You will most certainly come across as a creepy and disturbed girl; if you try contacting your teacher to discuss your feelings. So please keep them to yourself. They will fade away over time. You're not in love.
Forget the phone number. You'll do something foolish and embarrass yourself; or you could get into trouble. He may not appreciate being contacted away from the classroom by his students. If he has a girlfriend, fiance', or a wife,
she may trace any calls; and contact your parents, or the school.
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